Guilt over ghosting someone

[ddcanz]

Ghosting is completely off side IMO.
Have the balls to tell someone if you're dusting them.
Preferably with an actual phone call (remember those?) if a face-to-face isn't possible- at the very least with a text.
This has become such an impersonal, disposable world ruled by short attention spans, instant gratification and no responsibility for one's actions.
From an old fucker raised with a certain standard of accountability.

 

[firecracker-84]

Ghosters; perhaps grow up and learn to communicate with other humans instead of pulling this rude nonsense on people.

Ghostees; Accept, forgive, and let go. <<< being ghosted just opens up a place in your life for someone else who will actually value and respect you!! Carry on with your life, don't ruminate.

 

[fes90]

Only time I ghost people is if they don't give a shit about me. I ghosted my former best friend years ago because it got to the point where he was just using me. I just had enough of his lying ass one day and just cut all contact with him. Life has been better without him in it

PS: Ghosting isn't where you stop talking to some random chick you met a couple times on tinder. It's where you've known someone for a long enough period of time to establish some form of relationship and you cut all contact.

 

[volvoguy1979]

I also don't think ghosting is cool.
I've been ghosted and learnt to just shrug it off.

Ignore my first text, shame on you. Ignore my second text, shame on me (for trying too hard).

I've told ppl straight in texts I don't want to communicate with them anymore. One dude instantly tried calling me to patch things up. I was just tired of his baloney with me and everyone else in his life.
Several months later he tried to text me again, and I just ignored his message. I was already clear enough in my first text.
I think that's the best way to deal with people.

Then there's some people I will respond to, only if they contact me. But I refuse to keep their # on file and will never text them on my own accord ( I can tell from the area code who it is...yes, I don't have many friends, and I like it that way!)
I feel that it's nice to keep the lines of communication open.
That's what all this technology is for, isn't it?

 

[UhOh]

Don't give anyone the power of knowing it bothers you that they're ignoring you. You will earn more respect if you simply give up and move on.
If ghosting someone years ago is bothering you now then it might really be depression you are dealing with and should seek treatment for that.
People come in and out of our lives all the time. Learn to identify the ones that matter, it hurts to have only figure that out after the fact.

 

[JimDandy]

Here is a new twist on ghosting:

https://www.linkedin.com/feed/news/ghosting-has-hit-the-office-4760330/

I suspect that many of us would feel zero guilt on this form of ghosting, if only we could afford to do so.

JD

 

[EuroSZabina]

I think being honest, even when it's harsh, is much better than doing the cowardly vanishing act.

Yes, you right. I do the same but some people still don't want to hear it or believe it not sure what it is. Then I just block it.
Nothing else works.