Has anyone ever ended up dating the escort they were seeing or client??

[gonzo34]

gonzo my man you were one lucky guy.

Yes, I was. It was a great time and I'm sad its over. However, life goes on.

You are obviously a wealthy guy. I do OK but I certainly don't have thousands of dollars to spare and if this girl had been looking for a meal ticket then she wouldn't have picked me. It sounds like you haven't been quite as fortunate as I was when it comes to these ladies. I'm not quite sure how I would react to someone bitching at me for buying her the wrong colour of car....

 

[thehedonist]

I don't see that happening. A client who can convert an sp to an actual girlfriend (and not just a sugar baby) would've been able to get her for free in the first place.

 

[gonzo34]

Hey Vera, welcome to board! I'm a relative newbie myself and I am still finding my way around. Seems like a lot of nice people post here though and I've learned a few things in these threads.

I'm divorced too. It sucks but I guess its better than being stuck in a bad marriage. My relationship with the SP came after that and she was a real ray of sunshine for me.

 

[gonzo34]

I don't see that happening. A client who can convert an sp to an actual girlfriend (and not just a sugar baby) would've been able to get her for free in the first place.

When you use terms like "get her for free" your credibility trends towards zero. You get a cocktail for free because you went to school with the bartender or you get a thanksgiving turkey for free because you got lucky in the raffle.

Relationships are a wee bit more complex than that.

 

[AA_Train]

For me, it's a near impossibility. Most ladies I've met in the industry would be uber dateable, but my desire to see them does not stem from me wanting a relationship but rather to enjoy quality female companionship for a pre-determined period of time on a particular day. I'm not looking for a relationship in this scenario, so I wouldn't put myself into the head space where I would entertain the possibility.

 

[masterblaster]

I have been seeing the same SP for nearly 8 years, the last couple of years I have found myself getting somewhat emotionally involved with her. She treats me very well and I have told her that I have feelings for her honesty is the best policy I think. She told me she didn't want a boyfriend but if she did I would be her choice.

 

[Dickson]

Yes, I was. It was a great time and I'm sad its over. However, life goes on.

You are obviously a wealthy guy. I do OK but I certainly don't have thousands of dollars to spare and if this girl had been looking for a meal ticket then she wouldn't have picked me. It sounds like you haven't been quite as fortunate as I was when it comes to these ladies. I'm not quite sure how I would react to someone bitching at me for buying her the wrong colour of car....

Needless to say but once money enters into it you can kiss it good by.

 

[sevenofnine]

I think you kind of set your own self up.

I mean your a big shot, throw your money around then get annoyed when a girl wants your money
I mean what do you expect.

I think somtimes we blind our self. Only see what we want we want to see.

I mean you treat a girl like a whore pay her money want sexual postitions and multiple shots on goal. With out regard to what she thinks.
Then you get annoyed with her with her, when you feel your relationship is just about money, your money.

You treat some one like an escort, that is what your going to get,
you treat some one like a friend at least you have a chance of having a friendship

 

[kauffman]

I think you kind of set your own self up.

I mean your a big shot, throw your money around then get annoyed when a girl wants your money
I mean what do you expect.

I think somtimes we blind our self. Only see what we want we want to see.
I mean you treat a girl like a whore pay her money want sexual postitions and multiple shots on goal. With out regard to what she thinks.
Then you get annoyed with her with her, when you feel your relationship is just about money, your money.

You treat some one like an escort, that is what your going to get,
you treat some one like a friend at least you have a chance of having a friendship

i think if you end up having a connection with an sp then msog and having her do only everything that you want will change. That is likely how it will begin but a real connection will override the intial type of interaction. I think "treating
a girl lke a whore" changes once you realize she is more than just a whore.

 

[Dickson]

I think you kind of set your own self up.

I mean your a big shot, throw your money around then get annoyed when a girl wants your money
I mean what do you expect.

I think somtimes we blind our self. Only see what we want we want to see.

I mean you treat a girl like a whore pay her money want sexual postitions and multiple shots on goal. With out regard to what she thinks.
Then you get annoyed with her with her, when you feel your relationship is just about money, your money.

You treat some one like an escort, that is what your going to get,
you treat some one like a friend at least you have a chance of having a friendship

7of9 I don't treat them like a whore. Never have never will. It is not a blind situation at all we both know going in what it is all about.

 

[sevenofnine]

The tranistion is hard.
I mean you go in paying, and expecting things in return or asking for them.
And some point down the road you find your in a friendship.

I guess its harder for me, because both me and the sp I see are involved in a full life with people in it,
were not just free to try and make a go of it.
It would be a lot different if we were. But now were sort of stuck in no mans land.

And I don't think you can deny who you are.
That is what I mean by blind or being blind.

I am no one a nobody. A walmart greeter in life.
But you know when some one wants to hang out with me, I know, its because of me.
Not my money or maybe the connections I can bring them or free hockey tickets I can pass there way, or whatever,

I think if your rich and show it off people want to hang around that, just because, you get a certain class of people.

Me being a walmart greeter certain people look right through me like Im nothing.
But that says more about them then me. I think, It says what you value in life.

And I think being blind or narrow minded is something I believe we all go through.
Its just how we look at the world.
Its hard to step in some one elses shoes and see how they look at the world and there needs and wants and desires. To understand them and accept them.

Relationships are hard dam hard. It would be so easy to just say fuck this Im done, but.
I think if there are a lot of shallow reasons why your in one, like the sex the money the status not just being alone. Your going to have a lot of issues.

I think you need to have more like a trust and very intimate emotional trust.
I think you have to be naked emotionaly with that person.
And you either go away disliking them or loving them

 

[sevenofnine]

A line from pretty women.
I have never treated you like a prostitute or something similiar.
Julie Roberts said you just did.

I think we should let the women we see judge us or say what kind of guys we are.

I try to do the best I can for her.
But when I drop money on her counter,
I expect certain things in return.

Like I said, I think we all have blinders on to some extent.

 

[Tugela]

I think that your last paragraph would be a good addition to the “Is there anything wrong with lying to one’s wife about seeing escorts?” thread.

Not really. In a real relationship you have to be prepared to compromise, and if you know that your SO would not approve of extramaritial sex then you would wouldn't do it. You might have wants or desires, but as a team or partnership, you elect to go with the lowest common denominator. That is a choice you make, and how you choose reflects on your moral fibre. The other thread is about guys who are not willing to make that compromise, so they lie. In that situation the extramaritial sex is more important to them than the relationship with their SO, a point that would not be lost on her if she found out about it. So it would be devastating. I don't see that there is anything wrong with asking, but if she says no (or you know she will), then the morally correct and honorable course of action is clear.

 

[Annalise Lane]

Good point! Women tend to equate sexual monogamy with emotional monogamy more than men do, which is why they have a problem with their SO seeing SP's. Men generally seem to be able to compartmentalize more than most women, but are still susceptible to developing feelings for SP's.

Many people equate lust with love. Love is about more then what's between someone's legs. To me love is: Dependable, Kind, Forgiving, Love sticking it out when things get tough. Sharing your life with someone is knowing everything about them, sacrificing yourself for them and still being there when the chips are down.

 

[sevenofnine]

I think a lot of people just don't get relationships. I agree with the comment that a lot of people think lust equals love.

I would go farther and say a lot of people just don't get life and people.
I think they have it all backwards.
They want to blame everyone for there problems and issues. It is so easy to find fault with everyone.
Honestly where does that get you in life. Finding fault with everyone else but you,
You can't change anyone.
The only one you can change is the guy in the mirror.
If there is a problem the place to start is the guy in the mirror,

You change the relationships you have, the quality of relatinships you have.
By changing yourself.
Be a better you and you will have better relationships,
I don't think people understand that.

 

[VanessaofBC]

I've actually had two escorts ask me to marry them...well not them, but once it was supposedly a sister. The other time it was a niece. Both were young, and from China. I politely declined both times...

I just had to say LOL. lucky guy!

 

[kauffman]

That and the relationship where you pay them for sex is just what it is. You can't be really sure if you know the SP as the real person, or the fantasy GFE person she is and things are definitely going to change if you start seeing her on an every day basis. It's probably never as fun with a SP once you find her giant man poops or when she's cranky in the morning..

True. Falling for someone wonly from the confines of an sp relationship is misguided. However trying to get to know them under normal circumstances after meeting this way would be just like any other type of dating except the "big secret" would already be out in the open. In a way. A client and an sp are the best match. You both know eahc other's dirty secret. Often people meeting in the real world present an "idealized" self and do not expose their secret sides. I think there is an honesty that is amazing inthe client sp relationship that is often unmatched in other places

 

[Sonny]

Most relationships are contaminated by all sorts of projections..... reference "The Invisible Partners" by John Sanford, a Jungian analyst.
Just who do you imagine you are in love with?

Unless you have worked out the kinks in your own psyche, you are in a continuous circle of unachievable fantasy.
And, even if you have ironed out your kinks, there are still those cycling in your prospective partner's pysche.

Folks are sadists to their own masochists.

Relationships may indeed incorporate mutual affection, admiration, respect, and other positives so forth.
But, at a fundamental level, relationships incorporate a broad series of contracts, spoken and slient, between two people.
Relationships stay steady or fall on those contracts being honoured or not.
One basic contract, often unspoken, is to not use the other person.

Ordinary relationship is challenging enough.... how much moreso for one between a client and SP?

 

[cbh1]

That and the relationship where you pay them for sex is just what it is. You can't be really sure if you know the SP as the real person, or the fantasy GFE person she is and things are definitely going to change if you start seeing her on an every day basis. It's probably never as fun with a SP once you find her giant man poops or when she's cranky in the morning..

Haha, i'm glad i read this through to get to this.

 

[wilsonbryce719]

interesting how one being exploited financially doesn't feel that way

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