Hookup apps, do they work here?

[joho]

Good advice!

I was on Secret benefits for a year and a waist of time.
Here are the reasons
Many girls will answer your first few emails
Then they leave the site after a few days
I finally chatted with a few girls see below about email, and ask why do you leave so quickly and they said to many weird men
So I posted an ad as a girl to see what would happen and holly shit weird men or what
Here’s some examples of the first email, and no introduction just a one liner
Do you do anal
I want to have sex tonight
I have a big boat let’s go for a ride
Not even an introduction
And on and on.
Next back to being a guy
I would get a lot of messages from women in Seattle
I complained to management about fake ads and of course they swore no fake ads.
So I am off the site now only met three girls in a year.
One wanted money and wanted sex, so that was good!the other two were, my mother told me not to have sex before marriage.
Really then why are we chatting!
There were lots of girls as mentioned in another post who want you to send money
One girl said $50 for coffee. WTF
So secret benefits is a big no
The only trick I learned is to send your email or text me app phone number in the first email
Then you can keep chatting when they leave the site.
I noticed before I left the site it used to say when they were last online, for example a day ago or a week ago and so on,
The site no longer says when the girls were last online unless you have texted them before.
So another trick watch the site and see how often the girls are online
Maybe the first four or five have been online in the last few days

 

[maniacalone]

Maybe this is the wrong crowd to ask about alternatives to pooning, but eh, who else am I gonna ask :heh:

I've noticed that, using Tinder in Vancouver, it's really rare to run into a girl's profile that actually seems like the girl made it to search for hook-ups. More often than not, the profile will explicitly say "no hookups, ltr only!" or something similar. (Which, I mean, it's Tinder! Are they crazy?)

I've visited other countries, and it's really different pretty much anywhere else. You'll easily find quite a few "female lotharios" in any dating/hookup app who are very up-front on their profiles about wanting nothing more than a quick lay. Now, whether you can actually match with them/get their attention/etc. is, of course, another story. But here, I don't even see them!

Is this just the way it is with Vancouver's hookup "market", or am I just using the wrong app/service/site? There are, of course, ladies who like casual sex in any place, just like there are dudes who like casual sex in any place. Are they just... doing something else to find it here? Because it sure doesn't seem like they're looking online.

I suspect as word of mouth spread on the existence of LL to hookup, it spread the same for women to get their hookup needs met and still pocket a few hundred while doing so. Why give it away for free, when they can still collect some extra cash too.

 

[Miss Hunter]

When all a woman wants is dick, she can easily order it off amazon.

 

[greythings20]

At first, I swiped the girls I was interested in and I got like a match about once a week, but rarely would I get a response.

Not getting matches can be a problem, sure.

I was trying to talk about something slightly different: among the Vancouver population of Tinder profiles, I can't find any that even slightly imply that there's any point in swiping right on them in the first place.

I've learned from long experience what a profile that "might" respond looks like, as opposed to a profile that "absolutely won't" respond. The profiles with potential are from the kind of woman I was talking about above: the lady-players, who like cruising for a lay after work just like many guys do. It's pretty easy to recognize this type of person through their profile; they tend to want to make it clear what they're looking for, to cut through the bullshit.

Going on Tinder in other places, I don't even bother to swipe right on anyone who isn't this type. Doing this ensures I don't waste any time in conversations with girls who aren't looking for what I'm looking for. But that's not much of a limiter; I still find enough profiles to swipe right on to hook up any time I pull out my phone.

In Vancouver, I have a 0% swipe-right rate, because I can't find this type of person! (Or, well, I should say, I have a 0% "would have swiped-right in another time and place" rate. I tried swiping right all the time, just in case these women just give off different signals in Vancouver... but like I thought, it didn't produce any good results, just people looking for LTRs wanting to talk and take it slow.)

Tinder, just about anywhere: ... 10% real people, but this group is so gunshy because of the first group that they hardly ever do anything other than kill time with the app.

See, that's what I find to be the difference: in places that aren't Vancouver, this group isn't so gunshy. I can usually find someone to hook up with in about an hour of looking.

Does Vancouver have a social-anxiety epidemic or something? Is everyone here so obsessed with image that they can't find it in them to reveal that they're looking for a hook-up, even on a hook-up app? (Which would be weird, because people in e.g. London probably have both of those same problems, but Tinder works just fine in London.)

When all a woman wants is dick, she can easily order it off amazon.

She can, but will she? Again, just my personal experience, but there really are women out there trying to hook up on Tinder... in places that aren't Vancouver. I have life-experience evidence of this, having hooked up with those women in those places through dating apps.

So what's weird about Vancouver?

(This question can probably only really be answered by a lady who has come to Vancouver from somewhere else, and then made female friends in Vancouver, and so has both an outsider's perspective and an insider's perspective. I'd love to ask e.g. a Brazilian immigrant woman what she thinks of the hook-up attitudes of Vancouver women.)

Anyway, thanks for all the responses!