How do you deal with the awkwardness of walking out of massage places if you don't choose anyone?

purpleelephant

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See in massage parlours in Asia or those windows places in Amsterdam you could see đź‘€ the girls through the windows before committing to it or walking in. But here in Vancouver all places are blocked off so you can't see the inside you have to walk in and the mamasan leads you to a room and shows you the girls and pretty much forces you to choose one. Now I'm not saying there aren't pretty girls I've been with plenty but there is always the chance that out of the 4 or 5 or more girls none of them fit your taste and you have to walk out. This is so awkward to do and you feel like the guiltiest person when you do that I get traumatized every time that happens to the point I'm reluctant to try out new places or wait for a very long time before going back to the same place I walked out on. Some mamasans will say something nasty when you do this others are cool with it but it still makes you feel bad. Is there no way to overcome this? If you call and want hot and sexy they'll say all girls are hot and sexy and come and take a look. I wish it was the same as in Asia where you are the observer and they are the observed you can see them without having to walk into the store. How do you guys overcome this to choose the best possible experience for yourself while not seeming rude to walk out and not choose anyone?
 

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It has never been a problem for me. If I don't see the food, clothes, shoes, car or woman I like, I leave.
 

masterpoonhunter

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Guilt
Who the hell created that and instilled it into so much of the culture.
It gets used by so many to control things.
Yeah I know, organized religion of which my opinions have been stated many times.
As the rest of the posters have said, if you don't see what you want, don't buy it. No "guilt" involved.
 

oldshark

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Usually it is not a problem to see a line-up unless you come by 4 or 5 times a week for a period of time and still don't select anyone. Yah, that actually happens. Some guys don't have the money at all, but want to have a bit of titillation. At that point, for sure, the mamasan starts giving you shit because you are wasting everyone's time. But normally, the better places will understand that you didn't see anyone you wanted to be with.
 

HunkyBill

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It has never been a problem for me. If I don't see the food, clothes, shoes, car or woman I like, I leave.
That's cold, man.

Can't compare a human to an inanimate object especially when sh'e's usually not in this profession by choice.
 

lailasworld

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See in massage parlours in Asia or those windows places in Amsterdam you could see đź‘€ the girls through the windows before committing to it or walking in. But here in Vancouver all places are blocked off so you can't see the inside you have to walk in and the mamasan leads you to a room and shows you the girls and pretty much forces you to choose one. Now I'm not saying there aren't pretty girls I've been with plenty but there is always the chance that out of the 4 or 5 or more girls none of them fit your taste and you have to walk out. This is so awkward to do and you feel like the guiltiest person when you do that I get traumatized every time that happens to the point I'm reluctant to try out new places or wait for a very long time before going back to the same place I walked out on. Some mamasans will say something nasty when you do this others are cool with it but it still makes you feel bad. Is there no way to overcome this? If you call and want hot and sexy they'll say all girls are hot and sexy and come and take a look. I wish it was the same as in Asia where you are the observer and they are the observed you can see them without having to walk into the store. How do you guys overcome this to choose the best possible experience for yourself while not seeming rude to walk out and not choose anyone?
From an SP’s POV, we literally couldn’t care less, we all get our turn eventually. Majority of us are desensitized to not being picked. It’s not rude at all if you can’t find what you’re fantasizing about, it’s your money and your time.
I would suggest you say you forgot your cash in the car and just not come back. Orrrr thank the Mamasan for their time and that you’ll come again another day.
Remind yourself that literally no one in the building cares if you say no. Do this a few times and you’ll be just as desensitized as us lol (I mean this in an empowering way, it reads kind of loser-y).
 

YYC

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From an SP’s POV, we literally couldn’t care less, we all get our turn eventually. Majority of us are desensitized to not being picked. It’s not rude at all if you can’t find what you’re fantasizing about, it’s your money and your time.
I would suggest you say you forgot your cash in the car and just not come back. Orrrr thank the Mamasan for their time and that you’ll come again another day.
Remind yourself that literally no one in the building cares if you say no. Do this a few times and you’ll be just as desensitized as us lol (I mean this in an empowering way, it reads kind of loser-y).
I think we feel guilty because the women are human and we feel like we're rejecting them as humans. But here's proof that it's not a rejection of them as humans, and that we're just an economic opportunity. We should get over it as quickly as the ladies get over it.
 

masterpoonhunter

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It could be worse.

You could walk out the front door and run into your boss, your pastor, your mistress and your wife.
Sound like the start of a joke ...
 
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