Has Anyone Had Feels For A Provider?

[DukeNukem]

I had feels for the first provider I saw lol. It happened after the second encounter. But the first encounter laid the foundation. I didn't know if I should tell her or if it would freak her out, because I know most providers just like to keep it professional and not have any emotions involved.

Anyone else had feels? How did you deal with it?

 

[LLLurkJ2]

The more interesting Q is how many providers have feels for a client?

 

[AMG-GTR]

I love feels.

This is a very common experience and the fact you’re feeling it from your first experience tells me that you may not have a lot of sexual experience outside of this one. Not that this is a bad thing, but it’s much easier to get your emotional wires crossed.

I’m not questioning your feelings, to you they are very real. At the same time, you have to ask yourself some legitimate questions about yourself, the situation, and the provider.

Is this someone you would have a relationship with normally? As in if you were to meet her on the street, or through a friend, is it a realistic relationship for you? You don’t have to answer this here but you have to get real with yourself.

I’ve dated a few SPs and also struck out with a few. I always make the joke that dating an SP is like playing a video game on the highest difficulty setting. This is to form a relationship and also keep it. It’s super complicated.

I’m not saying these things are you, just pointing out some common things that come up when this question is asked, and it comes up frequently.

As for telling this woman that you have feelings. Right now I would say no. It’s way too soon to have any genuine feelings and those feelings are highly conditional. I would also caution you to keep seeing her as I see this being something you could get lost in which may end up damaging your headspace.

I’m not some guru about relationships which is why I even have asked for advice for my own situations or to help others. I enjoy learning about things, especially things such as human interaction.

Given COVID and the lack of social interaction, be very careful how you proceed for your own sake.

 

[AMG-GTR]

The more interesting Q is how many providers have feels for a client?

Probably quite a lot. I’d say most at some point will meet someone where there could be a spark.

What the provider decides to do about it is another story. Maybe it’s a one time thing and they never see them again. Maybe it’s a regular they develop feelings for but never confide.

Of the SPs that I’m friends with or have had deep conversations about this they’ve all told me that they’ve caught feelings at one point or another. Some have even shared how pissed off they were about it because it caused them heartache.

 

[Will_iam]

The more interesting Q is how many providers have feels for a client?

I would be interested to know this as well! Maybe more common then we'd like to believe. I would also be interested to know what percentage of those client/SP relationships would actually last longer than short-term. So many more variables involved compared to a normal relationship. Obviously I've thought about this before, lol.

 

[dickdoes]

Three. Went both ways. But life changes made all of those go away. Natural. Nice while it lasted.

 

[2curious]

Feelings or connections? I have found the odd mutual spark from time to time, and could easily be mistaken for an emotional connection.
Would I have a relationship with a service provider? Sure, why not? If there's a real connection, with honesty and trust, and not telling me how I compare to their past clients...lol... theyre no different than anyone else beside having a more liberal idea of sex and intimacy.
I have had relationships in the past, and even married one, but after their SP days were well behind them, not during that career path.

Honestly, I'm more concerned with a SP crossing the line, than myself....

 

[islander1-1]

I often wish all my sessions could have feelings for the SP... Alas only about 50% is the case. And out of many SPs I have seen over the years only 4 stand out as Major electricity. Now out of these 4 I could hazard a guess only 2 cases the feelings are mutual.... I have asked one of these ladies several times.... She has said yes but your already happily married... The other I have not asked but several time she has just asked me to come over for a visit, NC. Sometimes we just chat, other times more. I get loads of electricity from these two ladies... BUT still able to keep the fact that sex and love are 2 different things..

 

[80watts]

Usually a hard on; is an indication that you like that SP somewhat, wouldn't you say?

 

[Billiam]

Usually a hard on; is an indication that you like that SP somewhat, wouldn't you say?

No. Being turned on physically and having emotional feelings for someone are not necessarily connected at all. Do you have feelings for all of the pornstars you watch?

 

[islander1-1]

No. Being turned on physically and having emotional feelings for someone are not necessarily connected at all. Do you have feelings for all of the pornstars you watch?

or... Just because you love your mother or your sister.... Does this give you a woodie.... Sex and Love are 2 DIFFERENT things.

 

[Avioneto123]

I have liked numerous SPs with tons of repeat visits, but never had a feeling for any one of them. For me is more important having a connection and feeling comfortable in my outings.

 

[80watts]

Wow.... Use, rinse and then repeat. Using SPs like a piece of meat, no feelings, on to the next SP. Use, rinse, repeat....
Sounds like a bunch of winners..... that feel nothing
As for jerking off to pornstars, its great, nothing like being with an SP though. SP are much much better.

I believe that some people on this board have no idea what sarcasm is. So easily OFFENDED!

 

[Kissmepassionately]

As friends definitely, even really good friends yes, but not the ' I am in love with you ' feelings. Going for a coffee, walk, dinner, drive, theater, fishing trip, and more is wonderful. But settle down, get married, picket fence, and mother of my children, is a no.

 

[sybian]

or... Just because you love your mother or your sister.... Does this give you a woodie.... Sex and Love are 2 DIFFERENT things.

Yeah.....or your just a little inappropriate, and have a fetish about breaking the law.

 

[angry anderson]

I did once. Badly. Went exactly the same place as all the other times I fell for civilians. Nowhere.

 

[WMD0991]

I absolutely had feels for my favourite SP. She was the second SP I’ve ever seen and honestly the second woman I’ve ever been with, and a big part of that was how genuine our connection felt, and of course she looked like almost every crush I’ve ever had, and I really wanted to please her. With that said, I keep reminding myself to stay professional and that she would probably treat any client the same way, but I did feel really special with her.

 

[Poon Raider]

The more interesting Q is how many providers have feels for a client?

I was seeing a regular for about a year, then we started to really enjoy talking about our personal lives more. One time she even asked me about going out, maybe checking out a Canucks game since she knew i was into hockey. The unconfident chickenshit side of me kicked in and didn't take her seriously cause standing side by side, she's hella out of my league. I think a session or 2 later, tried to book her and phone girl said she couldn't see me anymore for now because sp either developed feelings or said I reminded her too much of an ex. And that was that, was unable to book her ever again, my loss cause out of my 5 years she's still in my top 3 ladies

 

[Andrew69913]

I've met one, maybe two that I could easily develop a deeper relationship with. Sometimes people just click. Would I date an SP? Absolutely..long before I would date a lawyer or insurance adjudicator lol!! My question is, who is the first to cross the line and discuss changing the relationship? Overcoming the fear of losing what you already have with that person is...difficult for most. What if you're wrong and they don't feel the same, or at least are not willing to further the relationship. Either way, whatever you had before will be changed. The thing is, I think this is normal. Wouldn't you feel that way about anybody you wanted this discussion with? I know I always have...but maybe that's partly why I'm still single. How come I'm leaving with more questions than answers?? Holy rabbit hole!!!

 

[Kikoolol]

I've met one, maybe two that I could easily develop a deeper relationship with. Sometimes people just click. Would I date an SP? Absolutely..long before I would date a lawyer or insurance adjudicator lol!! My question is, who is the first to cross the line and discuss changing the relationship? Overcoming the fear of losing what you already have with that person is...difficult for most. What if you're wrong and they don't feel the same, or at least are not willing to further the relationship. Either way, whatever you had before will be changed. The thing is, I think this is normal. Wouldn't you feel that way about anybody you wanted this discussion with? I know I always have...but maybe that's partly why I'm still single. How come I'm leaving with more questions than answers?? Holy rabbit hole!!!

IMO the person receiving the money should be the one crossing the line.