The bottom line is that sp's are still human, and are looking for the same things in life as most of us. There are lots of women out there that have sex with tons of guys, the difference is there not charging. I am sure most sp's are looking to fined love, and be loved by a wonderful person like most of us. I can honestly say I dated a few sp's in the passed. One worked at EB, and other was indy. I also dated a couple of strippers. You definitely have to be a confident person, and realize that this is there profession, and it's just another job. For that short period of time whether there on stage or performing between the sheets most are just playing a role.
Have you ever fallen 'In Love" with a provider?
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All I have to say is don't confuse love with infatuation or lust.
99% of the interaction we have with an SP is not reality. Even when dating and this goes for all women, who we are dating is not necessarily who they are.
Like us, they want to put their best foot forward.
I remember a Chris Rock stand up where he goes on to say how when you start dating, the other person is not really dating you, they are dating your "representative."
It's only after several months and seeing that person is various situations and how they react would you really be able to develope a true sense of love for that person.
In my early 20's I dated a woman for about 6 months and it was great. Then one day we were out and she reacted very immaturely and badly to a situation. Right then and there I realized there was no way I could be with someone who, while this was the first time I'd ever witnessed it, go totally ballistic over something quite trivial. From then on I never saw her the same and broke up with her soon after.
I personally use the bullet test. If deep in my heart I know for a fact I'd take a bullet for that person, then I love them. For example, what parent would not take a bullet to save their child.
My advise to you is, are you emotionally strong enough to be with someone who fucks and sucks strangers for a living? Sorry if that sounds crude but that is what it is. I know a lot of guys say "Oh it wouldn't bother me" or "It's just her job, it really doesn't mean anything." Believe me, when you close your eyes and visualize the love of your life with some other guys dick in her mouth it will bother you.
But if it doesn't then go on, date casually if you want to. Do not become too emotionally invested or blind by lust or fantasy too quickley. Do not become financilly invested. I had a buddy who would date a woman for a couple of weeks and start doing things like paying for her car repairs or lending her money. :doh:
Let the relationship develope and in a few months after you've seen her with out make up, she's turned down your request for sex (oh, it will happen
), you have to stop at the store and buy her tampons or nurse her when she's sick, you'll really know if you love her or not.
Cheers
99% of the interaction we have with an SP is not reality. Even when dating and this goes for all women, who we are dating is not necessarily who they are.
Like us, they want to put their best foot forward.
I remember a Chris Rock stand up where he goes on to say how when you start dating, the other person is not really dating you, they are dating your "representative."
It's only after several months and seeing that person is various situations and how they react would you really be able to develope a true sense of love for that person.
In my early 20's I dated a woman for about 6 months and it was great. Then one day we were out and she reacted very immaturely and badly to a situation. Right then and there I realized there was no way I could be with someone who, while this was the first time I'd ever witnessed it, go totally ballistic over something quite trivial. From then on I never saw her the same and broke up with her soon after.
I personally use the bullet test. If deep in my heart I know for a fact I'd take a bullet for that person, then I love them. For example, what parent would not take a bullet to save their child.
My advise to you is, are you emotionally strong enough to be with someone who fucks and sucks strangers for a living? Sorry if that sounds crude but that is what it is. I know a lot of guys say "Oh it wouldn't bother me" or "It's just her job, it really doesn't mean anything." Believe me, when you close your eyes and visualize the love of your life with some other guys dick in her mouth it will bother you.
But if it doesn't then go on, date casually if you want to. Do not become too emotionally invested or blind by lust or fantasy too quickley. Do not become financilly invested. I had a buddy who would date a woman for a couple of weeks and start doing things like paying for her car repairs or lending her money. :doh:
Let the relationship develope and in a few months after you've seen her with out make up, she's turned down your request for sex (oh, it will happen
), you have to stop at the store and buy her tampons or nurse her when she's sick, you'll really know if you love her or not. Cheers
The lady I am seeing has retired, She may be seeing some of her favourites, we haven't discussed it yet. She no longer advertises and hasn't for quite some time. Would it bother me to see a provider who is currently working and advertising? Yes, as much as I would like to say its her job, and I'm cool with it, that's not love, at least not for me. As for seeing a retired provider, I have no issue with that whatsoever. We all have pasts. Would I offer that information to my family? probably not, they would think I've lost my mind(again). I am of an age where I don't want to own anyone, I have never been a control freak. I don't want to possess her, I just want us to be together because we want to be. When she or I feel differently, then hopefully we part as friends, better for the experience.
Go for it just be careful. I wish you both all the best and I hope things work out the way you both want what ever that is. Good luck
it's heartbreaking for the SP when a client falls in love you...
By the nature of our work, we generally can not share all of ourselves with the many wonderful clients we see. So when a client tells me he has fallen in love with me, I am saddened, because he has only fallen in love with part of me, and due to circumstances I can't show him all of me.
I give as much as emotionally possible to every encounter, and I do my very best to ensure the gentlemen who seek me out gets everything possible I can give them - whether that is just great sex, or something more - someone to talk too and laugh with and share intimacy's with...
Maybe that's why in 2 years in the biz I've had 3 marriage proposals... I don't know - maybe I give to much, but truly, I'd rather see my clients take what they learn from our encounters and go out and meet Ms. Perfect and have a long-term relationship that fulfills all their needs rather than fall in love with me.
I'll be there for those gentlemen who aren't getting all their needs met in their current situations.
;-)
Elise
By the nature of our work, we generally can not share all of ourselves with the many wonderful clients we see. So when a client tells me he has fallen in love with me, I am saddened, because he has only fallen in love with part of me, and due to circumstances I can't show him all of me.
I give as much as emotionally possible to every encounter, and I do my very best to ensure the gentlemen who seek me out gets everything possible I can give them - whether that is just great sex, or something more - someone to talk too and laugh with and share intimacy's with...
Maybe that's why in 2 years in the biz I've had 3 marriage proposals... I don't know - maybe I give to much, but truly, I'd rather see my clients take what they learn from our encounters and go out and meet Ms. Perfect and have a long-term relationship that fulfills all their needs rather than fall in love with me.
I'll be there for those gentlemen who aren't getting all their needs met in their current situations.
;-)
Elise
As someone who is living with an x-sp, there either retired or there not. Whether there advertising or not that really doesn't matter. As long as she is still seeing customers she is still in the game. Frankly I think JB nailed it. There's a big difference between love and lust,and fantasy and reality. Sleeping with someone and having sex with them.
From speaking with a few of her friends, most will tell you as long as you have something to offer them, they will tell you anything you the customer would like to hear. Your the biggest, your the best, but at the end of the day they go home to there SO and in most cases give him you money.
Also if your dating an sp and she is still charging you for sex, then your really not dating her. There's a big difference between a date and dating. Dinner and then a reduced rate on her services are nice, but your still a customer.
Once I started dating my GF I never paid her another cent for sex. When we met I knew who she was and she had seen me in session a few times. I knew what her services where and was okay with it. She was very open about getting her education and getting out of the business. The biggest problem for her was rent and managing her money. We fixed both problem by having her move in with me and keeping a small location for her business. Nine months later she is retired form the business with a ton of money in one hand and a degree in the other.
The negative of dating or living with a sp or x-sp, is there's always one pooner that love to come to your table while your eating to say hello, and to tell you that she once was or is an sp. Which by the way reinforces why she is not with you, and why your wife is no sucking your dick. lol
The plus: the sex is always amazing, she is great partner because she has listened to many men bitch and complain about there wife's and marriage. lol
At the end of the day you have to be very confident in who you are. You also have to put the past in the past and leave it there.
From speaking with a few of her friends, most will tell you as long as you have something to offer them, they will tell you anything you the customer would like to hear. Your the biggest, your the best, but at the end of the day they go home to there SO and in most cases give him you money.
Also if your dating an sp and she is still charging you for sex, then your really not dating her. There's a big difference between a date and dating. Dinner and then a reduced rate on her services are nice, but your still a customer.
Once I started dating my GF I never paid her another cent for sex. When we met I knew who she was and she had seen me in session a few times. I knew what her services where and was okay with it. She was very open about getting her education and getting out of the business. The biggest problem for her was rent and managing her money. We fixed both problem by having her move in with me and keeping a small location for her business. Nine months later she is retired form the business with a ton of money in one hand and a degree in the other.
The negative of dating or living with a sp or x-sp, is there's always one pooner that love to come to your table while your eating to say hello, and to tell you that she once was or is an sp. Which by the way reinforces why she is not with you, and why your wife is no sucking your dick. lol
The plus: the sex is always amazing, she is great partner because she has listened to many men bitch and complain about there wife's and marriage. lol
At the end of the day you have to be very confident in who you are. You also have to put the past in the past and leave it there.
JB & Deepstrokes are bang on!
If your willing to go into the relationship with your eyes open, with a willingness to be open enough that you both could end up hurting, then I would say it is like any relationship. If you are both giving of yourselves fully into the possibility of the relationship working then go for it. The worst thing in life is living with regret!
Good luck to both of you wherever you both may go
Just remember different women get into this business for different reasons. Many get stuck in it and are looking for a way out. Some just need to know they have love and support. If you show a person a way out, it's still to them to get there.
One step at a time.
One step at a time.
I think when guys fall for SPs, they fall for the illusion part of it. No matter how much the guy think she "gets" him, or that he thinks he knows her, when it comes down to it, it's all about the business part of the relationship...
I don't know how this is going to go, but she is the second provider who has told me 'She loves me' The first gal I helped out of the business, and she promptly left. I was an ends to a means. No harm, no foul. I wish her the best. The new lady and I hang out and do all of the normal stuff other couples do. I'm down to helping her with gas money. Many times we get together now, and there is no sex. Where it goes from here, who knows? I'm just enjoying her company.
Only time will tell but by the sounds of what your saying, you may be headed for heartbreak. You had one SP previously tell you they "love you" and then they left after a bit. I've been told by a couple of SP's that they " love me" but I never thought anything of it, I was still paying them so that in my mind was not the real feeling. You are still paying for little things like gas etc, which in of itself is a very gentlemanly thing to do. I've done the same in my real relationships, be it dinner out, movie, drinks, whatever.
I like your last few words "I'm just enjoying her company" if you keep that perspective great! Have fun and enjoy.
No relationship comes with a guarantee. At this point in my life I just go with the flow,and enjoy the moment. A couple of weeks ago I got a call from a local sp's that was just looking for a movie date. She has no car so I picked her up, when we get there she tells me it's her treat. After the movie we went to a small lounge for a couple of drinks and some good conversation, my treat. A little DFK in front of her place, left it at that.
If we do it again I am okay with it, if not we both had a nice time.
If we do it again I am okay with it, if not we both had a nice time.
I think there is illusion early in every relationship. However I believe it comes down to chemistry. It also takes years to really know somebody, no matter who they are.
Newton it has happened three times over the years, first time it happened after seeing her for a year, 2nd time it was 2 1/2 years, and the last time was after 1 month (which technically I don't count lol) Now granted the one after 2 1/2 years was maybe the only one who possibly really did, but no matter what it was not a real world scenario, almost all my time with her was paid time yes reduced dollarwise but still paid time. Hope that answers your question.
