Has anyone ever ended up dating the escort they were seeing or client??

[Sleepmonger]

The greatest and most successful relationships are the ones in which your LOVE for each other exceeds your NEED for each other.

Odd, I have the exact opposite opinion.

Every single couple will eventually find a time during their relationship when they no longer feel "In Love." If they still need each other then they are willing to work through issues and eventually find themselves in love again.

 

[vancouverman]

it is like any other relationship .... with just difficulty level pumped up about 10x

Every time I come to PERB .... same subject is up.
Why guys ( and girls ) treat SPs like some different kind of humans????

SPs are just like any other girls .... good, bad... and some are fantastic.
As long as you will treat them as SPs ... your "relationship" will fail.
As long as you will not believe her when she says "how happy she is with you" ... and think it is just all about money.. then your relationship is poised to fail ... FAST
Somebody said above ... take sex out of equation .... ... ... ... WRONG ..... take MONEY out of it, and instead of MONEY put CARE about each other into it .... and you have a chance.
But..... isn't that true about EVERY relationship? Wait.... I said it before .... as long as you see her as an escort ... ( and you are not a pimp ) then you have no chance in hell.
As long as she sees herself as ESCORT .... you guys have no chance in hell either.

... did I date SP in the past? .... yes... and you would hear about it if you were on PERB about 5+ years ago. But... judging from some of the current posts on PERB ... most were still in diapers then.


banner below ... some old PERB-erts will recognize the hidden meanings .... ( and one true love ) .... but it will be lost on others ..... which is OK too

LOL

 

[thebuttdance continues]

As for any relationship: mutual care, realistic expectations, and honest communication is the spark. Can that spark turn into Love?

 

[thebuttdance continues]

"We found love in a hopeless place..."

 

[thebuttdance continues]

That's Ri Ri

At ease Hunka Hunka

 

[PlayfulAlex]

"We found love in a hopeless place..."

And quite the disturbing video...how apropos!

For you detail freaks, "The video begins with a monologue about love and heartbreak by an unseen narrator, fashion model Agyness Deyn." Wiki

 

[CJ Tylers]

I keep threatening my parents with going to Vegas and finding a "Vegas Bride", every time they ask me when I'll settle down and meet someone. The point of that is that no matter where you go, or what you do, you can find the right person in the strangest of situations. Is it likely to end badly? Maybe, but you won't know until you try.

You will, however, be mocked and berated viciously on this board for doing so...and being silly enough to post about it.

 

[ThisEndUp]

And here I thought she was using old pictures at Supreme

Memories indeed Vancouverman, back to 2004/2005, drama everywhere

Alas, twas Too Late

 

[thebuttdance continues]

And quite the disturbing video...how apropos!

For you detail freaks, "The video begins with a monologue about love and heartbreak by an unseen narrator, fashion model Agyness Deyn." Wiki

That's cool about the little detail. I thought that was Rihanna being pretentious and trying an English accent!

I like the idea of the video, but I thought the male actor is off-puttingly weird looking and they could have used someone else.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

That's cool about the little detail. I thought that was Rihanna being pretentious and trying an English accent!

I like the idea of the video, but I thought the male actor is off-puttingly weird looking and they could have used someone else.

Yeah...amateur boxer Dudley O'Shaughnessy

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbi...Shaughnessy-cast-Rihannas-love-new-video.html

 

[JackTheSprat]

I did for several months.

What was the outcome/ how did the wasy you met affect the relationship?

Not sure I know what wasy means...

How did you deal with the issues

It depends on what issues you refer to. If you mean... her continuing to serve clients? I didn't DEAL with this – I knew what I was getting into! That was HER work; mine was another job. Oddly enough (from the “hobby” side of things – while she worked her job with pooners, she didn't want me to continue my hobby of pooning! Or IS it odd? Think of her work as a “Job” over a “hobby” and it levels out. Just because she is an SP does not mean she doesn't desire your faithfulness and fidelity – its her job not her life!

What has positive what was negative?

In my opinion – positive! In her's it was too. All of the “feelings” of a BF/GF relationship are there! Love is there! Excitement is there! Blindness is there! All the rainbows have extreme colour and the flowers bloom brighter while the moon shines brighter!
You don't fall in love with sex-with-her – you like her and time with her!
The ISSUE for you is in determining REAL love (as it is with her). SEX is not love; great sex is not great love!

Did she continue to work?

Yes

Did he still poon? etc.....

No!

The ISSUE that arose was not in her “work” but in my hobby of “pooning”. Although she continued to “work” she could not let go of the fact that I met her while “pooning”. While I could not DOUBT her “fidelity” (because she did this for work); she could not trust my fidelity to her in not “pooning”

A relationship with an SP is not impossible – its just difficult! But the bottom line is – she is human and so are you! The parameters of a Good Relationship does not change because of her job or yours – you need to work at making a relationship work regardless of occupation.

 

[BORKO]

I did for several months.

Not sure I know what wasy means...

The ISSUE that arose was not in her “work” but in my hobby of “pooning”. Although she continued to “work” she could not let go of the fact that I met her while “pooning”. While I could not DOUBT her “fidelity” (because she did this for work); she could not trust my fidelity to her in not “pooning”

A relationship with an SP is not impossible – its just difficult! But the bottom line is – she is human and so are you! The parameters of a Good Relationship does not change because of her job or yours – you need to work at making a relationship work regardless of occupation.

Pretty sure he means 'way'.

 

[howie knows]

That's a sticky topic. Glad someone brought it up.

I cannot tell a lie, I recently fell madly in love with an sp from nanaimo. Not a high volume gal, and the kindest women I've ever encountered. She was made aware of my feelings and graciously dance her wAy out. I won't get into the details, but she made me feel more alive and cared for, then any woman. Mended a wounded man.

 

[JackTheSprat]

That's a sticky topic. Glad someone brought it up.

I cannot tell a lie, I recently fell madly in love with an sp from nanaimo. Not a high volume gal, and the kindest women I've ever encountered. She was made aware of my feelings and graciously dance her wAy out. I won't get into the details, but she made me feel more alive and cared for, then any woman. Mended a wounded man.

Howie knows,
Its a tough deal... her JOB (especially GFE) is to be a GFE! Just don't forget the "E" at the end of GFE.

There is a dichotomy here... To "her" you must remain a "john" to keep her sanity. To you, she must remain an SP to keep yours! Yet we are engaging in an act that most reserve for at the very least - the second date (in a typical relationship) that says "I at least like you!" before sleeping together!
This BUSINESS we hobby in, bypasses this! It is straight to intimacy for cash instead of love! It can satisfy the little head instantly but confuse the big head after if the "transaction" is not clearly understood!

Here is the deal... if she is a GF - the money transaction is omitted from the evening. If she is a GFE you better pay up front.

 

[mimi]

Some excellent comments have been made here. The point I ponder is why is it ok for an sp to continue working, but the pooner should be expected to retire? They both know that when pooning, or escorting, there is a chance for romance, as that is how they met, so there stands the chance of both of them meeting someone new that they are suddenly attracted to, you know, that chemistry thing.

Monogamy is strongly associated with sex, but, it appears to affect other aspects of our lives as well, in particular, the financial aspect. Partners work together to create a good life with expectation of comfortable retirement and two people are able to secure that more effectively than one.

When an escort works she is bringing money into the relationship. When a pooner 'poons' he is taking money out of the relationship.

Pooning isn't the only example of this situation. Either person could have a severe problem with spending money, be it gambling or addiction, the end result being the same.

I wonder if on a subconscious level this is what bothers escorts when their partners see other escorts.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

Some excellent comments have been made here. The point I ponder is why is it ok for an sp to continue working, but the pooner should be expected to retire? They both know that when pooning, or escorting, there is a chance for romance, as that is how they met, so there stands the chance of both of them meeting someone new that they are suddenly attracted to, you know, that chemistry thing.

Monogamy is strongly associated with sex, but, it appears to affect other aspects of our lives as well, in particular, the financial aspect. Partners work together to create a good life with expectation of comfortable retirement and two people are able to secure that more effectively than one.

When an escort works she is bringing money into the relationship. When a pooner 'poons' he is taking money out of the relationship.

Pooning isn't the only example of this situation. Either person could have a severe problem with spending money, be it gambling or addiction, the end result being the same.

I wonder if on a subconscious level this is what bothers escorts when their partners see other escorts.

Good points, Miss Mimi...maybe their respective earnings should be kept separate until she retires and they shouldn't co-habitate, which would imply a commonlaw relationship, with shared income and expenses. I doubt there's a simple solution...

 

[juniper]

There are those like I, CJ, who would applaud such quirky and unlikely behaviour knowing, as I do, that loving familiarity, at least between a man and a woman, is exceedingly difficult to predict (although professional matchmakers are sometimes excellent at it) and the exact "chemical equation" has not been discovered, at least not yet. There are also many romanticists amongst PERB people who would not react in negative ways. So I think you overemphasize the amount of vicious and mocking behaviour to which you would fall victim. I recall a quote from the German writer, Thomas Mann, who once wrote, "Die Liebe ist nur ein Wort mit funf Buchstaben" (translated, in the English language, as: "Love is just a word with four letters.") In other words, what do we know?

I keep threatening my parents with going to Vegas and finding a "Vegas Bride", every time they ask me when I'll settle down and meet someone. The point of that is that no matter where you go, or what you do, you can find the right person in the strangest of situations. Is it likely to end badly? Maybe, but you won't know until you try.

You will, however, be mocked and berated viciously on this board for doing so...and being silly enough to post about it.

 

[CJ Tylers]

Juniper... I base my response on the historical actions of the people trolling this board. The topic is an over flogged dead horse on these boards, and there are people whom have in past (and others who will in future) see it as their solemn duty to disabuse anyone considering it of any overly romantic notions.

2 things you should never announce on this board:

1) That you're leaving, for good (the people who have truly quit and stayed away simply fade into the sunset, without a sound).
2) That you're dating an sp (the thread never ends well).

This world is nothing less than a Wonderland, no matter how real it seems.

 

[juniper]

You're right about the "Wonderland" fantasy and about the very unrealistic assertions which one finds here. I haven't paid that kind of attention to responses re "falling for" an SP. Apparently you have and you base your conclusion according to your observations of such responses. So I'll conclude that you are right about that as well as re Point Number One. My statement still stands however...as far as what I believe.

 

[sevenofnine]

A comment or two.

I have known her for ten yeas, seen her regularly for five or so, like every week to two weeks.

Its amusing that I have boinked her like a hell of a long time so whats the big deal about anything right.

But lately we have been testing the waters into well just seeing each other. Getting together for social fun because we like each other.
You wouldn't think it would matter after me and her have been getting naked for years.

But its a huge huge step.
More so for her then
me., I think, even though I am married, but she seems to worry about it more then me.
I will leave it there because I don't want to go into details and speak for her.

Sex is just a job, what she does, and something Im horny enough to pay for.

Saying I like you and being friends and taking the next step. Is something else entirely.