Hey hi all.. A question...

[Carrieann]

Hey hi people... I have a question non indy related. But Google scares shit outta me...

My dad I found out today has a aneurysm. He has lost vision in one eye, sleeps all the time, forgetting how to get home... Memory bad. He can remember thirsty years but not yesterday. Doctors keep things vague.. I would really like to hear from ppl who have obviously survived or know ppl who has suffered with this type of ailment. My mom is holding dwn the fort as best as she can but she's no spring chicken. Its small but will progress as he ages and he's has diabetes. I guess I'm hoping to hear ppl can live with this... Or its treatable...or what to expect. Those who know me my behaviour is based on emotion not logic. I will be helping with the homecare but honestly I have no one to ask about this. I am very interested in hearing more and not from Google. Google makes it seems like I should be prepared to soon bury him. Well medical leaps and bounds and every case is different. I'm emptying out my pm box to hopefully accommodate some insight. Thanks in advance.

Sincerely carrieann.
If I'm rambling abit I just found out early today and of course I am upset. Forgive the scatterness

 

[Carrieann]

Ladies... Hi... Thank you. I have been at odds with the folks due to childhood shit. Well regardless you love your parents even if not so good stuff. I am surprised by how quick my anger is gone and I fear for them. I'm so so sorry to hear about the missed goodbyes and i wish him not to leave this world thinking I hate him. I will admit tears are blurring the vision abit and yes I am fearful. I'm determined to ease my mom's stress at home financially and support her any way I can... That is her huz for over fifty years now and I have been estranged from them. I lived most my life without them but honestly yes time to bury old worn hatchets. Shit happens and life is short as it is. Thank you both. Though it saddens me to hear your experiences, it does give me more drive to do what I can. It was great t talk to them.
Again my heart to you both... Nor do I wish to have any more regrets. Thanks you.. And I'm sorry you had to experience that. .. I really do..

Carrieann
Xoxo

 

[dan1]

Hi Carrieann

I am sorry to hear about your father. But, don't bury your dad just yet. There is a lot of misinformation, partial information and complete B.S. on the web.

You might want to check this link to the Mayo Clinic which provides some good information on Brain Aneurysms. http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/brain-aneurysm/DS00582.

The Mayo Clinic website is, to my mind, one of the best sites for finding out about medical issues.

best of luck

dan

 

[Crumb]

All I have to add is that my Uncle suffered an aneurysm several years ago and when it happend it it it was touch and go for a couple days. I believe he even underwent surgery and was recovering from it for a long time but the good news is that he's still around now, and practically no worse for wear.
good luck to you and your father.

 

[juniper]

I rarely respond to such personal questions on internet boards, Carrieanne, but you have a wonderful, very humane, reputation and, because you appear to be so confused right now and in genuine pain, I just want to write a few words: Your father may not last much longer. Even if he does, he may lose whatever coherency he possesses at present. More important is what you, yourself, can do to heal the wounds you experienced in childhood and adolescence. For instance, your father (and mother) may not have what it takes to make any real changes, especially in their respective attitudes towards you but you, on the other hand, may possess the requisite ability to alter your own attitude towards them. If you are able to make such changes, it will assist you now and during the rest of your path in life. I do hope these few words may be of some little value in your finding an appropriate new direction. If, however, I've been a busybody, I am truly sorry about that.

 

[Kimber]

Carrieann; My mother lived with an aneurysm the size of a quarter for 25 years. The big thing with aneurysms is wether or not they are growing. Regular MRIs can determine this. An aneurysm can lay dormant for a long long time. There is a brain surgeon here in Calgary that goes into the brain with a catheter and plugs aneurysms. Its a process called"platinum coiling" and he's had a high degree of success.Look it up on the net.I can give you his name by PM. Hope everything works out.

 

[Carrieann]

Hi yes I'm finding out more n more and tho yeah it's scarey I've calmed dwn. Diabetic related... He's required mri 2x a year (this makes me feel a bit better) if dire they would operate right? It's small. And gramps had one he lived to his seventies before complications (I didn't kno he had one but passed in operation) i stayed off tread as not only was i affected by some of the experiences the ladies went threw but how I feared already and feared more. II had a amazing pm from a sp that is very well medically educated in health sciences. She was amazing in educating me.. I jut popped on here and thank u everyone for the realism good and bad. Working way to Home soon enough to spend time and just kids there as well. Well wish ppl to you and yours. And hey thank you!!!! I'm in good spirits.

Sincerely
Carrieann

Ps I'm famished about to dive in cooler but wanted to say again thank you for links. I'm on after breakie lol... This is a tool for my pocket and educating myself... I'm kinda ignorant with this. Again thanks everyone for sharing