Girlfriend trouble

[Bloodrite]

I know this is probably a strange request on this type of board but I figure with all of you being so intelligent that I might get some good advice.

Here is my problem. I am a shy person and I find myself really uncomfortable when meeting new people. I do not do the bar scene nor am I a fan of clubs.n I have tried the internet dating thing(eharmony and plenty of fish) but even I never seem to get a response to any of the messages/initial communications I start. I do have pictures up and while I know I am not the most attractive guy I am not fugly. In all of these profiles they all claim to want a guy with a sense of humor and who are honest. Well I have a great sense of humor and I am very honest. Since I have been in the pooning game I have developed a lot of self confidence but I can't seem to get it to carry over or convey it in the right way to get a woman interested.

I am in need of help trying to find a girl friend. I know, why would I want to go through the hassle and what would probably end up costing me more in the long run to find and keep a gf when there are so many fine ladies to spend a no strings attached hour or two with. To be honest, I am sort of getting that itch to settle down and maybe someday start a family, and well that isn't too likely with a SP.

So basically what do I need to do to grab the initial interest of a woman? Where should I go to try and meet one? Also, not that it is a deal breaker, but it would be a great bonus if I could meet an Asian woman.

BTW I live in Edmonton if that helps, but I would assume the advice isn't region specific.

 

[trackstar]

You just have to get yourself out there man! If you have a good sense of humour, share it! Be the aggressor and approach women. A funny quip is a great ice-breaker. Just believe in yourself. Approach women that flash you a little smile. If you just post a pic and sit back and wait for the dates to roll in, you're gonna be a lonely man.

As far as where to meet women/ That depends on your interests. Go to the community ctr and play badminton. Join a slow pitch league. There are co-ed activities all over.

Good luck!

 

[DQ Guy]

Start by spending time doing the things you enjoy.
And maybe say hello from time to time to the girls that hang around
these places. If your not into bars/clubs thats not all that bad.
I have yet to have a lengthy relationship with any girl I've met there.
all you really need is to have a little patience.. and most of all
Try not to always be there for someone new. You don't want to fall into
the were just friends category. maybe try the library, or the park, hell
go camping with some buddies and try chatting to the other campers around.

 

[SilkyJohnson]

Well if this was vancouver all you would have to do is mention you have a car and thats it. Doesnt have to be nice, just so she won't have to take public transport and you can drive her all around town. Oh dont forget money, that works anywhere.

 

[Bloodrite]

Well if this was vancouver all you would have to do is mention you have a car and thats it. Doesnt have to be nice, just so she won't have to take public transport and you can drive her all around town. Oh dont forget money, that works anywhere.

Well money is not an issue and being Edmonton everyone seems to have a car. Though I do have a big ass truck. It has worked a few times to get the odd one night stand but Nothing worth while.

 

[trackstar]

Well if this was vancouver all you would have to do is mention you have a car and thats it. Doesnt have to be nice, just so she won't have to take public transport and you can drive her all around town. Oh dont forget money, that works anywhere.

I'm guessing you're a single man, yeah? I think that's advice for someone looking for a sw

 

[MissJasmine]

Well if this was vancouver all you would have to do is mention you have a car and thats it. Doesnt have to be nice, just so she won't have to take public transport and you can drive her all around town. Oh dont forget money, that works anywhere.

That doesnt work if her car is nicer than his though

Try joining a "common interest" group like a running or reading club. Its a casual no pressure way of meeting people without using the web (which can get kinda impersonal). When you are not trying to impress women and doing something you enjoy, you are often the most attractive to them.

At some point in time though you just have to step out of your comfort zone... like the other day I was walking down the sidewalk in sweats and a guy came up to me, gave me his card and asked if I'd like to go for coffee sometime. I thought to myself "that took some guts"... so I'm calling him

 

[trackstar]

I thought to myself "that took some guts"... so I'm calling him

Yup! See you Sunday?

 

[SilkyJohnson]

And when u see that car? Your pants will fall off right? If no car and no money your gonna walk.

 

[MissJasmine]

And when u see that car? Your pants will fall off right? If no car and no money your gonna walk.

Not so. I'd drive my own car ANY day rather than sit in the passenger seat of someone elses.

 

[SilkyJohnson]

Until gas prices go thru the roof.

 

[trackstar]

And when u see that car? Your pants will fall off right? If no car and no money your gonna walk.

Okay, I have never met MJ in person, but I'm pretty sure you won't see her kissing too many asses for money, nor rides. Kicking your ass for it, yes.

 

[Lovely Rubi]

At some point in time though you just have to step out of your comfort zone... like the other day I was walking down the sidewalk in sweats and a guy came up to me, gave me his card and asked if I'd like to go for coffee sometime. I thought to myself "that took some guts"... so I'm calling him

were you walking around downtown? I've noticed the guys here are more liable to do that, in the short time that I've lived here I've had more men smile, wave, and/or talk to me than one year spent in my old city.

I <3 vancouver

 

[trackstar]

were you walking around downtown? I've noticed the guys here are more liable to do that, in the short time that I've lived here I've had more men smile, wave, and/or talk to me than one year spent in my old city.

I <3 vancouver

Well duh, we're here for the oceans AND the mountains. With mountains like yours, who's gonna pass that up???

 

[Lovely Rubi]

Well duh, we're here for the oceans AND the mountains. With mountains like yours, who's gonna pass that up???

yes, Kilimanjaro ain't got shit on "The Twins"

I should mention that the guys are generally interested until they realize that I'm more likely to have them face down ass up as opposed to it being the other way around

such is life, lol.

 

[Lovely Rubi]

In all seriousness though, trackstar's original advice is pretty much spot on

Those who are the first to help themselves reap the benefits, if you sit back waiting for something to happen who knows how many opportunities you may have missed

seize the day, grab the bull by the balls and all that stuff

 

[trackstar]

seize the day, grab the bull by the balls and all that stuff

That kind of date will get you arrested

 

[MissJasmine]

were you walking around downtown? I've noticed the guys here are more liable to do that, in the short time that I've lived here I've had more men smile, wave, and/or talk to me than one year spent in my old city.

I <3 vancouver

Actually no I was visiting family in a secluded area, but yes people are generally more outgoing downtown.

Not to burst your bubble, but this is a very common move. Guys know if they hand out 10 saying the same thing 2-3 will call. It's just like sales, a numbers game.

You may very well be right. It didnt happen at a bar though, and neither of us were dressed to impress. We create our own opportunities but what happens after the opening line is what counts. My last long term relationship developed as a result of a guy being brave enough to walk up to me a as a stranger and chatting me up...we are still close friends

 

[Lovely Rubi]

That kind of date will get you arrested

only if you solicit the ball grabbing

best to use codewords, I think BG is a good one

 

[mick_eight]

I found the best way is to say hello , then lick my eyebrows with my tongue. Works most of the time.