Has Anyone Had Feels For A Provider?

[Andrew69913]

Why does everything have to be so extreme?? The question isn't about being obsessive, possessive, or controlling. If that's how you feel in your relationships, then please get help. Maybe you should be asking yourselves why these types of behaviors are the first to enter your own minds. Maybe you should all stop adding to the stigma that people who delve into the world of providing or acquiring sexual services are not capable of normal feelings.

 

[The Caffeinated Gent]

You know, it is ironic, that we, well, at least some of us are paying the ladies to skip the games, drama and responsibilities of a relationship, yet some of us still ended up catching feelings after the sex and got trapped in emotions. No one? Just me? Okay nvm, at least I was able to move on eventually...

 

[ExpCharlee]

You know, it is ironic, that we, well, at least some of us are paying the ladies to skip the games, drama and responsibilities of a relationship, yet some of us still ended up catching feelings after the sex and got trapped in emotions. No one? Just me? Okay nvm, at least I was able to move on eventually...

hahahaha.....I FEEL THIS SO HARD. I've always wanted fun, casual sex with no strings and almost always found that guys catch feelings and want more. It's hilarious to me that the best way to (mostly) avoid it has been charging for it...

 

[sparks99]

I’ve I felt a connection to a couple SPs, yes for sure. But Feelings for an SP. none. Learnt my lesson on my early 20s when I had feelings for stripper (or two) from the Paramount.

 

[taster]

I've learned from my past mistakes for letting myself develop feelings for a few sp's and going in with the wrong mindset.

It's natural to care for another human being when sharing intimate and humorous moments.

When I find sp's that I'm attracted to and have good chemistry with I don't fool myself into hoping anything beyond the business relationship will happen.

I tell myself that I'm very fortunate to have sp's that I think of as friends with benefits as our meetings are mutually beneficial, not as some white knight coming along.

Spring is here.... the weather will get better....try different activities however small that will bring you enjoyment.

 

[EuroSZabina]

Haha that's literally my only goal in life is to find that with someone outside of this hobby of course!

Isn't it for everybody ? Of course it is, problem is ppl take granted each other. High expectations come in and we start looking elsewhere because we are unhappy.

 

[Will_iam]

I've learned from my past mistakes for letting myself develop feelings for a few sp's and going in with the wrong mindset.

It's natural to care for another human being when sharing intimate and humorous moments.

When I find sp's that I'm attracted to and have good chemistry with I don't fool myself into hoping anything beyond the business relationship will happen.

I tell myself that I'm very fortunate to have sp's that I think of as friends with benefits as our meetings are mutually beneficial, not as some white knight coming along.

Spring is here.... the weather will get better....try different activities however small that will bring you enjoyment.

Yah if you cross the line and start seeing them in the real life you're fucked (they key is to not spend so much time with them and just stick to sex) and will end up getting hurt as it will likely go nowhere. 😟 Good advice for newer pooners for sure.

 

[Andrew69913]

How many of you guys feel you are not worthy of love in your relationships outside of the hobby as well?

 

[Kissmepassionately]

How many of you guys feel you are not worthy of love in your relationships outside of the hobby as well?

Honestly, I just don't like the women i have gone on dates with enough to ever see myself doing more than maybe 3 dates with them. In 2018 I tried to make myself love someone based on her incredibly good looks, made it about 15 days, just couldn't do it any more. Feel I can do much better. So since the girlfriend who I was with for a few years, and I was crazy in love with passed away, just haven't felt a real connection with any. A few have asked me for more and more dates, i declined. Would much rather be single, than settle.

 

[Will_iam]

Honestly, I just don't like the women i have gone on dates with enough to ever see myself doing more than maybe 3 dates with them. In 2018 I tried to make myself love someone based on her incredibly good looks, made it about 15 days, just couldn't do it any more. Feel I can do much better. So since the girlfriend who I was with for a few years, and I was crazy in love with passed away, just haven't felt a real connection with any. A few have asked me for more and more dates, i declined. Would much rather be single, than settle.

Sorry to hear man, I hope you can find love again!

 

[cruefan]

It is best to treat each appointment like it is the last time that you will see that provider because you never know as it just may potentially be.
It is also quite possible to have a good connection and never feel the obligation or need to repeat.

Catching feelings will cloud your judgement which will end up costing you a lot of money and it breaks the no strings attached element of what this business is essentially about.

 

[The Caffeinated Gent]

It is also quite possible to have a good connection and never feel the obligation or need to repeat.

Catching feelings will cloud your judgement which will end up costing you a lot of money and it breaks the no strings attached element of what this business is essentially about.

You made some good points

 

[Fullhouse]

With providers, I love it when I have feels.

I love to feel their boobs, their bum, vagina, neck and face,
and I am thrilled when I feel their lips around my junior.

 

[Kissmepassionately]

Sorry to hear man, I hope you can find love again!

Thanks, I hope so myself. Great feeling that being in love! World seems like a difficult place for someone who is like me, and some of my old fashioned values, to date in. Then if I tell them that I don't work, and have no plans to ever work again, some get weird about it. I worked hard for 25 years, retired in 2020 at age 43. Some people cannot accept a man retiring at 43, they seem to be of a mindset, that their job defines them, and without it they have nothing to talk about, or do. I keep very busy, but doing what I want to be doing.
Thanks again!

 

[emacky]

Yup, it was full of regrets and heartbreak.

 

[Once you go black]

I was seeing a regular for about a year, then we started to really enjoy talking about our personal lives more. One time she even asked me about going out, maybe checking out a Canucks game since she knew i was into hockey. The unconfident chickenshit side of me kicked in and didn't take her seriously cause standing side by side, she's hella out of my league. I think a session or 2 later, tried to book her and phone girl said she couldn't see me anymore for now because sp either developed feelings or said I reminded her too much of an ex. And that was that, was unable to book her ever again, my loss cause out of my 5 years she's still in my top 3 ladies

These ladies have likely met all kinds of men, after a certain point things such as appearance probably start taking a back seat to other factors such as, do you treat her w respect or a piece of meat, does she feel comfortable around you, do you make her laugh, does she find conversations w you stimulating or engaging ? Etc

 

[RalphiEboy]

Thanks, I hope so myself. Great feeling that being in love! World seems like a difficult place for someone who is like me, and some of my old fashioned values, to date in. Then if I tell them that I don't work, and have no plans to ever work again, some get weird about it. I worked hard for 25 years, retired in 2020 at age 43. Some people cannot accept a man retiring at 43, they seem to be of a mindset, that their job defines them, and without it they have nothing to talk about, or do. I keep very busy, but doing what I want to be doing.
Thanks again!

Congratulations 🍾 on your great 👍🏻 success…! ! !

 

[elgordo]

Different twist on this topic...has anyone avoided seeing a SP because they think they WILL develop feelings based on whatever info available (looks or more so, their personality via social media) ?? I am procrastinating booking at least 2 providers because of that. Also cuz I need to drop 20lbs to feel worthy 😛

 

[westwoody]

Also cuz I need to drop 20lbs to feel worthy 😛

I stay fat so the ladies don’t fall in love with me.
I do it for them.

😎🤣

 

[ExpCharlee]

I stay fat so the ladies don’t fall in love with me.
I do it for them.

😎🤣

jokes on you cuz I love fat men