Girlfriend trouble

[Aeiyah]

It didnt happen at a bar though, and neither of us were dressed to impress. We create our own opportunities but what happens after the opening line is what counts. My last long term relationship developed as a result of a guy being brave enough to walk up to me a as a stranger and chatting me up...we are still close friends

You never know where you will meet people. Often times you have better luck when you're not out on the prowl. One of my most memorable first dates was with a woman I met on an elevator at work. The conversation started when she dropped the sandwich she had just bought. Another woman I dated I met on the same bus 3 days in a row. She normally didn't take that bus. She was house sitting for her brother for a week and was on her way to his house.

 

[FortunateOne]

Don't take rejection personally -- many women you encounter in the outside world are going to be married/attached/seeing someone. It is no reflection on you or your charms if she says no, but 10 to 1 she is going to be flattered in your interest and it is great practise. If she says she's attached, talk to her anyway. She might have a friend or sister or relative to introduce you to. There will be someone you connect with at some point.

 

[lucas_richardso]

So basically what do I need to do to grab the initial interest of a woman? Where should I go to try and meet one? Also, not that it is a deal breaker, but it would be a great bonus if I could meet an Asian woman.

BTW I live in Edmonton if that helps, but I would assume the advice isn't region specific.

Bloodrite,
The location where to find a woman doez not matter: it can be at shopping mallz, a bar, anywhere..it just doez not make any difference since all you need iz establishing some kind of link with the girlz. so very first thing is to find out about what interests any woman you meet and focus on that.
from there, itz eazy to develop solid relation.
btw: i had lotz of luck on irc chat channelz where i met lots of interesting cute ladiez and had shared personal/intimacy linkz with.

 

[Validator]

I'm not gonna give u general advice (be urself, sense of humour) cuz those are all givens.

1) Start working on making youself a better person - a person that u wanna be. Go to the gym, take cooking classes, do whatever u wanted to do to make urself proud of yourself. Don't think about getting the girl - learn to be independent. You have to learn how to have fun and enjoy life without the praise, attention and affirmation from women.learn to dress well, etc

2) When ur ready, u gotta learn to develop a thick skin for rejection. That means approaching women and just talkin to them like a friend. Some will right away reject you, others will joke with you. Keep things light and funny and do it enough times where rejection just bounces off you. Eventually, with enough practice, talkin to women comes off naturally and smoothly where askin them for their number is just the next logical step rather a major goal.

3) When u get this far, let me know and we can work on dating.

 

[lucas_richardso]

amigo,
Validator's advicez are right: be yourself! as long as you have mutual interestz
with the girl, chemistry will flow amigo!

 

[Bloodrite]

All great advice. Thanks to all of you. I will try to put some of them into pratice. Might have been easier if I would have just told that now retired SP I was in love with her. lol not likley, but damn I still think of her to this day, even after 5 years.