Have you ever approached a girl you suspect is a working girl to ask for number etc?

[rockinbods35]

From time to time I come across some very attractive women in this fair city of Vancouver, usually when I am in DT conducting business or running errands and I wonder if these girls are "working" so to speak.

I have never had the balls to go up to them to ask, so my suspicions are just that. The opportunity to connect passes, and I am left wondering, was that a non-pro working girl? A stripper? Perhaps an escort flying under the radar?

So have any of you guys approached ladies you suspect were working girls and if so what happened? Did they tell you to get lost?!! Did you get a number?
Should we even approach these ladies, and if so what is the best way to go about it?

I am just curious, as we know there are more than a few working girls, strippers, etc that live DT and we are bound to come across them in grocery stores, gas stations, gyms, etc.

Surely not all the ladies that work post, some fly under the radar or meet men in other ways. Perhaps public places is one of those venues? Just curious what others think, and to hear the thoughts of the ladies on this board

Would you be offended if a random guy came up to you and asked you if you were an escort, etc, how much? ...perhaps in a more discreet or tactful way than I have put here, but nonetheless probing for the same information.

 

[HankQuinlan]

Why don't I just answer for them. Yes, they would be freakin' offended, working girl or civilian. There have been numerous threads over the years saying "If you recognize me in public, just ignore me. You don't know who may be with me". Wouldn't that apply to ones you don't know? And of course, no civilian would EVER be offended if you think they are a hooker.

Note: does not apply to ladies soliciting business on the roadside, dressed in appropriate uniform.

 

[Dgodus]

Jesus Christ someone post a face palm here.

Saw a thread somewhere else once that someone posted.

"I think an escort is in the hotel room next to mine, should I go over and introduce myself?"

Worst part was several posters thought that was a good idea. NOOOO, just go get a different room and stfu.

 

[BallzDeep]

yet in Vegas this is sorta how its done, i mean they usually find you...

but maybe i feel differently, a chick that dresses like a total stripper/hooker imo shouldnt be offended or offensive, if done discretely.

 

[connor666]

yet in Vegas this is sorta how its done, i mean they usually find you...

but maybe i feel differently, a chick that dresses like a total stripper/hooker imo shouldnt be offended or offensive, if done discretely.

This is a great time for me to bring up this gem of a clip. My beef is more with whores that don't get all skanked out. I have actually walked on a few decent girls who don't get dolled up, especially because I explicitly asked her to when I made the appointment. I just can't get hard if the girl is not glammed up.

 

[Gotee-man]

Well, i guess u can always show that you're interested by smiling and checking her out a bit. She may let u know she's available or if she gives u warm vibes, u can approach her and chat with her a bit. If she's just a civilian, u may score a date; if she's a working girl, u can let her know u are interested.

 

[badbadboy]

From time to time I come across some very attractive women in this fair city of Vancouver, usually when I am in DT conducting business or running errands and I wonder if these girls are "working" so to speak.

I have never had the balls to go up to them to ask, so my suspicions are just that. The opportunity to connect passes, and I am left wondering, was that a non-pro working girl? A stripper? Perhaps an escort flying under the radar?

So have any of you guys approached ladies you suspect were working girls and if so what happened? Did they tell you to get lost?!! Did you get a number?
Should we even approach these ladies, and if so what is the best way to go about it?

I am just curious, as we know there are more than a few working girls, strippers, etc that live DT and we are bound to come across them in grocery stores, gas stations, gyms, etc.

Surely not all the ladies that work post, some fly under the radar or meet men in other ways. Perhaps public places is one of those venues? Just curious what others think, and to hear the thoughts of the ladies on this board

Would you be offended if a random guy came up to you and asked you if you were an escort, etc, how much? ...perhaps in a more discreet or tactful way than I have put here, but nonetheless probing for the same information.

 

[susi]

i just want to say that approaching non sex working women for paid sex is one of the biggest points of contention between sp's and square women. please DO NOT do this. it contributes to the dialogue around how bad sex work is and how the clients are out of control perverts.

square women get offedned and scared when approached for paid sex, and why wouldn't they? its a world and way of life they do not understnad.

so please, if you see a hot woman working downtown, maybe compliment her, tell her how beautiful she is but under no circustances should you a[pproach a square women and ask her for paid sex.

finally, it is illegal and considered "public communication". so if she is not a worker you could be arrested. especially if she is really scared or offended, she may call police.

please think about the community here before doing something that could undermine all of the work we are doing to demonstrate that we are a caring, non exploitative community who are not a danger to outsiders or the mainstream community.

 

[newton man]

If she is a working girl, she will approach you.

 

[let's review]

The OP's thinking process is what inspired Slutwalk.

 

[Toon]

WTF?

"Gee, you are are pretty; can I purchase sex from you?"
vs
"Gee, you are pretty; may I buy you a coffee?"

You think those are the same? Not in my world, buddy.

The first will likely get you a slap in the face. The second will probably get you a "No", but you won't have offended her.

 

[thehedonist]

What I wish sometimes I had the guts to do is in those situations where you are walking side by side with a woman for blocks downtown and she is an absolute stunner to just once (bucket list) say "sorry to bother you but I just have to say you are really beautiful. Would you like to have a drink with me?" In the last year alone there have probably been 3-4 times this has happened in DT Vancouver (Van women are SO beautiful)

If securing the drink is successful-if she is a working girl you will probably hear about it. If not, you are having a drink with a beautiful "civilian" and who knows what will happen. If nothing more than a drink with a beautiful civilian that ain't so bad.

I guess my point is if you choose to talk to the women, don't make any prejudgements on her occupation. Treat her simply as a beautiful woman you would like to hang with.

My two cents

I've tried this several times. Once spent a whole day just approaching girls on Granville. Didn't go so well. Since being a gentleman was getting me nowhere, I eventually decided to try the Apocalypse Opener on an a cute, slightly chubby blonde girl:

Me: How's it going?

Her (obviously annoyed, not even looking at me): Fine.

Me: Want to go home with me?

Her: Nnnooooooo.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

What I wish sometimes I had the guts to do is in those situations where you are walking side by side with a woman for blocks downtown and she is an absolute stunner to just once (bucket list) say "sorry to bother you but I just have to say you are really beautiful. Would you like to have a drink with me?" In the last year alone there have probably been 3-4 times this has happened in DT Vancouver (Van women are SO beautiful)

If securing the drink is successful-if she is a working girl you will probably hear about it. If not, you are having a drink with a beautiful "civilian" and who knows what will happen. If nothing more than a drink with a beautiful civilian that ain't so bad.

I guess my point is if you choose to talk to the women, don't make any prejudgements on her occupation. Treat her simply as a beautiful woman you would like to hang with.

My two cents

some beautiful women dislike men commenting on their beauty (mars vs venus thing - they KNOW they are beautiful and are proud of it, but they consider YOU shallow if that's all you can say about them). sometimes you have to use an indirect compliment like the way their clothes look, or who their hairdresser is, or a statement about how healthy they look followed by a question if they work out or not... you get the picture

always being complimentary about their look and style, without directly saying, 'you're beautiful.'

what you're looking for is the kind of opener that can't be answered with the word, 'no.' that way you stand a chance of actually having a conversation with them

they might toss you under the next bus that comes along, but any question that can be answered, 'no' is asking to be thrown under the one that is currently going by

but look, it doesn't take any guts to try that conversation opener on for size. in the case you mentioned about walking beside them for blocks, at the first light you end up waiting for together, you just turn and joke politely to them that, 'we're going to have to stop meeting this way,' then follow up with the above mentioned style of compliment

i can't tell you how many great looking women i've met that actually engaged me in conversation with that approach. not that it got me anywhere, but at least i had a nice conversation with a pretty woman that i met on the street!

 

[Toon]

Toon and Chaapp-I'm not operating under the assumption a beautiful woman who I happen to be walking beside on the street is a SP. I am just walking beside a beautiful woman. All I was saying was that I wish sometimes I had the cahonies (sp?) to suggest grabbing a drink when these situations come up. No expectations. If all it is is a drink, fine. If the beautiful woman is a civilian and the drink becomes free sex, great. If the beautiful woman is a SP and the drink becomes paid sex, great.

My now four cents.

Yes, Yes. I agree 100%. Apologies: I didn't make myself clear.

Rule #1: Never approach an SP in public.
Rule# 2: There is no rule# 2

 

[luvsdaty]

I can't actually believe people would consider coming up to an SP in public :doh:

Kisse Melina*

It's done all the time on Kingsway!ound:ound:ound:ound:

 

[badbadboy]

If she is a working girl, she will approach you.

She may not actually approach you but will give off the 'signal' ie a smile and a look.

I had just had dinner with a few colleagues and we were all dressed in suits etc coming out of Joe Fortes. While they were waiting for a cab, I noticed an attractive blonde look at me and smile. She did seem familiar (sure sure, after a bottle of wine they all seem familiar ound but I wasn't sure so I ventured over to say hello. Turned out she was working and was a "part timer". We exchanged digits and she texted me later.

 

[mimi]

Hey, this is a great thread! Well, maybe not all the responses, but the O.P.'s topic is a good one.

The question is: Are you looking at women you wish were S.P.s?

I mean, I see really hawt women and my brain goes "ka-ching" cause I think of how much money they could make, but more than likely they are not even close to considering this line of work.

I am pretty sure many pooners see the same kind of hawtness and think "mmmm....could she? would she?"

I guess you'll never now until you ask...what the hell is life without a little adventure?

 

[westcoast555]

From time to time I come across some very attractive women in this fair city of Vancouver, usually when I am in DT conducting business or running errands and I wonder if these girls are "working" so to speak.

I have never had the balls to go up to them to ask, so my suspicions are just that. The opportunity to connect passes, and I am left wondering, was that a non-pro working girl? A stripper? Perhaps an escort flying under the radar?

So have any of you guys approached ladies you suspect were working girls and if so what happened? Did they tell you to get lost?!! Did you get a number?
Should we even approach these ladies, and if so what is the best way to go about it?

I am just curious, as we know there are more than a few working girls, strippers, etc that live DT and we are bound to come across them in grocery stores, gas stations, gyms, etc.

Surely not all the ladies that work post, some fly under the radar or meet men in other ways. Perhaps public places is one of those venues? Just curious what others think, and to hear the thoughts of the ladies on this board

Would you be offended if a random guy came up to you and asked you if you were an escort, etc, how much? ...perhaps in a more discreet or tactful way than I have put here, but nonetheless probing for the same information.

Just politely approach her and say hello.. if she's a beautiful woman who's not a working girl she'll probably indicate that she is not interested either politely or rudely. If she's suspiciously friendly and gives you her number, and says call me some time you are talking to a working girl. For fuck's sake don't ever ask any woman if she's an SP... ever. And be mindful if she looks like she doesn't want to be approached.

I've encountered many women who are friendly and attractive and who seemed receptive to my "extremely" suave advances over the years. One was in a food court and it turned out she wanted to sell me network marketing junk. Another time I was in Lift with a work party and chatted up an attractive girl sitting at the end of the bar (alone!? ). We had a nice chat and she said 'text me some time'. I realized about a minute later that she was a pro.

Shouldn't be hard to figure out... if she looks hot and doesn't tell you to screw off... she might just be a pro. After all... this is Vancouver

 

[rockinbods35]

some beautiful women dislike men commenting on their beauty (mars vs venus thing - they KNOW they are beautiful and are proud of it, but they consider YOU shallow if that's all you can say about them). sometimes you have to use an indirect compliment like the way their clothes look, or who their hairdresser is, or a statement about how healthy they look followed by a question if they work out or not... you get the picture

always being complimentary about their look and style, without directly saying, 'you're beautiful.'

what you're looking for is the kind of opener that can't be answered with the word, 'no.' that way you stand a chance of actually having a conversation with them

they might toss you under the next bus that comes along, but any question that can be answered, 'no' is asking to be thrown under the one that is currently going by

but look, it doesn't take any guts to try that conversation opener on for size. in the case you mentioned about walking beside them for blocks, at the first light you end up waiting for together, you just turn and joke politely to them that, 'we're going to have to stop meeting this way,' then follow up with the above mentioned style of compliment

i can't tell you how many great looking women i've met that actually engaged me in conversation with that approach. not that it got me anywhere, but at least i had a nice conversation with a pretty woman that i met on the street!

Very good idea finding something other than just purely her physical appearance to compliment her on.

 

[blueberrymuffin]

I am seriously starting to think that many of the male posters on this site are complete social retards. Holy jumping shit balls what a moronic thread. Nothing wrong with a hello, but you start with "are you a hooker" and prepare to get slapped, arrested or worse. Does this really even need to be said?

You are correct. Saying a simple "hello" isn't going to kill anyone.

And yes, us social outcasts use this site frequently.