Girl: Don't call me again

[JessicaPrabbit]

My very own mother and father celebrated their 50th Wedding anniversary just two weeks ago! I do understand that remaining together is possible and under the best of circumstances it may even be done amicably and joyfully.

Juniper I'm very happy that you have interpreted what I've written in the manner you have. I've had this discussion with many people over the past decade. My thoughts on this, as I explained, run very deeply.

Treasure the moments you can, while they exist and don't regret or resent what has happened, not for a moment. There are not enough moments given to us to spend on regret, resentment and remorse. Find happiness within yourself and I promise that happiness will find it's way to those around you.

Do what you can while you can in the moment that is now. Love all. Befriend everyone. Never judge. Remember we are often hardest on those we love ...we rarely destroy someone's day emotionally if we don't know them, we tend to save that for those who are closest to us. Doesn't make much sense does it? Be as nice to the people you come home to every day as you are to the strangers who you pass everyday. If that means saying nothing instead of saying something negative ...choose to say nothing. The choice is yours, only yours.

And for goodness sake, when someone is changing at a rate differently than you are as a result of our environment ...give them and yourself much needed grace to remain at peace.

BunnyHugs
JessicaPRabbit

 

[TwoBrownie]

What a fag. Stop bugging on her and grow a pair.

 

[oppai]

When you are happy with yourself, only then may you be happy in a relationship. If YOU have issues they will ALWAYS transfer over to the relationship. Until you are confident and happy with yourself, and find someone the same you will have a relationship that will fail....or will not make you happy...or etc etc

 

[juniper]

To Dood: Your pain is evident. I have been there, myself, on more than one occasion. As I got older, I gave up the idea of establishing a new relationship and simply paid for the sexual outlet I required. Things became easier as a result. I did have children, however, and that has given me a blessed gift which I value now as my greatest treasure. I don't read anything about children in your case; I find that sad. At any rate, I don't really have any contribution beyond that to make other than the fact that in time the pain will recede. I'm sure you've heard that before and it's not very comforting now but, still, it is the case. All the best to you.

Oh, almost forgot. Who is Larrisa t.? Her post verged on the profound although she's obviously not completely fluent in English. You mention her in a loving way. I'm just curious. Thanks, in advance, for your response.

 

[sonoman]

When you are happy with yourself, only then may you be happy in a relationship. If YOU have issues they will ALWAYS transfer over to the relationship.

when you become a better self, you bring a greater person to the table for your relationships at work, with family, friends and in a romantic context.

If you are striving to be a better version of yourself always, no matter what happens.. you can't lose out on that investment

Well said, guys.

 

[jnewton]

Oh fucking PLEASE dude. Stop screwing SP's???. STFU and listen. In this world, the women have ALL the power & men are "disposable" to them. They get what they need from a guy, then ceremoniously dump that dude and move on. The reality is men are stupid and they dance and sing when a pretty face stands in front of them. Women KNOW this shit.

What I hate most about this quote is it's all too often very true. Sadly, even when we men know this, we fall for it time and time again. However, I don't agree with Dood about the "business" model. Women treating men like a business transaction is the whole reason for the rant above. The solution isn't to buy into that mentality but all too often, men do just that. How often do men view women in much the same way but instead the item being traded is sex instead of "things"? How many men use a woman for sexual pleasure, then toss her aside when someone more interesting comes along or when the guy finds someone "respectable" to settle down with? When men and women use each other as tools instead of valueing their humanity, everyone is hurt.