Gettin' Your Freak On! Do you tell or not?

[curvy_nympho]

"Professional life" aside, in my personal I have been rather experimental.

When I am dating, I often find that the question, "What is the kinkiest (wildest, craziest, most dirty, etc) thing you have ever done?" comes up.

I never know how to answer.

I have told the blunt truth. The guy was shocked and couldn't handle it. (His kinkiest was "doing it on the kitchen table")

I have picked something in the medium kink factor range and still had a poor reaction from other fellows.

It seems that some men are intimidated by a woman who has experimented or tried more things than they have.

Has anyone else run into this? Men, are you intimidated or turned on by an "experienced" woman?


Bella

 

[afterplay]

... It seems that some men are intimidated by a woman who has experimented or tried more things than they have.

Has anyone else run into this? Men, are you intimidated or turned on by an "experienced" woman?

I like experienced women - trying new things in the sack is fun! Vanillas can be converted to kinky, but you have to be gentle breakin' 'em in. Kink is not something I do on a first date: kiss: yes, grope: yes, sex: yes. Kink: probably on the second date, or at least well into the MSOG or extended hours if it's with an SP...

 

[Victoria Rose]

Well, I don't know about the guys...

but there was something I always wanted to try with a guy and never had and I just casually brought it up with this guy I was seeing last year. I thought he was the shiest cowboy and would just not handle it and to my amazement he said "Make sure you do such and such if you try that on me."

I looked at him funny and asked if he actually wanted to try it and he kind of shrugged like sure, whatever. I ended up trying it with him and it was so-so. I mean, I think if I'd had the chance to fine-tune my technique he would have really enjoyed it much more than he did.

Anyway, not all guys are as freaked out by some things as you think they will be. Some turn out to be astonishingly open-minded when you least expect it.

Mind you, I don't know just how kinky you're talking about—you could be on a whole other level than I am.

 

[curvy_nympho]

Kink Factor

If you have seen the show "Kink", I am probably 60% of that if you have Vanilla at one end and the Kink people at the other end.

I just like trying new things and making my fantasies a reality.

I realize that there are open minded people out there, but I seem to run into people (in my dating life) who haven't really experienced much.

I will usually try and feel the situation out or make the other person tell me first so that I can guage what to tell.

It's not that I wouldn't be open with someone if the relationship got to be serious, but I don't want to scare someone off either. (for some people, having a huge box of sex toys under the bed is too kinky!)

Bella

 

[visiting]

Hey Bella,

I consider myself a shy guy, (my friends would not) but with someone I just meet, I am shy, even more so if I have an interest in that person. Now depending on who is present and herd your remark, I would have a different reaction to what you said. from what the Hell, to I dare you to....

I really enjoy my partner to experiment, for me it's all about each other's enjoyment, well ok as an SP once told me it was about my enjoyment... but sometimes, when you see your partner is enjoying themselves a great deal, that is a major turn on.

I have heard, and done some crazy shit over the years, so I don't think anything you say would bother me, and in most cases if it was something enjoyable, I would get turned on. I mean there are things you don't really want to try/do with your SO, if the relationship is not solid or too new. I would say depending on the maturity/experience of the guy, the nastier the better, and we love it when you try things.(almost anything) We men are always afraid your going to flip-out at our requests so that is why it normally takes time to build the strength to ask..... Also you women remember everything, every little detail, so if your going to be with that person for the rest of your life you may not what her to keep bringing this up, where as if it is a Fu.k Buddy, you just don't care.

Honestly I think most of my friends would be bragging about there SO if she had exceptional experiences.

 

[curvy_nympho]

Afterplay and Visiting

It's good to hear there are open minded men out there!

I understand that there are some women out there who are not into anything outside of vanilla sex with the lights out! I have met some clients over this past year who just wanted to try things that I consider to be "normal" sex acts because their SO or wife wouldn't do that type of thing.

I can't imagine being so uptight that I wouldn't let a man eat my pussy or use a dildo on me or spank me or...or...or...the possibilities for me are endless.

I think there are a lot of people who have fetishes or preferences but are scared to bring them up with their SO or partner because they are scared of rejection or ridicule.

I think I am now afraid of telling someone new about my experiences because I am afraid of being judged or rejected too.


Bella

 

[visiting]

Bella,

I think this board will be pretty one sided on this subject!

We want the juicy details!!!

 

[Annalise Lane]

Bella,

I think this board will be pretty one sided on this subject!

We want the juicy details!!!

count me in, Bella lets hear it !!

Three questions

What do you want to do and haven't ?

What have you done and want to do again ?

What have you done and wont do again EVER ?

 

[curvy_nympho]

No Juicy Details!

Sorry, no juicy details. My private life and my professional life don't mix. If I told you, I would have to kill you all! LOL

Well, maybe I can tell a few.

Really, my original question was about whether or not men like an "experienced" woman or feel threatened by it.

I guess there may not be many men who will admit to being threatened or intimidated by a woman who has more experience. Perhaps this is a dumb question then! LOL

Bella

 

[curvy_nympho]

Ms. Annalise you have to do the same then!

Three questions

What do you want to do and haven't ?
I want to be in the middle of two bi-sexual men.

What have you done and want to do again ?
There are too many things I love to do. The top fantasy right now is to be tied up and blind folded with someone I trust in the room directing multiple partners on how to please me.

What have you done and wont do again EVER ?
I will never have sex with a "newbie" woman again. I am tired of breaking the new ones in!

Your turn Annalise!


Bella

 

[visiting]

Hey Bella,

You could mention something that a happened to a friend........

Then you would get an honest reation from the men.. ..



Annalise Lane, I don't see you writing.......

 

[curvy_nympho]

So TJ

What do you want to do that you haven't?

Bella

 

[Skol]

The top fantasy right now is to be tied up and blind folded with someone I trust in the room directing multiple partners on how to please me.

With candle wax and a knife or without?

 

[curvy_nympho]

Candle Wax is a do,

A knife may or may not depending on what it might be used for. Personally, I am not into blood play.

Bella

 

[visiting]

While we wait for Annalise to respond.....

Three questions
What have you done and want to do again ?
There are too many things I love to do. The top fantasy right now is to be tied up and blind folded with someone I trust in the room directing multiple partners on how to please me.
Bella

How many partners are we talking about?

 

[Skol]

A knife may or may not depending on what it might be used for.

Slowly peel the wax off the skin.

 

[georgebushmoron]

Has anyone else run into this? Men, are you intimidated or turned on by an "experienced" woman?

I'm definitely not a shy guy. I don't shy from telling a girl what I want, and what I want to do (to her). As for listening to what kind of kinky things she wants, it doesn't intimidate me.

There is a thing to keep in mind with kink, however. Kinky sex with someone requires a good fit of personalities and personal tastes. One can be kinky one way, while the other can be kinky another way, yet would turn each other off. So while I may listen to a woman's kinks, it doesn't always follow that I should find them particularly exciting or a turn-on. Of course, this applies the other way around too.

 

[DeaAphrodite]

Define "kink"

I've been asked that question, "what's the kinkiest thing you've done?"

Years ago, I used to be able to answer with some stories that many would find shocking. But the more experienced I get, the less defined "kink" becomes. A lot of stuff just doesn't seem that freaky anymore. Or maybe it is just that I've become aware that the range of "normal" is so much more huge than I used to think it was. There is always someone freakier out there, too. I still come across things that shock me (not often though ), and things that I wonder, "How is that pleasurable in any way?" But too each their own...

Now when I get asked the question, I ask the person to define "kink" first, so I know what level they are on, and how to answer, what level of "shocking" the person is looking for.

Some stuff I have maybe tried once or twice, just to explore, but that doesn't necessarily mean that I'm "into it" and can't wait to do it again. Also, as an SP I've done things that are rather "out there," as a service to the person who wants them, but those are not for my pleasure or to fulfill my desires. Done it, yes; want to do it again, maybe or maybe not. But these sorts of experiences are all just lessons in the school of life... why not try it out if its not dangerous or insane?

 

[hardboy4]

I'm not shocked by a woman's kinks. In fact, a woman who will freely describe her desires is one, IMHO, who is in touch with herself and proud of it! To me, you are confident, sexual person and, therefore, much more desirable.

 

[Annalise Lane]

Yes Ma'am ... Bella this is for YOU !!

Three questions

What do you want to do and haven't ?
I want to be romanced from beginning to end of a date. To have a man look at me like he loved me and would cherish me forever. To make love to me in a room full of balloons, take me to a bath and care for me. He would feed me, he would NOT fuck me but make slow passionate love to me.

What have you done and want to do again ?
I want to try another one on one with a woman, without a man involved. Ive only done it once, so I'd like to do it again. ~ practice makes perfect ~

What have you done and wont do again EVER ?
I wont EVER have sex in the wilderness with all the bugs around.