Health safety, cancelation, etiquette question?

[Dgodus]

So I'm a blond that doesn't always pay the best attention and I walked into something at full steam yesterday and mashed my face (specifically my mouth!) into something very hard and unpleasent :doh:

Most of the damage was done inside my lip (and where most of the blood came from - it'll definitly be fine and healed by the time I see the provider in two days from now) but it cut me (not deep just basically took a line of skin off) right on the edge of my lip (there was significantly less blood from that than there would be from a shaving cut, and stopped very quickly). Basically remember skinning your knee? That's basically what happened to my lip except in a quarter inch line about a mm wide (is it bad form to combine metric and standard measurements?!?!).

I texted the woman in question about it (even sent her a picture so she knew exactly what it was - it does NOT look like any kind of sore!!) as I'm a huge huge fan of kissing and daty. She said come by in two days as it should be fine, but if it's raw no kissing no daty. Well she's a noticable bit pricier than normal what I see at 9 bills for 2hrs full menu and a pse attitude.

So since I gave her a heads up 2 days before, said what I'm really into is it alright to simply turn and walk if when I get there if she puts on restrictions? I understand full well why, and have no problem with it, it's her health in question I dont want to push someone to do something that's uncomfortable. But I thinks it's also understandable that I dont have to pay anything (especially such a higher donation than normal) and can just turn and walk, when I gave a full on warning and said this is what's up. I did mention repeatedly I didn't want to waste her time, but her having me come by when it could be a very restricted service is equally wasting mine. I would have texted yesterday but hey, I had a swollen lip, a sore face, and a massive headache.

 

[*emmanuelle]

Just reschedule! I'm sure you will both have exponentially more fun getting down and dirty without worrying about your lip! I'm pretty sure she will understand.

Also, I know you had a bad headache, but it's obviously always best to give us a head's up as soon as you can, so we can try to make other arrangements.

Hope you feel better soon. In the meantime, put down the iPhone when you're walking!! Lol.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

irresistable force meets immoveable object eh?

not making light of your collision, but i'm sure you'll smile about it too - in a year or two!

so is there any real time pressure here? (other than out and out horniness that is)

why not postpone until you'll be sure it's all healed up then you won't need to worry? i'm sure she'll understand

 

[Dgodus]

I'm in SK, not a lot of locals I enjoy around the area. I see ladies who tour (oops I guess that's an important bit to leave out).

irresistable force meets immoveable object eh?

not making light of your collision, but i'm sure you'll smile about it too - in a year or two!

Oh I was laughing about it shortly thereafter! Just hurt, and tasted pretty bad.

 

[tantalizeme]

Oh brother!

So since I gave her a heads up 2 days before, said what I'm really into is it alright to simply turn and walk if when I get there if she puts on restrictions? I understand full well why, and have no problem with it, it's her health in question I dont want to push someone to do something that's uncomfortable. But I thinks it's also understandable that I dont have to pay anything (especially such a higher donation than normal) and can just turn and walk, when I gave a full on warning and said this is what's up. I did mention repeatedly I didn't want to waste her time, but her having me come by when it could be a very restricted service is equally wasting mine. I would have texted yesterday but hey, I had a swollen lip, a sore face, and a massive headache.

So you injured your face and took the skin off the edge of your lip—but already scheduled a 2-hr session with a PSE provider for 900 bucks for the day after tomorrow. And now you wonder, is it all right to walk if this lady isn't willing to cater to your desire for kissing & DATY?

You're a seasoned pooner, brother—so you should be giving advice rather than asking for it. But for what it's worth, I think you'd better postpone your visit.

I interpret you as saying that, upon seeing those Elephant Man-type photos of your injury, the lady said "it should be fine" but suddenly became "noticably pricier than normal"??

Seems totally out of line to me and suggests, she's the type in whom even your relatively slight defacement is likely to trigger an aversion reflex that will almost certainly translate into shoddy service.

But she'll probably voice her restrictions—or make them clear through body language—after you've handed over the donation.

Of course, you can always call a halt to the proceedings even after you've both shed your clothes, but better be prepared to kiss your 900 bucks goodbye forever.

 

[Alix Turner]

1. are you well healed enough that you think you would be comfortable seeing a fellow in your state if you were a provider? if yes, proceed to the next step if not, give your head a shake
2. If you want to leave, leave.. there's no real "making it up" another time, yourself and the provider don't feel the same way about what is worth calling a great time.

subnote you may want to send a second email right away letting her know its not a threat in any way, but you aren't just happy to go along with anything, and if she feels more comfortable limiting what you engage in that you want to set the limits (and the rate) beforehand so it isnt weird at the time, or just cancel it right away so that she has the best chance of making an appointment in lieu of seeing you and not being frustrated by your unpredictable set of circumstances

 

[Pillowtalk]

So you injured your face and took the skin off the edge of your lip—but already scheduled a 2-hr session with a PSE provider for 900 bucks for the day after tomorrow. And now you wonder, is it all right to walk if this lady isn't willing to cater to your desire for kissing & DATY?

You're a seasoned pooner, brother—so you should be giving advice rather than asking for it. But for what it's worth, I think you'd better postpone your visit.

I interpret you as saying that, upon seeing those Elephant Man-type photos of your injury, the lady said "it should be fine" but suddenly became "noticably pricier than normal"??

Seems totally out of line to me and suggests, she's the type in whom even your relatively slight defacement is likely to trigger an aversion reflex that will almost certainly translate into shoddy service.

But she'll probably voice her restrictions—or make them clear through body language—after you've handed over the donation.

Of course, you can always call a halt to the proceedings even after you've both shed your clothes, but better be prepared to kiss your 900 bucks goodbye forever.

You do understand that he has a CUT lip, right? It has nothing to do with his appearance, it has to do with the fact that a cut on his lip means he has an open wound. STD 101 tells us that even tooth brushing too soon before an appt can be a problem, what does it tell us about open wounds and increased risk of infections?


He said nothing about her charging extra because his appearance may be off putting. He said, and rightly so, that the two things that will be most at risk for a point of infection would be unavailable because of his injury. She was willing to see him anyway, but obviously isn't going to make a decision about the services until she sees the extent of his injury.


Are you seriously accusing this unnamed sp of being willing to take that increased risk for a few dollars more (upcharging)?

 

[vancity_cowboy]

STD 101 tells us that even tooth brushing too soon before an appt can be a problem, what does it tell us about open wounds and increased risk of infections?

yes, yes, absolutely... gotta stop those unsafe practices like brushing your teeth... :doh:

 

[Dgodus]

That's right donation and rendez vous were set well before I thought it a good idea to mash my face into hard metal. It's a small mark and not an open wound, but it does stand the chance of ending up raw with use. 450/hr doesn't make me squeamish but for that donation I am looking for a comets package (looks, attitude, service). Unfortunately I've already been burned on someone being massively hung over when I showed up, too tired to make an actual effort and basically slept on me (when I was assured she'd be fine by her), and said they were ok with my size and they weren't really (3hr date turned into a half hour of play). You'd also be surprised who those women were - so a good reputation doesn't always indicate anything. Too chancy at a higher price point. Simply canceled and moving on to my second date tha was planned (wanted to do both) which is in my normal range and the two activities aren't as important.

Seasoned pooner? Hardly, I started this endeavor basically on my perb join date (had 1 session about 4 months before). There is still much which can make me uncomfortable and situations I don't know. Yes I basically had the inclination to cancel, but I hate doing so (for selfish and selfless reasons) and needed an independent confirmation it was the proper thing to do.

As for "would I see a client in my condition" the answer would be no. But as I said in the first paragraph ladies will think solely of themselves at times and just go for the money. One of those ladies, at one point, actually told me she wouldn't be at her best and would understand if I canceled. That ceased when her business slowed down and yea. Not too mention when things did finally come to a head I was accused of only booking late night apts so I shouldn't expect her regular service when in fact I just provided the day and she selected the time, most likely to hit it out of the park on her new clients when she knew I would come back regardless (either due to loyalty or she knew she could manipulate me). Hmpf I'm ranting, forgive me, long night.

What I'm trying to say is comparing a hobbyist to a provider isn't proper form because we're all just people; some are good, some are good when they feel like it, and some aren't. I'm grateful for the ones which treat me well and are consistent with the standard they have set for themselves with the first few sessions we had together. The others I try not to think about and hopefully can avoid in the future without the problems that were already cause.

Unfortunately I do not know the lady I had to cancel with and because of the past am a little leery that some women may just see the money and not really care about what effect their effort has on the client (in this case she has a legit reason, and I imagine she understands that her donation for what would amount to simply a fs session is too much for some people).

Kinda bummed about this. Oh well there is always tomorrow!! :thumb: