Harasment in the workplace (looking for feedback).

[cloud_9]

lots of good stuff here, i would also say confront him in a non confrontational way, maybe use the compliment sandwich!

http://www.angermanagementgroups.com/ComplimentSandwich.html

Just change the wording

I have always considered you to be one of my best
co-workers (first compliment / positive feedback).

So when I heard that you were talking behind my back, I
felt really hurt. What I need is for you to talk to me
directly and not get others involved (critical feedback).

You have always been there for me in the past and I
know I can still count on you (second compliment /
positive feedback). I know I can still learn a lot from you even after being here for almost three years

 

[bcneil]

Better yet, next time you see him...tell him you got a poor performance review and you got questioned on who trained you. Then after you explained it was him, HR simply laughed and said "Oh that high school drop-out loser", and your performance review was changed to excellent.

The problem with this is that now you are harrassing him. Even making lies that management/hr was laughing about him calling him a loser.

And you have him teasing you that, the truck breaks down more often, now that you have it.

Think the first is worse.

 

[AubreyKisses]

You should think about writing down the exact situations down when the hear say was passed on to you, what you heard was said about you by him and practice approaching him and what you will say at home. If after you have gotten everything out to his face in the way you would like it best communicated and he reacts poorly (aggressively) then you can talk about getting a mediator with the top manager to resolve it or if it's simple a case of he said/ she said and he didn't actually say those things or did to a lesser degree then you can patch things up and move on. But ignoring it altogether is not going to solve anything and escalating to management right away before trying to deal with it yourself will alert the management that you are not able to problem solve alone before utilizing them and look poor on you.

 

[storm rider]

Deal with this problematic asshole ASAP....go through HR/management and use whatever means are needed...be it taking notes or even recording such interactions with this douchebag because the next step he may take could be to start sticking a knife in your back and trying to get you fired.

SR