Heartache and Love
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As the Buddha says "all life is suffering".
Getting what you want, getting what you think you want and not getting what
you want or think you want all leads to the same place.
Happiness is an illusion.
True bliss lies in the total acceptance of what is.
Now.
Yes even this.
Make your arms a little longer and embrace even this.
No distinctions.
This second, right now, is probably as good as it ever is going to get.
Give up the inner dialogue of what could have been.
Still the mind.
Accept the out of control thoughts of the mind but do not identify with them.
See them for what they are: Passing waves in a ocean soon to disappear and
without lasting reality.
They are transient.
Do not indentify them
The go out to the Schezuan Chili restaurant for great Chinese food come home
and take 2 aspirins and go to bed.
This too shall pass my friend.
Go beyond happy and sad.
Go to a place of stillness in your being that existed before you were born
and will exist after the body drops.
The relationship that you thought would bring happiness would, in all likehood,
brought you some form of suffering also.
That is life
Life is suffering.
In the acceptance of that is freedom.
Getting what you want, getting what you think you want and not getting what
you want or think you want all leads to the same place.
Happiness is an illusion.
True bliss lies in the total acceptance of what is.
Now.
Yes even this.
Make your arms a little longer and embrace even this.
No distinctions.
This second, right now, is probably as good as it ever is going to get.
Give up the inner dialogue of what could have been.
Still the mind.
Accept the out of control thoughts of the mind but do not identify with them.
See them for what they are: Passing waves in a ocean soon to disappear and
without lasting reality.
They are transient.
Do not indentify them
The go out to the Schezuan Chili restaurant for great Chinese food come home
and take 2 aspirins and go to bed.
This too shall pass my friend.
Go beyond happy and sad.
Go to a place of stillness in your being that existed before you were born
and will exist after the body drops.
The relationship that you thought would bring happiness would, in all likehood,
brought you some form of suffering also.
That is life
Life is suffering.
In the acceptance of that is freedom.
I broke up with my ex-fiancee earlier this year. I was devastated as we got along really well and the sex was incredible.
After a while, I realized it was probably the best thing that I ever did.
I've gone through 8 lovers this year and still have one who just wants to be lovers and not BF/GF.
Without strings of loyalty, I've enjoyed hobbying and playing. I realized that there are lots of interesting gals out there and this time around, when the time is right and the person is right, I will consider settling down.
Until then there are lots of fish out there like the one that got away (lots who are younger and better than the last).
When a person has nothing to lose and embraces rejection as the opportunity to be one step closer to better happiness, that's when life truly begins!
The pain will go away especially if you actively pick up the pieces of your life and start again. If you don't, then you are pissing away your life because of someone else who doesn't give a shit!!
After a while, I realized it was probably the best thing that I ever did.
I've gone through 8 lovers this year and still have one who just wants to be lovers and not BF/GF.
Without strings of loyalty, I've enjoyed hobbying and playing. I realized that there are lots of interesting gals out there and this time around, when the time is right and the person is right, I will consider settling down.
Until then there are lots of fish out there like the one that got away (lots who are younger and better than the last).
When a person has nothing to lose and embraces rejection as the opportunity to be one step closer to better happiness, that's when life truly begins!
The pain will go away especially if you actively pick up the pieces of your life and start again. If you don't, then you are pissing away your life because of someone else who doesn't give a shit!!
Grab life by the balls, and don't let go...
I guess I'm the proverbial optimist. My philosophy has always been to fish for opportunity, and when it strikes, hang on for the ride. Remember, it's never about you, but about everything around you, to which, ironically, you are inextricably linked. Resistance to change is man's greatest pitfall.
As for Buddha's reference to suffering, he must have got it wrong; in may case anyway. I'm always suspicious about the sayings or thoughts of Buddha, the Christ, Mohammed the Prophet, and all those who claim to speak or write for them. Men have a tendency to re-write history to suit their selfish objectives, and that includes all the classic theological texts. What we quote today is nowhere near what the attributed originators even said, meant or thought. It's all hypocrisy!
Live for yourself, listen to yourself, speak for yourself, see for yourself, but most of all, think for yourself...
I guess I'm the proverbial optimist. My philosophy has always been to fish for opportunity, and when it strikes, hang on for the ride. Remember, it's never about you, but about everything around you, to which, ironically, you are inextricably linked. Resistance to change is man's greatest pitfall.
As for Buddha's reference to suffering, he must have got it wrong; in may case anyway. I'm always suspicious about the sayings or thoughts of Buddha, the Christ, Mohammed the Prophet, and all those who claim to speak or write for them. Men have a tendency to re-write history to suit their selfish objectives, and that includes all the classic theological texts. What we quote today is nowhere near what the attributed originators even said, meant or thought. It's all hypocrisy!
Live for yourself, listen to yourself, speak for yourself, see for yourself, but most of all, think for yourself...
There is no "yourself".
Live for yourself is a very self centered philosophy that is doomed.
As far as "think for yourself goes" some of us know that there is no peace
in "thoughts" we go to a place beyond thought.
I would not expect your judgemental mind to understand that there is such
a place.
Show me a mind that is at peace.
The mind wants, seeks, is anxious, has thousands of thoughts in a short period of
time. Those thoughs are totally transitory. Nothing real is transitory.
Seek the real.
Maurycy, all you can speak of is your experience, you can speak of others
experiences.
Live for yourself is a very self centered philosophy that is doomed.
As far as "think for yourself goes" some of us know that there is no peace
in "thoughts" we go to a place beyond thought.
I would not expect your judgemental mind to understand that there is such
a place.
Show me a mind that is at peace.
The mind wants, seeks, is anxious, has thousands of thoughts in a short period of
time. Those thoughs are totally transitory. Nothing real is transitory.
Seek the real.
Maurycy, all you can speak of is your experience, you can speak of others
experiences.
