Thanks for sharing. Its more interesting to hear sp side of opinions on this topic.
Has this hobby changed your taste in women?
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For both sides in this business treating your partner well is very important.
If either one is a jerk the other can move on easily.
Real life should be more like that.
My sister stayed with a useless loser for forty years, my brother has had three shitty marriages, all because they can't just walk away.
same here
This has also made me aware of the fact that most men have an uncontrollable urge, and that its not fair to expect a man not to cheat, because I believe its out of their control, sort of like an addict...but not ALL of them, but I'd say most, because they are able to separate the physical from emotional attachment. I could be wrong and I know its a sad pessimistic view lol, perhaps in the end, men and women are similar.
*caveat emptor* when I say this, by no means am I giving anyone (mainly men) a free pass to step-outside their marriages, but the very essence of being male is to propagate the species in the most efficient way possible (read 'multiple partners). If this is removed via social mores/rules/laws you're essentially corking a bottle, (and I'm stretching here) perhaps this may be, in a minor way, adding to the prostate cancer epidemic. So be fruitful and healthysame here
This has also made me aware of the fact that most men have an uncontrollable urge, and that its not fair to expect a man not to cheat, because I believe its out of their control, sort of like an addict...but not ALL of them, but I'd say most, because they are able to separate the physical from emotional attachment. I could be wrong and I know its a sad pessimistic view lol, perhaps in the end, men and women are similar.
Over the past year since entering this hobby again after 30 years.... yes and no. I still like my ladies that are well endowed. The same as 30 years ago. But what I have experienced now is the variety that is out there. It has allowed me to explore and fulfill many aspects that are on my bucket list. Tall ladies, different ethnic backgrounds, short ladies,. I still have a few experiences I want to try on the bucket list. As others have said it has given me a great respect for the ladies I have met. Almost all have been wonderful.
I don't think the standard human mind is capable of giving you a scientific answer to your seemingly-reasonable question.
It is more sensible to observe that this hobby represents a variety which very few men can expect to know outside of such a setting.
In the same way that FAR too many second wives OR second girlfriends remarkably resemble first wives or first girlfriends... it is highly probable that the standard human mind will never encounter sexually enough authentic variety to develop a personal preference free of bias or outside/in-authentic influence.
SO you take the average schmuck, who once thought he'd make a go of it in standard social circles... and he did, for a while... and then things got complicated...
Maybe he broke-up with a long-time lover... and waited a while, and when he regained his confidence, and went back out there... he really didn't know HOW to select a next partner... but he knew he tended to lean toward those who matched what he knew for so long... and soon he found himself nearer TO many women who fit that same mold... and presto, the next time he entered into a long-term relationship... she bore a strong resemblance to that first lover.
Well, eventually, enter prostitution... and suddenly, he can socialize with the strong (confidence) that everybody will say yes to him...
And suddenly, he's there in front of the candy counter... in awe of all the flavors... and still with no idea how to select one for his first encounter
He probably STILL goes near to what he knows... because he, and most humans, are likely wired in just that way.
But eventually, greater awareness of the vast numbers of possibilities draws him toward experimenting with all sorts of looks... yet it still isn't fully random enough to where any pattern had once been freely-enough chosen that he could be said to have came in liking one type of woman and evolved to a strong preference for another type of woman.
There is just too much randomness all around to let yourself believed that anyone changed anything as if steering a motorboat in a different direction.
Add lots of randomness to earlier randomness and indeed a lot of random things will likely transpire... but that doesn't mean you were in as much control over it as you'd like to think.
I think this hobby should be mandatory required. I figured out that girls with no muscle tone and skinny are completely painful to have sex with ugh.
I used to like only white girls but lately i like darker girls like latinas or indians. Mixed white/darker girl with nice ass is my ideal.
I think if anything, this hobby changes my perspective on the fact that physical attraction often isn't enough for me anymore. I prefer to have a mutually fulfilling conversations and some "chemistry" to really get into the romance.
Also, apparently there's a thing as "physically compatible"?! There were some meetings where everything just felt right. The smell of their hair, the skin, their smile, the interaction. I am trying to write JoshuaP essay here, but it's pretty magical.
There are some types i'd never approach before but now I think I am a lot more open minded. Just a late night though, haha.
I am still extremely turned on by athletic build and someone with good, natural hair that goes beyond their shoulders... But that's for a very specific reason personally =P. A nice, firm butt doesn't hurt either..
Also, apparently there's a thing as "physically compatible"?! There were some meetings where everything just felt right. The smell of their hair, the skin, their smile, the interaction. I am trying to write JoshuaP essay here, but it's pretty magical.
There are some types i'd never approach before but now I think I am a lot more open minded. Just a late night though, haha.
I am still extremely turned on by athletic build and someone with good, natural hair that goes beyond their shoulders... But that's for a very specific reason personally =P. A nice, firm butt doesn't hurt either..
Same here, cannot agree more.
Sex is secondary to the experience of having chemistry with someone and genuinely enjoying your time together. I had some mindblowing sex and experiences with ladies I genuinely like and love to be around. It is very easy to tell the difference because if there is no chemistry and attraction it feels like a business transaction that is just devoid of any passion. Luckily that only happened to me once and I hope to never experience it again.
On topic, seeing so many wonderful women of different ethnicities and ages last two months made me realize I do not have a "type".
Great question........my taste physical looks wise has been the same since I was able to get a hard on.......but in life I never found someone who had the physical looks I desired and the ability to hold a
thought provoking conversation in the same package......that is until 6 months ago...and if I never decided to start in this play ground I feel I never would have met that person.......
thought provoking conversation in the same package......that is until 6 months ago...and if I never decided to start in this play ground I feel I never would have met that person.......
I'd also say I am more open to tats and piercings now. I've seen some beautiful tats in this journey. I appreciate the free hand drawn tats a lot.
One nipple pierced and some nostril piercings too. It's all good :thumb:
Then again seeing beautiful women without tats is becoming a smaller part of the population of the escorts I see and I like their 'pure' bods too.
One nipple pierced and some nostril piercings too. It's all good :thumb:
Then again seeing beautiful women without tats is becoming a smaller part of the population of the escorts I see and I like their 'pure' bods too.
