How did you get over the nerves of making your first booking?

[Bde]

Fear is a motherfucker. I'm not generally one to get scared or taken down by nerves and can [almost] always keep my shit locked down in high stress situations; buuuuut I hate to admit that reaching out and making my first booking is playing games in my head. I can't help but fear anxiety will get the best of me. Like what if I over think this and can't stay hard? What if I can't cum? What if I can't voice what I want to experience because I am so caught up in worrying about someone's enjoyment?
That last one is pretty fucking huge because I generally keep my wants and needs quiet when it comes to anything that could be thought of as onesided and pleasurable to only me. Shit it's why I've never said out loud to a partner how fucking hot I think handjobs are or ever asked for a blowjob; even during those times when I've been dying/fantasizing about getting one.

I'm sure there are paragraphs upon paragraphs I could write and slide further down this rabbit hole, but I'm sure my point has been made enough already. Soooo again, how did you get over your nerves?
Was it a non-issue for you or did you struggle?

 

[Chacha]

For myself, it was nerve racking. There were many factors such as yourself that freaked me out.

My 1st Sp was Surrey’s Jewel. I did my research and found a provider that was known for professionalism, understanding and above all great service. I informed her that she was to be my 1st experience and she guided me through a memorable time.

Do your homework, be upfront and respectful to the provider that it is your initial time with someone in this industry. The rest will fall into place.

 

[Skyler Mack]

You got this. Think like your handle! 😉

 

[Newb808]

The only way you can actually get over your trepidation is to make a plan and follow through with it. I lurked on here for over a year with little, yet precipitating interest in making a booking. I only really wanted to go through with it after a fleeting exchange with a masseuse/touter I had walked by and then bumped into face to face away from the spa later the same day in Cancun. It hit me like a ton of bricks, 2000 pesos or whatever and this can happen in a safe place where it’s legal with this beautiful-vibrant young woman and, this was quite important to me at the time, the likelihood of the transgression catching up with me was basically zero. Went back to the spa twice and she wasn’t there nor was there anyone I was interested in. I returned to Canada with an elevated interest in the scene here but it wasn’t till two trips later that I ended up going to a full service spa in Mexico. Wasn’t that into it or attracted to the masseuse (again I had been keen on a lady earlier in the day to return later when she was off)ended up with but the ice was broken. Skip ahead a few more trips in a year and I finally started up back home. Parking a few blocks away, headphones in, different props to blend in with condo dwellers—did it all plus more lol. I started here with value and safety/no drama or drugs more in mind but if I could do it again, I’d drop the value caveat. I recommend to reach out to a reputable provider and make your concerns known, without it turning into a lengthy fruitless(specifically for her) discussion of course, and just use your best judgment.
Good luck and don’t drag it on for three years like me 🤣

 

[Amerix]

Call a known hottie with decent reviews.

The worst thing that's going to happen is you spend a bunch of money and aren't completely thrilled with the experience. They won't even care if you can't get it up or can't cum (and trust me if you're at all functional that isn't actually going to be a problem), and they're there to make you happy, not get taken care of themselves.

The best thing that might happen is you're going to have some good or even great sex with a beautiful woman and if it's important to you you'll likely even give them a decent time too.

Having said all that, I still get nervous when I go to see someone new for the first time. But it's usually great. And when it isn't, it's still not all that bad. It sure doesn't compare to picking up a random SW back in the day and having no idea how it was going to turn out.

 

[Wakeup]

Same as above.

 

[masterpoonhunter]

You're going into a situation where you are going to have sex. the Wild Thing. Getting laid!! Don't fear this. Embrace it! Go in hot and heavy. Here that old saying go BIG or go home applies. And yea fear is very much a MOFO. Use those nerves like performance anxiety, get your adrenaline going. Visualize having fucking awesome sex with this incredibly hot woman you are about to enjoy.

My advice is as soon as the service is settled get your mouth on those gorgeous nipples, work down to taste that hot vag, if she hasn't got hold of your unit, guide a hand there get her to work your balls, then. Get a cover on that thing and fuck like a bunny. Then do it again. Because you are one Studly Stud and you deserve it.

So all that aside, you are paying for a sexual encounter. One of the things I say when I am with a new SP, is how about we enjoy each other. Tell her you are very sensual (highly sexed) ask if she is OK with 2x, make sure you know what she does not want you to do. Then enjoy. That high sex drive will take over and you will be just fine and you'll be looking forward to the next and the next and the next ...

Happy Pooning!!

 

[happycanuck99]

I think the best advice, by far, is to find a good, professional lady like the ones that advertise here. I'm 99% certain most of them will put you completely at ease as soon as you make contact (assuming you do so respectfully). And be honest. Don't pretend to be something you're not.

Also, try to be careful about wasting the lady's time. This one is always difficult for me, at least in part because I overthink, so the setup takes more back-and-forth messages than it should. This is a tricky one, but with some practice you'll get the hang of it.

Finally, if you struggle to approach any of the ladies directly, there are a couple of good intermediaries (thinking of two I've had experience with: 6456 and VME) that can help out by making recommendations.

Good luck!!!

(Also, feel free to PM me if you'd like any more help. )

 

[wetnose]

Don't overthink it. Hobbying...well, it's a hobby. Do you get nervous when you strap on your basketball shoes or dust off your camera?

Just take it as it comes. (pun intended)

 

[Sterling8700]

For me I made a booking with two girls and took a friend of mine. Made it all a lot easier.

 

[sybian]

Go buy a set of cowboy boots, pull your hat down tight, and grab a handful of mane.....

 

[blakealridge]

If you asked super nicely I might do a social only with the option to extend if you want to...then we can break the ice and you can decide if you want to take it further.

 

[vanperb]

I'm sure there are paragraphs upon paragraphs I could write and slide further down this rabbit hole, but I'm sure my point has been made enough already. Soooo again, how did you get over your nerves?
Was it a non-issue for you or did you struggle?

I'm going to be the contrary voice here. Really consider if you want to do this. Once this door is open, it's very hard to close, and it will alter your perception on sex and intimacy. Maybe for the better, maybe for the worse. Giving this up is harder than you might think.

If you know you have an addictive personality, or know that you can be needy emotionally, I suggest you get that sorted out first. Therapy, meditation, whatever. Get that sorted out first.

Then consider if this a one time thing (a fantasy you need to fulfill), or potentially something you'll want to keep going for whatever reason. This is as much a financial and lifestyle decision as anything, and setting up rough parameters of what might be ahead of you.

Lastly, if this isn't a one time fantasy fulfillment, do NOT spend money on a $400+ provider or multiple hours. It doesn't matter if you can afford it easily or not. You won't really be able to enjoy the time the way it deserves to be spent. I highly suggest choosing to spend some time with 6456 Club or 1122 Agency first. Learn the patterns, expectations, manners, and just get comfortable enough with the entire "process" to start really enjoying time with an escort. Then start thinking about the specific things you want to experience.

 

[sps000]

Breath, don't think too much, let your body do the job
Relaxed and chill

 

[Bde]

If you asked super nicely I might do a social only with the option to extend if you want to...then we can break the ice and you can decide if you want to take it further.

If only you were on the island I might just take you up on that 😊

Also thanks for all the replies and input from everyone. Overthinking is my hobby and even if logically it made sense feeling all dem nerves is normal, it's comforting to have that validated.

 

[Andrew69913]

Those nerves are most definitely normal lol. Many of your worries sound very familiar to me. My first experience was a nightmare with the first SP I found on the local sites with little to no homework. It wasn't really great haha. Even now, after a little bit more experience those fears are still there, but I find it helps if I just focus on the experience as a whole and go with the flow. If I worry about whether or not I will be able to maintain an erection to completion or not, then chances are that's exactly what's going to happen lol. It's happened a few times, and I've just stopped worrying about it. Sure it's a little bit disappointing, but there's not much I can do about it. I guess what I'm saying is once you've done your homework and chosen someone that interests you, take your time and focus on the journey and not the end goal if you get my drift lol. Don't be too hard on yourself if it doesn't go your way....it happens to all of us for any number of reasons. In the mean time, you will get to spend a little time with a beautiful lady. Like you, I'm not very forward when it comes to initiating, so don't worry about that either. If you pick a reputable provider they usually take care of those details. All you need to do is show up on time, clean, respectful, maybe a smile if you can manage Good Luck!!

 

[masterpoonhunter]

So Bde, as soon as you have that first super encounter now that you have the collective wisdom of the perb community and know that we are all behind you saying Go Bde, Go brother!
We want a report.

 

[Bridge]

Act as if you were a POW in the "Great Escape." The bonus is that you can hum the tune and feel like Steve Macqueen did.