How do you handle an extremely intoxicated provider?

[hedgeman]

This.........

If she was so drunk that you walked I wouldn't have felt the need to leave anything.

 

[VanessaofBC]

When a loser shows up drunk or high we are usually thinking of the best way to get them out with the least amount of headache. Then we put your number in the blacklist. Hope that helps.

 

[MissRed]

Thanks for all the replies. It has really helped me deal with this unfortunate situation. (and feel less pissed-off at her) I just want to clarify some of the circumstances surrounding the non-event.

1) She was wasted when I walked in - she drank none of what I brought - I had one glass, got really uncomfortable and left (I read later on another board that she had a major duo party with another client right before me)
2) I have seen this lady (almost exclusively) for almost 9 years so she knew that she was very safe with me (this is also why I will not be posting a review - this was a one-time misstep on her part) Maybe this is why I felt compelled to leave her something?
3) She was not passed-out and she could still walk - she was just slobbering drunk. I could tell that she was aware enough of her condition to not drink any of the champagne I brought, plus, her duo partner lives right around the corner and that's where she was headed so I was pretty sure that she was physically safe.

I dragged an apology out of her the next day (I had to email her to get her to say sorry) but there was no mention of the money or making it up to me so it's her loss... It may seem naive but I think that there is still room for personal character in this industry. I got at glimpse into her character that day - now she has one less client. I will reread the posts in this thread anytime I feel weak and think of calling her again!!!

Now I feel really foolish. If this ever happens again I'll know "no play - no pay".

I really respect the fact that you never mentioned her name. I don't think that you needed to leave a donation. There was no service provided. If this was her only slip up after 9 years, then I hope that you will give her another chance. Nobody is perfect.... we all make mistakes. That is if she apologizes. She owes you an apology for her behavior.

I don't think you should feel foolish either. Live and learn. That's all any of us can do.

 

[MissRed]

Thanks for all the replies. It has really helped me deal with this unfortunate situation. (and feel less pissed-off at her) I just want to clarify some of the circumstances surrounding the non-event.

1) She was wasted when I walked in - she drank none of what I brought - I had one glass, got really uncomfortable and left (I read later on another board that she had a major duo party with another client right before me)
2) I have seen this lady (almost exclusively) for almost 9 years so she knew that she was very safe with me (this is also why I will not be posting a review - this was a one-time misstep on her part) Maybe this is why I felt compelled to leave her something?
3) She was not passed-out and she could still walk - she was just slobbering drunk. I could tell that she was aware enough of her condition to not drink any of the champagne I brought, plus, her duo partner lives right around the corner and that's where she was headed so I was pretty sure that she was physically safe.

I dragged an apology out of her the next day (I had to email her to get her to say sorry) but there was no mention of the money or making it up to me so it's her loss... It may seem naive but I think that there is still room for personal character in this industry. I got at glimpse into her character that day - now she has one less client. I will reread the posts in this thread anytime I feel weak and think of calling her again!!!

Now I feel really foolish. If this ever happens again I'll know "no play - no pay".

I really respect the fact that you never mentioned her name. I don't think that you needed to leave a donation. There was no service provided. If this was her only slip up after 9 years, then I hope that you will give her another chance. Nobody is perfect.... we all make mistakes. That is if she apologizes. She owes you an apology for her behavior. Not a forced apology via you emailing her, either. That's crap! A real and sincere one.

I don't think you should feel foolish either. Live and learn. That's all any of us can do.

 

[VanessaofBC]

I really respect the fact that you never mentioned her name. I don't think that you needed to leave a donation. There was no service provided. If this was her only slip up after 9 years, then I hope that you will give her another chance. Nobody is perfect.... we all make mistakes. That is if she apologizes. She owes you an apology for her behavior. Not a forced apology via you emailing her, either. That's crap! A real and sincere one.

I don't think you should feel foolish either. Live and learn. That's all any of us can do.

No kidding, the way he is describing it, it sounds like an advertiser here.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

if she was a 9 year almost exclusive favourite, i don't know why we are even reading about it

 

[Real Sonny Burnett]

You roll her out of bed and fuck her on the floor then leave whatever $ you figured it was worth.

If this is wrong, then I don't want to be right.

 

[sevenofnine]

To take a different point on this.

You have seen her for nine years exclusively.
So give her a break.

Leave her the money or not, I would. Force an apology out of her.
Not.


Does one have to apologize for being human.

Seriously I have been steady with two sp.s
And at some point your going to have a bad session.
All I ever did was say thank you and see you next week same time same bat channel.

Its life.
No one is perfect.

If this is the only thing wrong in nine years count yourself lucky.

 

[Miss*Bijou]

if she was a 9 year almost exclusive favourite, i don't know why we are even reading about it

Because she didn't apologize.

I understand why he would be a bit mad when it happened. I don't think she should have accepted any money. Or she should have told him she'd make it up to him next time. And she definitely should have apologized. But if he's been seeing her for 9 years and this is the first time something like this happens, it's safe to say this is unusual so I'd just let it go. Maybe she's thinking he knows he well enough after 9 years to know she doesn't pull this kind of thing usually..

It sucks but I wouldn't write her off completely...unless he's still going to be mad at her..

You know, Miss Bijou, 90 seconds is a small price to pay for a principle...

LOL I know, last night I kept going to a different tab, then forgetting about it until I'd end up on that tab again ...and then I remember and posted.. so much for 90seconds later, I think my posts were like 20minutes apart. LOL

 

[bhave]

Quick update: I have been in contact with her and it turns out that she is really, really, really embarrassed and feels terrible about the whole thing. So much so that it is doubtful that she will see me again. I didn't see that one coming. Life and it's many twists and turns....

Once again, thank you all for the thoughtful replies. They were very helpful in giving me a broader perspective on the situation. I wasn't sure how this question would be received. Thanks for not attacking me! I was originally asking about leaving the money but that doesn't seem important anymore so let's just let this thread die.

Thanks again!

 

[sevenofnine]

Is the money even important,

I mean you have been in this hobby for nine years. Like me the amount of money that flows through your fingers,
one session, like is nothing compared to what you have given her for nine years.

Something goes wrong the last thing I worry about is the money on the table.
Is she ok, can I help, is it me that is the problem,
where do we go from here,
am I making the situation better or worse.

the money on the table for one session after nine years, is the last thing to worry about.

 

[Jessica James]

Sometimes when someone is in the middle of doing something remarkable it looks a bit fucked up to those watching . I knew if she captured your interest for 9 years she's got a lot of remarkable in her . We only get better . I believe this 1oo%

 

[Cock Throppled]

You roll her out of bed and fuck her on the floor then leave whatever $ you figured it was worth.

I know you're only joking, but technically I think that could still be considered rape, since no consent could be given.

Payment after the fact would muddy the waters, but ethically hopefully not what most guys would do.

 

[badbadboy]

I know you're only joking, but technically I think that could still be considered rape, since no consent could be given.

Payment after the fact would muddy the waters, but ethically hopefully not what most guys would do.

CT pretty sure it was tongue in cheek too but I definitely agree with you. I sort of cringed when I first read it but given Hatrick's posts I knew it was humour to lighten the mood of this thread.

 

[papillion]

Quick update: I have been in contact with her and it turns out that she is really, really, really embarrassed and feels terrible about the whole thing. So much so that it is doubtful that she will see me again. I didn't see that one coming. Life and it's many twists and turns....

Once again, thank you all for the thoughtful replies. They were very helpful in giving me a broader perspective on the situation. I wasn't sure how this question would be received. Thanks for not attacking me! I was originally asking about leaving the money but that doesn't seem important anymore so let's just let this thread die.

Thanks again!

Dude, the ball is now in your court. If you want to continue with her, you'll have to forgive her and let her know it's in the past. If you think you're better of getting a new regular girl then better start look