How do you decline politely?

[Ticketyboo]

I don't know if this topic has been posted before but I want to know what you guys do when the door opens and you see someone.... less than appealing.

A lot of providers refuse to give pictures and most just post fake ones so is it really impolite to walk away?

 

[FortunateOne]

It may be impolite to make a big loud deal about it, but just to say "Sorry, I've changed my mind" is no problem. You don't have to say why, & you don't have to be rude. (Assuming incall).

 

[lewis1079]

ditto....it's happened to me as well! Some guys leave a $20 for the lost appointment.

It may be impolite to make a big loud deal about it, but just to say "Sorry, I've changed my mind" is no problem. You don't have to say why, & you don't have to be rude. (Assuming incall).

 

[oppai]

NEver turned and ran myself, but I do my research first and will never see an SP who hasn't shown pics that are authenticated.

That being said, I would leave a tip or a portion of the payment depending on what the set-up is. You have basically put the girl out of whatever the time of your appointment is in income as she could have seen someone else. I'd say if it was an advance set-up (ie, more than half a day prior) then you should pay half to the full amount minus a tip. But if you are gonna do that you may as well brave a session! Or, try and find something attractive about the person.

 

[Bobo The Rabbit]

If she is not as advertised and you have yet to do anything, jus say "I left the cash in my car and will be back" then leave.

You owe her nothing if she lied about her apperance.

 

[SFMIKE]

If she is not as advertised and you have yet to do anything, jus say "I left the cash in my car and will be back" then leave.

You owe her nothing if she lied about her apperance.

Why lie about leaving cash in the car or making any lame excuse? If she has posted a picture and she does not match it, tell her you are here to see the girl in the picture. You owe nothing at all; in fact, it is she who has wasted your time.

 

[FortunateOne]

Why lie about leaving cash in the car or making any lame excuse? If she has posted a picture and she does not match it, tell her you are here to see the girl in the picture. You owe nothing at all; in fact, it is she who has wasted your time.

Totally. The cash in car/bank machine is so lame. Whether as advertised or not, it costs nothing just to be up front about changing your mind. She could be exactly as described, and obviously her in the pics, but you could still not be attracted enough or comfortable enough to stay. Just be a grown up and own up lol.

 

[Ticketyboo]

At the beginning of a booking I always give the gentleman an out. I ask "are you comfortable and would you like to stay?" If at that point the gentleman says yes, I confirm the length of time and donation. If not, he is always free to leave. (with NO money paid) I think that is maybe what we should all do. We are providing a service and should be expected to be what the gentleman wants and is looking for. Like when I go to the Keg for dinner and my steak comes cooked incorrectly, I am not expected to pay for what I did not order.

Get it?

Michelle

WoW I wish everyone was like you, I'm sure there would be more people Taking OFTT

 

[simplycurious]

Oppai has good intentions (and is a gentleman) and I would do the same if I am booking with someone reputable in advance.

However, with many last minute bookings and craigslist advertisers I am finally getting comfortable with walking out if I am not happy with what I see. I used to TOFTT and feel miserable and ripped off about it. I then started to tip a 20 and politely decline services. Now I politely say sorry, "you're not what I was expecting" and leave.

I think turning around and leaving is good for the smaller incall places. I don't expect real pictures but at least something that is slightly representative or at least within 5 years of the advertised age would be nice. Yes, by walking out one would waste the SP's time, but they should also take into consideration that pooners can spend an hour in travel, take time off work/families/friends, pay for parking etc. as well.

The Keg example is good. If I order a steak and its not made to my liking I might politely say something. However, if I went to the Keg and all they had on the menu was Tofu WTF should I have to stay, order, eat it and pay for it?
What a complete waste of my time.

 

[necko]

How does the more refined sp politely decline the customer(too fat, too old bad manners) without causing a big stink?

 

[Ticketyboo]

How does the more refined sp politely decline the customer(too fat, too old bad manners) without causing a big stink?

"I have a headache honey"

Now that's girlfriend experience!

 

[simplycurious]

Outside of poor personal hygiene issues I don't think a SP really should be declining customers. They have chosen a profession to provide a service and discriminating against race, age, weight and looks would be very unprofessional.

I would totally understand if a SP declined if they felt threatened or if there really was an issue with drugs, alcohol, STD's or BO. However, some pooners might have to resort to pooning because they just can't seem to get any the regular way. If they were to be turned down by a paid SP as well that would be a total blow to one's ego.

Back to the steak analogy. If anyone walked into the Keg they should be treated with respect as a paying customer unless they walked in with no shirt and/or no shoes.

 

[FortunateOne]

It's a common assumption among younger clients that sps would not see guys without model good looks given the choice. They don't require pics when booking appts after all, so it takes a lot more than a nice ass to get thru the door to a see any sp. I think far more younger guys get rejected sight unseen due to arrogance, crudeness or general obnoxiousness.

 

[Ticketyboo]

The way I see it, it is more of a trade of money for service as opposed to buying a service.

As such I suppose the provider should also get to choose who to trade with. While I am sure a more attractive client is prefered most providers are probably willing to sacrafice a little for the sake of business.

I guess I sort of answered my own question about how to refuse. Maybe next time I see a hot sp I should ask her if shes okay with me.

 

[michellePM]

"I have a headache honey"

Now that's girlfriend experience!

The true GFE... take all of your money and sleep with your best friend!

 

[BCSTRICKER]

I would leave a 20 dollar tip and leave....

 

[chuckanut]

i've walked before. not many times, but i have. i just said i've changed my mind and left. if u falsely advertised, i see no reason to leave a tip.

-chuck
**retired**

 

[sonoman]

I would leave a 20 dollar tip and leave....

I've done the same (just not as cheap. ).