Goldiggers and Relationships with Them

[dudeharsh123]

Wow... i just ended a whirlwind relationship with a cute little girl who was no doubt a gold digger. Little 19 year old blonde that I met at a party. We went out on a few dates, found out that I didn't have all that much in common with her. Perhaps this has to do with the fact that I am roughly over 10 years older than her. Ended up having sex with her one time, all was well and good.... Or so I thought...

Whenever we got together from then on, she would always complain about not having enough money, how she hates having to work (she does not have a job), and how she barely has enough for bills. The funny thing is, she lives with her parents. I got the hint that she wanted me to help her out... i resisted. Then it happened.

One day i picked her up to go for lunch, on the way to the restaurant she leans over, unzips my pants and starts giving me a bj! Road head, never had that before..... I was about to cum, and she stops... she looks at me and says that after lunch we should go shopping... Damn... We arrive at Cactus and have a few drinks.. At lunch she kept talking about all the clothes etc, she wanted... I dunno, maybe it was the combo of drinks, and my head buzzing from not being able to complete the bj, but i reluctantly agreed to go to the mall across the street... When we get there, she brings me to the handicap washroom.. and she says fuck me... so i do, but AGAIN, she stops before I'm about to cum... She says, we finish when we get home... AFter that I was hooked... That day i spent about $800 on her....

Thats how it all started, She said she wanted to be exclusive, and move in with me, etc.. but I knew that was a bad idea.. A while had past, and after several thousands of dollars, i realized i had to get out. I tried a few times to end it, but we usually just ended up having sex.. She had a way with her words, and knew how to work it so well, that i couldnt resist her. Finally, i just told her, that i couldnt do this anymore. She then cried, blah blah blah... So i ended up giving her $1000 and told her not to contact me anymore. Checked out her FB, looks like she got a new pair of shoes with that money.. She doesnt look too upset!

She was quite something.... What are your thoughts on gold diggers? Like? Not like? Any experiences? In retrospect, I dont really regret what happened, and i got out at the right time.

 

[Yman]

Pussy whipped

She obviously had you figured out ! lol

Sounds like you had great sex but she knew how to pull your strings. Kudos to her. Obviously its what you wanted too.

 

[lenny]

Let her know lenny wants her digits.

 

[ezsmile]

sounds like she was the person holding the carrot and you were the donkey! The tease she was giving you was a good one. I can understand stopping the bj, but I think you should have insisted on finishing the fuck in the bathroom. You are the man, you have the money, YOU have the power.

She must be very good at manipulating to be able to cry you out of $1000 just to get rid of her.

I don't think there is much wrong with gold diggers when they don't try for the whole bonanza. But then maybe if they don't go for the whole bonanza they are not really a gold digger Good thing you didn't let her move in with you. What is it, after 6 months?, you could have been her meal ticket for life and all you would have gotten would be a restraining order.

 

[princeofdarkness]

I hope you aren't too heart broken and I hope that the relationship left you with more good memories than bad.
You made the right choice. Onward and upward as they say.

My personal history with women have all been "high maintenance" material wise. I'm at fault for allowing the generosity but no complaints.
Even with a history of 4 marriages and 2 common-laws, I still have no complaints. None of them ended badly so it's all good. Some of their mothers still contact me and send me gifts and for that, I am humbled and thankful.

I am also incredibly thankful for my sharp legal advisors on drafting up a "Co-habitation Agreement" with some of the ladies. Essentially, what is mine is mine and what is yours is yours. The details spread over a couple of dozen of pages with each page initialed and witnessed. Best few grand I ever invested. While it may not go over well with most women, too bad.

Good luck dudeharsh123, life gets better if you allow it.

 

[Alix Turner]

I wish someone would coin a phrase like commitmenthunters for guys that go after women that are happily single and then stop at next to nothing to convince them to be their girlfriend exclusively even though they are more about the chase than actually in love

 

[storm rider]

All I can say is you were smart to not let her move in....still cant believe she "waterboarded" you out of a grand though :doh:

I dated a gal very briefly a number of years back....shagged her once and a couple of days later she wanted to borrow money from me....I told her I did not have money to lend...30 seconds later in the conversation she said she got wind of a super wicked investment opportunity I could get in on if I were to take equity out of my house....I told her to fuck off.....end of story.

SR

 

[C-GAUN]

And this is right around the time he figured out banging escorts really is cheaper in the long run. Sorry to hear that bro.

 

[laurel love]

So that's how it's done!!! Gawd!! I always let the guy cum!

How did she figure all this out at 19? Is there a school out there I've never heard of?

 

[vanessa kelly]

So that's how it's done!!! Gawd!! I always let the guy cum!

How did she figure all this out at 19? Is there a school out there I've never heard of?

...Lol...that made me laugh ...

Vanessa Kelly

I have more to add but have to go catch a plane

 

[Gentle-man]

So that's how it's done!!! Gawd!! I always let the guy cum!

How did she figure all this out at 19? Is there a school out there I've never heard of?

Where's the like button, LOL!

 

[Umbras]

So that's how it's done!!! Gawd!! I always let the guy cum!

How did she figure all this out at 19? Is there a school out there I've never heard of?

You don't need school for that when this stuff is blatantly shown on television on a nightly basis, especially with all the contrived reality crap shoved in our faces.

 

[InnocentBoy]

I heard one of the best ways to tell is if you take a girl out and she chooses the most expensives places/items on the menu when she knows your footing the bill.

I wish someone would coin a phrase like commitmenthunters for guys that go after women that are happily single and then stop at next to nothing to convince them to be their girlfriend exclusively even though they are more about the chase than actually in love

 

[uncleg]

I heard one of the best ways to tell is if you take a girl out and she chooses the most expensives places/items on the menu when she knows your footing the bill.

.......and once you come to that realization, you sit back and enjoy the meal, then head for the washroom and out the door just before the bill comes...

 

[ezsmile]

So that's how it's done!!! Gawd!! I always let the guy cum!

How did she figure all this out at 19? Is there a school out there I've never heard of?

Best reply by a long shot!!!

 

[wilde]

I had a GF who used similar tactics to get what she wants. I dealt with it in one of two ways. One way was to tell her straight up when she begins her cock tease routine that "if you are not going to finish what you started then don't bother". There was a couple of times she promised to finish but didn't, I simply went to the bathroom and finished the job myself. The other way is that a couple of times a month when she gets really horny, I would do the same thing to her in the middle of DATY when she is getting close to cumming, I would just get up and go take a shit or something. You have to show them that "I too can play that game..."

 

[bcneil]

I think I was lucky, my first gold digger was my first gf. Grade 10 I am from Aldergrove and had a nice farm job.
The girl had no job, so I paid for dates. But then she started asking for money to hang out with her friends.
I still remember one day in the school hall...leaving for the day...straight to work. She came and asked for $40 and was really annoyed that I only had $10.

Now anytime a lady gives off the slightest hint shes a gold digger I become very careful, and get out asap.
Ive had women ask me to pay their car insurance, high end vacations, a 2.5 tonne A/C unit for her parents house.
Three different woman, all dated less then two months.

 

[LJG]

I wish someone would coin a phrase like commitmenthunters for guys that go after women that are happily single and then stop at next to nothing to convince them to be their girlfriend exclusively even though they are more about the chase than actually in love

I think you have coined a phrase and an apt one, too -- being "more about the chase than actually in love" is descriptive of me at certain times in my life... I hope not now but of all the people I know, I know myself least well. On the other hand, I've tried my best to be generous with other versions of myself and, consequently, wonder if "committmentwannabe" might be part of "committmenthunter"? Cuz a straightforward committmenthunter is just a sociopath whereas the kind of individual you're wondering about, Alix, probably meant well. In his/her heart. And intentions are faulty. Don't get me wrong: yes, there are sociopaths. But I believe that you know the difference, at least in retrospect.