Hiding "your hobby" from Mrs...

[ShyGuy1980]

Hello everyone. I was just wondering, for the married Pooners, how do you pull this off without your wife knowing where you are (plus hiding the reduction in the bank account)?

Quite frankly, I am amazed at how you guys are able to do this. I am single so I can come and go as I please, no questions asked, but I have had girlfriends and some have been so God-awful nosey, I could barely leave the living room to take a pooh without them wondering where I had wondered off to. So to all you married Pooners, how are you so cleaver that the Mrs. isn’t aware of it (especially some of you who appear to be poon-a-holics)?

And the first time you do poon, how do you act normal so that she doesn’t become aware you were up to something (I would think the guilt would have been tremendous, or at least with-draw from her some)?

Just curious as to what some of your thoughts were, if any of you were interested in discussing this. Thank you.

(I hope I am not being nosey for asking this)

 

[tom25]

Hello everyone. I was just wondering, for the married Pooners, how do you pull this off without your wife knowing where you are (plus hiding the reduction in the bank account)?

Quite frankly, I am amazed at how you guys are able to do this. I am single so I can come and go as I please, no questions asked, but I have had girlfriends and some have been so God-awful nosey, I could hardly leave the living room to take a pooh without them wondering where I had wondered off to. So to all you married Pooners, how are you so cleaver that the Mrs. isn’t aware of it (especially some of you who appear to be poon-a-holics)?

And the first time you do poon, how do you act normal so that she doesn’t become aware you were up to something (I would think the guilt would have been tremendous, or at least with-draw from her some)?

Just curious as to what some of your thoughts were, if any of you were interested in chatting about this. Thank you.

(I hope I am not being nosey for asking this)

I have a very flexible job that allows me to pretty much come and go as I please and set my own work schedule. I do most of my pooning during the day. No problem.

Sometimes for work I have to go to evening functions. Sometimes I fabricate one, sometimes I simply visit my fav after an evening meeting is over. My partners circles rarely overlap with my work circles ... although I do have to be careful about who I use as an alibi.

Guilt ... I gave up on guilt a long time ago. And I'm not about to go into all the reasons I do this and have my motivations and character jumped all over by someone. I will say that in almost all respects my partner and I have a very close relationship. There is no physical intimacy anymore. I'm not going to go into why I think that is, or what I've done to rectify the situation. I don't blame her, nor do I blame myself. But, I'm not prepared to be celibate for the rest of my life.

Frankly, what I don't understand is you single guys ... hell, there are clubs full of single attractive oversexed gals looking to hook up with someone. What are you doing with sp's??

Tom

 

[ShyGuy1980]

Good post there, Tom. I appreciate it. Yes, I can see how a flexible job schedule can certainly be of an avantage.

 

[gotsome2004]

Frankly, what I don't understand is you single guys ... hell, there are clubs full of single attractive oversexed gals looking to hook up with someone. What are you doing with sp's??
Tom

Huh? In Winnipeg? (Single guy here) Why the frigg'n hell didn't somebody tell me this before! Where for god's sake, dammit man where?!

 

[tom25]

Huh? In Winnipeg? (Single guy here) Why the frigg'n hell didn't somebody tell me this before! Where for god's sake, dammit man where?!

Fair enough ... I've never been single in Winnipeg so I really don't know that.

Tom

 

[daytek]

I myself also have a very flexible work schedule & try to book any get togethers as early in the morning as possible, so that hopefully any scents I have picked up have worn off, I have only been with a sp 3 times, After the first time I did it, when I went home it was very different for me for sure, I felt quite abit of guilt & said to myself I would never do it again, well about a week later, there I was doing it again, after then again said to myself I would never do it again, about 3 weeks later there I was doing it again, but this time I asked the lady for msog when we started, but after the first shot I was freaking out inside & left, so again I said I would never do it again, that was about a month ago. I find this so absolutely addictive that I just can't stop, I have amazing will power with alot of things in life, but I just can't stop. I now have come to trying to justify to myself, that I will only do things with an sp, if they are things I will not get at home, like a threesome, or something like that. anyway sorry to ramble on, just telling my story. Is there any other married guys that find this extremely addictive?

 

[Avery]

...I will only do things with an sp, if they are things I will not get at home, like a threesome, or something like that....

Like a BJ?

 

[bigben]

I appreciate your honesty in talking about your circumstances, Tom. I'm single myself and am attractive enough that I can meet single women no problem (as I'm sure the other single men on here are as well). But I've been burnt lately and don't want to get close to anyone and the dating game is just too complicated for me to want to get involved in right now. But, as you say, I have no intentions of being celibate. However, there's the risk of STIs picking up strangers in bars for sex, and I'd rather see someone I can trust will be ok. And, again, no complications, both parties know exactly what they're there for and what the limits are.

Frankly, what I don't understand is you single guys ... hell, there are clubs full of single attractive oversexed gals looking to hook up with someone. What are you doing with sp's??

Tom

 

[tom25]

I appreciate your honesty in talking about your circumstances, Tom. I'm single myself and am attractive enough that I can meet single women no problem (as I'm sure the other single men on here are as well). But I've been burnt lately and don't want to get close to anyone and the dating game is just too complicated for me to want to get involved in right now. But, as you say, I have no intentions of being celibate. However, there's the risk of STIs picking up strangers in bars for sex, and I'd rather see someone I can trust will be ok. And, again, no complications, both parties know exactly what they're there for and what the limits are.

Thanks bigben ... I was only half serious about all those single girls. I think there are all sorts of reasons for taking part in this hobby ... yours makes total sense. I hope people aren't judgemental about my motives, and I certainly am not going to judge anyone else.

In many ways, if you are single and just looking for sex, its far more honest to poon than to meet girls, who may be hoping for more, and then end up appearing like a cad when you say ... sorry babe ... that was nice but I'm not going to call you again.

If you can find a girl that also just is looking for fun ... fine, but its hard to keep "relationship" expectations out of it.

 

[Arizona40]

I hope people aren't judgemental about my motives,

I could give a fuck about why you poon! Let's just have fun!

If you can find a girl that also just is looking for fun ... fine, but its hard to keep "relationship" expectations out of it.

Yup, Jerry & Elaine couldn't make it work.

 

[Arizona40]

Hello everyone. I was just wondering, for the married Pooners, how do you pull this off without your wife knowing where you are (plus hiding the reduction in the bank account)?
(I hope I am not being nosey for asking this)

First I don't think your being nosy for asking. One of the reasons this board is here is to ask questions about the hobby.

Up until a couple of weeks ago I owned my own business that would afford me the excuses and the dollar needed to see an SP. Since I've sold, I too will be looking for different ways to hide the money. I will be paying attention to this thread in hopes some people will post some ideas I may be able to incorporate.

There was a similar thread in the lounge about six months ago that gave some excellent ideas. I will have to try and find it.

 

[prairiedog]

I travel quite a bit on business, mostly Winnipeg and TO, and do my pooning there. As far as hiding the $$$, that's no problem as I just cash travel expense cheques and they never see the bank account.

Why do I poon? Like Tom, I am not going to open myself up for a vicious verbal beating. I will say that in 1992, sex life dried up. After 9 years of trying to convince SO that something was wrong and to try counselling medical services, etc. I decided to try pooning for sexual gratification in 2001.

You can judge me if you want, but that single decision to try pooning has saved my marriage. If you met my SO, you would be impressed at her kind, down to earth nature, however, we had sex 4 times in 2004, and twice so far this year. That is enough for her, but not for me. Pooning has allowed me to satisfy my basic desires, and I no longer resent my SO for denying that basic need.

pd

 

[Avery]

...Hiding it isn't that tough. An extended business lunch...Work late, work early, work weekends...As for money we basically have 3 types of accounts, mine, hers and ours.

It all works out.

Sounds familiar!

 

[Avery]

Do you want to put on the whure luwer

 

[bb_1950]

Splash on some smelly stuff head out the door looking for a lady of the nite

 

[logsplitter]

Interesting thread!

Smell?? Try buying your fav the same perfume your wife wears!

Hide cash?? Make sure you have a reasonable surplus that can be disguised.
Keep separate accounts.
Top up your stash cash with money that does not
come through normal repeating chanels.
Guilty feeling?? It is always there but it gets easier to rationalize.
Timing/disguising?? Daytime poon when you are supposed to be at
work (works best if you are your own boss).
Don't post bad reviews if the sp has a vengeful spirit.

 

[Avery]

Splash on some smelly stuff head out the door looking for a lady of the nite

Oh, I get it! She meant whore lure!

I knew "whure" was "whore", but I couldn't figure out "luwer".

 

[Avery]

Don't post bad reviews if the sp has a vengeful spirit.

Don't give the ladies your real name in the first place! The only exception to that rule is if you're out of town, and the lady (or agency) needs to know your name to call your hotel room. Out of town escorts are a much lower risk anyway.

Only 4 currently active escorts know my real name, and I'm sure at least one of them has forgotten it.

 

[Hollywood_Dream]

Well I'm divorced and was wondering.If your wife was doing 4 or 5 guys a day while you were at work,would it be cool? I'm not saying it is wrong to poon if you're married,just not sure how guys handle it.
I'm sure some sp's have guys too that they go home to after doing other guys all day.How do they keep things cool at home.
What if you were out with your wife and your favorite sp showed up,and knew your wife???

 

[Avery]

What if you were out with your wife and your favorite sp showed up,and knew your wife???

If she was good enough to be my favourite, she'd have the savoir-faire to handle the situation without embarrassing anyone. So would I.