Has Anyone Had Feels For A Provider?

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johnsmit

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This is probably the most common thing that happens to any one that sees escorts on a regular bases and accutaltly has a,regular. You see them because you developer feeling for them . You love them as a friend or more. That is only human and in the case of us seeing an escort , in the one hour that you spend with them you reveil more to them then you do to some people you have know for your whole life. And often they open up to you with personal information on the first or after a few visits . You will keep seeing then because you like the person behind the pretence.
It not all about sex it is about connection.
It some times works out for the long term.
I have 4 or 5 girls that are now women that i met in the last 15 years that have turned in my closest friend . And through the years I have. been just as much part of thier life and family as any one else .

Escorting is a choice to make an income but not their lives . And see escorts is a choice but does not define how we treat others or see others as friends .
 

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While I agree that taking girls on dates etc is spending money for sex technically (albeit alot less expensive). Have you never had a girls from a dating app just come over for sex? or never taken a girl home from the bar or a house party? those are free. But I agree, usually when Im paying for an SP its paying her to leave and for the convenience factor since my fuckbuddies arent likely to come over during my lunchbreak, have sex and leave as soon as I bust a nut.
Some people might really shit on me for saying this but the realities of dating is that the guy pays. I know woman that make 7 figures a year and there is something about a man coming in and taking care of/control that is inherently enjoyed.

Most of the men I know feel a genuine sense of happiness to provide for someone that they have a genuine interest in. I’m also on the younger side so I’m not speaking from the position of my parents or grandparents generation.

As for hooking up and having sex, provided a person presents themselves well and puts themselves out there, it’s an option. It’s going to be as easy or difficult as that person finds social interactions

Woman want connection and sex too. It may show up different from their perspective however it’s the same outcome.

While dating apps and taking someone home after a party or BBQ or even a random girl at the beach or Starbucks is free, it requires effort, skill, charm, finesse etc.

I’ve always maintained that it is essential that a person continue to focus on their social skills as it plays a significant role in the happiness they will have in their life.

Ive found civilian woman to be more wild and less safe than providers to be honest. Not that it’s a bad thing, just my experience.
 

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Some people might really shit on me for saying this but the realities of dating is that the guy pays. I know woman that make 7 figures a year and there is something about a man coming in and taking care of/control that is inherently enjoyed.

Most of the men I know feel a genuine sense of happiness to provide for someone that they have a genuine interest in. I’m also on the younger side so I’m not speaking from the position of my parents or grandparents generation.

As for hooking up and having sex, provided a person presents themselves well and puts themselves out there, it’s an option. It’s going to be as easy or difficult as that person finds social interactions

Woman want connection and sex too. It may show up different from their perspective however it’s the same outcome.

While dating apps and taking someone home after a party or BBQ or even a random girl at the beach or Starbucks is free, it requires effort, skill, charm, finesse etc.

I’ve always maintained that it is essential that a person continue to focus on their social skills as it plays a significant role in the happiness they will have in their life.

Ive found civilian woman to be more wild and less safe than providers to be honest. Not that it’s a bad thing, just my experience.
Women that make 7 figures a year? Got to find me one those.
 
I had feels for the first provider I saw lol. It happened after the second encounter. But the first encounter laid the foundation. I didn't know if I should tell her or if it would freak her out, because I know most providers just like to keep it professional and not have any emotions involved.

Anyone else had feels? How did you deal with it?
a bit late to the party here
I have been in and out of the hobby for years and I can honestly say I have connected more deeply to several women whereby we have had mutual feelings for one another . Sometimes it develops after many sessions and more open discussions and sometimes it’s a chemistry thing that just clicks.
As well in some cases I have simply helped them if they are in need of something I can help them with and they has deepened a few relationships they surpass the normal customer provider relationship.
After all we are all human and our needs basic .
 
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a bit late to the party here
I have been in and out of the hobby for years and I can honestly say I have connected more deeply to several women whereby we have had mutual feelings for one another . Sometimes it develops after many sessions and more open discussions and sometimes it’s a chemistry thing that just clicks.
As well in some cases I have simply helped them if they are in need of something I can help them with and they has deepened a few relationships they surpass the normal customer provider relationship.
After all we are all human and our needs basic .
but you continued to pay them and give away resources to them? I dunno if you can say the feelings mutual if you continued spending money on them tbh
 

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Of course I've had, for my part. You get to be with a girl who looks-wise is your dream girl, and you enjoy her company both in bed and out of it. Of course, this opens you up to such thoughts.

Yes, I've been with some that I lament "why can't I live in some alternate reality where I'm with her for real ?" Sexy, lively, intelligent, generally wonderful to be around, who wouldn't want to be with someone like that, and be happy making her happy to boot? :love:

Of course my brain has to ruin the fantasy with some realism about whether they'd ever feel the same, etc. :cautious:
 
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a word of advice boys, if you still need to pay for her company, she doesnt have feelings for you. Ive had a few SPs ask to hangout outside of our sessions and they always are very adamant in saying that they wouldnt charge me, and even in those situations I havent tricked myself into thinking they have genuine feelings for me.
If you are looking to develop a long term relationship with a girl, never lead with your wallet.
Im not saying mutual feelings cant happen, but if you are still paying for their company then they are likely finessing you. its hard for a girl to ever fully respect you if you have paid for their company at any point . Remember that they have likely all had sex with men for free.

I have never had romantic feelings for an SP and honestly I dont think I ever will. That being said I have developed friendships with some and enjoyed their company for free before, but I never looked at them as a potential relationship.
 

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Hi guys

i am in a different position with sp

had a great/ special encounter. Not to sound cliche but immediately connected, one hour meeting ended up being overnight

she never asked for $, I left it on night stand as I had to get to work early. Just thought that stars lined up in weird way.

few days later ended up calling and just setting up dinner, fast forward morning happened and I needed to catch early flight. Left $ on nightstand again. Beautiful creature woke up as I was leaving and was upset with the $. I didn’t take it back.

i am not jealous type, neither is she. Nor am I delusional.

have any of you lived two lives that don’t make sense
 
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