What was the outcome/ how did the wasy you met affect the relationship? How did you deal with the issues. What has positive what was negative? Did she continue to work? Did he still poon? etc.....
Has anyone ever ended up dating the escort they were seeing or client??
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i wonder if we could convince the mods to make a special section for dating escort threads?
they seem to pop up about one a week or so
they seem to pop up about one a week or so
I would have to say its tough.
Just from experiance I don't know of any working sp who has a long term loving caring relationship.
Some one correct me if I'm wrong but don't know of any.
A lot of them have boy friends who have maybe even fathered a kid or two, but from what I know it was a very rocky relationship and never lasted.
And being a sperm donor and an off again on again relationship, is not a loving caring relationship.
One lady claimed to be married, but then she made this big then her hubby was going to flame her please understand. Last I heard he was in jail.
I hope Im wrong in this, and there is a loving caring couple out there and they were once client and sp.
But I don't see it. Most are just friendships with various degrees of closeness.
My take relationships are hard. Any relationship is hard period.
This hobby just adds a lot more complications.
And not really the stuff sound relationships are made of. Sex and money.
Honestly sex and money is the least important thing in a loving caring relationship.
But in this hobby sex and money its reversed its the only thing.
Not a good sound base for a relationship.
Just from experiance I don't know of any working sp who has a long term loving caring relationship.
Some one correct me if I'm wrong but don't know of any.
A lot of them have boy friends who have maybe even fathered a kid or two, but from what I know it was a very rocky relationship and never lasted.
And being a sperm donor and an off again on again relationship, is not a loving caring relationship.
One lady claimed to be married, but then she made this big then her hubby was going to flame her please understand. Last I heard he was in jail.
I hope Im wrong in this, and there is a loving caring couple out there and they were once client and sp.
But I don't see it. Most are just friendships with various degrees of closeness.
My take relationships are hard. Any relationship is hard period.
This hobby just adds a lot more complications.
And not really the stuff sound relationships are made of. Sex and money.
Honestly sex and money is the least important thing in a loving caring relationship.
But in this hobby sex and money its reversed its the only thing.
Not a good sound base for a relationship.
Agreed...I see an obvious complication. She'll probably have sex with a number of fellas (maybe even the majority) that she finds less than personally desirable. Meanwhile, he may want to continue pooning, partly because he wants to enjoy an equal amount of sex. Only he poons exclusively for enjoyment. I see hard feelings brewing.
Just found this funny.
Back on topic, I wouldn't be too hopeful as from I've seen on the board, most of these relationships don't end in happily ever after :/
Edit: Yeah pardner, these topics every other week :doh:
I dated an SP that I met professionally and it was fantastic - I wrote about it in one of the many other threads on this topic.
She asked where I was heading at the end of the session and I told her I was going to get some dinner and asked if she would like to join me, never thinking for a second that she would say yes. But she did and off we went!
She continued to work which I wasn't thrilled about obviously but we were both able to seperate her professional life from what we had together. Our sex life was awesome, best I've ever had, and we had a load of fun together. There was never any issue about money - she's pretty high end and probably made more than I do, at least when she chose to work a lot. I really encouraged and supported her in going back to university and she is now an A student and I am very proud of her.
It didn't work out in the end but that had nothing to do with her job, there were other issues that eventually made it hard for us to be together (she's vegetarian, yoga loving and very spiritual - I pray at the altar of the NFL and love a good steak..).
And yes, for those of you who read the thread I started a few days ago, she's the one who has my sweater...
She asked where I was heading at the end of the session and I told her I was going to get some dinner and asked if she would like to join me, never thinking for a second that she would say yes. But she did and off we went!
She continued to work which I wasn't thrilled about obviously but we were both able to seperate her professional life from what we had together. Our sex life was awesome, best I've ever had, and we had a load of fun together. There was never any issue about money - she's pretty high end and probably made more than I do, at least when she chose to work a lot. I really encouraged and supported her in going back to university and she is now an A student and I am very proud of her.
It didn't work out in the end but that had nothing to do with her job, there were other issues that eventually made it hard for us to be together (she's vegetarian, yoga loving and very spiritual - I pray at the altar of the NFL and love a good steak..).
And yes, for those of you who read the thread I started a few days ago, she's the one who has my sweater...
It can happen but very very rare indeed. I too have commented on this in the past but as pointed out if she asked for money know it is going no where fast.
Be very very careful for your sake and hers. It is easy to go down the wrong path here.
For me Money is always the motive in the end they are not interested in my stellar personality or my good looks. It is always about the money. Sad but true.
That said I do have a guy I know who has a long term over 10 years with a SP who live together in Asia and they might as well be married. So it can happen. But rare very rare indeed.
Be very very careful for your sake and hers. It is easy to go down the wrong path here.
For me Money is always the motive in the end they are not interested in my stellar personality or my good looks. It is always about the money. Sad but true.
That said I do have a guy I know who has a long term over 10 years with a SP who live together in Asia and they might as well be married. So it can happen. But rare very rare indeed.
I'm under no illusions about how rare this is. There is always a danger of falling a little bit in love with the higher end girls because part of the experience is them making you feel like you are the man of their dreams - and that is a pretty powerful thing (and the thing that the girls who just fuck without putting any of themselves into it don't understand).
Now, we all should know better than to allow this fantasy to take hold but sometimes we get carried away and I have no doubt that there are SPs who take advantage financially of a smitten john. I'm happy to report that this wasn't the case on this occasion but I very much doubt that lightening will strike twice. Charming as I may be, 99.9% of SPs are only doing their job and aren't using it as a dating service. I'll content myself with the memories of dating a super hot girl and having a wicked sex life for a couple of years.
I should say that I would typically pay for most things in our relationship - dinners, trips, etc. But I would do that whoever I was dating and I never felt that she was trying to exploit me financially.
Now, we all should know better than to allow this fantasy to take hold but sometimes we get carried away and I have no doubt that there are SPs who take advantage financially of a smitten john. I'm happy to report that this wasn't the case on this occasion but I very much doubt that lightening will strike twice. Charming as I may be, 99.9% of SPs are only doing their job and aren't using it as a dating service. I'll content myself with the memories of dating a super hot girl and having a wicked sex life for a couple of years.
I should say that I would typically pay for most things in our relationship - dinners, trips, etc. But I would do that whoever I was dating and I never felt that she was trying to exploit me financially.
Going out for dinner with you must be a riot. Are you one of those guys who insists on seperate bills so that you can be absolutely certain that you don't end up paying for a little bit of that other guy's steak. Or do you just sit there silently seething because someone is exploiting you by having a second cocktail?
I pay because I happen to think that the person who invites another to dinner should be the one who pays for that dinner and that would typically be me. I also pay because I loved her and taking her to nice places and looking after her made me happy.
If you think that is financial exploitation then I'm really glad that we won't be heading out together anytime soon...
I'd certainly be open to it, although I have to admit that it was challenging on occasion. I'm pretty liberal when it comes to sex but I didn't enjoy lying to friends and other associates about how we met and what she did. And the constant phone calls and texts could be annoying.
On the other hand, we did have some very interesting and amusing conversations about some of the more, shall we say "unusual" requests that her clients made.
I rationalized the whole situation by knowing that I was dating "Jenny" but it was "Penny" (her work name) who was fucking other men for money. That sounds lame but it worked for me and, as I said earlier, the demise of our relationship had nothing to do with her job.
Im sure it had a lot more to do with your personality than them wanting a residence card
gonzo my man you were one lucky guy.
For me it starts with dinners and little things. Then they get bigger and bigger. I had one who asked if I could help her out. I gave her $4000.00 because that was all I had on me, and she was pissed as she wanted $5,000.00. Now I felt exploited. Or the one who cleaned out my condo while I was away. Or the one who was pissed because the car I gave her was not candie Apple red. Or recently the one who I bought her a new camera and she returned it. Or when I bought one a beautiful leather coat and she gave it to her friend in Poland. Or one where I spent over $30,000 on her in 6 months and she was upset because I did not replace her toilets and repair her roof. The list goes on. I don't blame them as I am the fool for keep giving. They are just taking advantage of the situation.
I do hate it when I offer to buy her an outfit and she get 5. However I did meet a lady who we went shopping at Holt Renfew but she took me to the 4th floor for discount dresses. I was so impressed I bought her the two she liked, even though she offered to pay for one.
I think you get the picture.
I married a client. I quit escorting and he quit hobbying the day we moved into a house together. He spent the next year in court divorcing his first wife. She took him for everything and he was left with debt, causing him to declare bankruptcy. We got married and had a child together. We opened two businesses. We worked hard and enjoyed the family life.
In total, the relationship lasted 5 years. I gave him all of our assets and started out fresh. Initially we were still very close friends. Things went sour between new relationships, court, and he was upset that I returned to escorting. At this point we get along well enough and are settling out of court. We're still there to help each other out. We both finally realized that if we can't be together, we should still raise our child together. When it comes to the child's milestones, holidays and the like, we celebrate together as a family.
The only thing that really bothered me about being married to him was that I lost some good friends because he wanted me to cut ties with the past and move on from the industry. There were also times when he would get a tad on the jealous side if a male so much as looked at me.
The relationship between a former client/sp has it's obstacles, but it is doable. We didn't divorce over anything industry related. I think leaving the industry when things became serious was the best thing we could have possibly done.
In total, the relationship lasted 5 years. I gave him all of our assets and started out fresh. Initially we were still very close friends. Things went sour between new relationships, court, and he was upset that I returned to escorting. At this point we get along well enough and are settling out of court. We're still there to help each other out. We both finally realized that if we can't be together, we should still raise our child together. When it comes to the child's milestones, holidays and the like, we celebrate together as a family.
The only thing that really bothered me about being married to him was that I lost some good friends because he wanted me to cut ties with the past and move on from the industry. There were also times when he would get a tad on the jealous side if a male so much as looked at me.
The relationship between a former client/sp has it's obstacles, but it is doable. We didn't divorce over anything industry related. I think leaving the industry when things became serious was the best thing we could have possibly done.
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