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Of course I was not trying to imply that any one style is better than the other... Simply makes me nervous, personally. If you can do it, more power to ya! I'm sure plenty of gentlemen prefer the telephone method :thumb:
Sps are woman too. Everyone has their favourite part of the body. If yours are feet it is a good idea to bring it up and if the lady does not seem positive or enthusiastic about it there are so many others to choose from.
If someones response is "why?" they just have their guards up. e.g. Does the client want to massage them, C** on them. do you want to suck my toes or just look at them. Are you buying shoes, because I have different size for heels vs. boots.?
Women sometimes do not take enough time on the phone with the client tio answer all their questions patiently, for whatever reason the lady has. Thank the gods this city is full of fine looking SPs some who are more than happy to patiently answer all your question, so when you find the one who takes the time to answer everything, it is always very nice to BOOK!!!
edit: and that is where the OPs frustrations lay. In the fact that is is the SAME guys calling over and over (aka "circle jerkers"), asking the same questions and then still...NEVER BOOKING!?!!?:doh:
Some people err on the side of caution and wait a bit to answer an email . I do this if I'm a bit unsure the tone of the email and especially if the information is on my web site . Still I can't assume everyone understands everything I write . I prefer they ask .
I prefer to attract men who care enough about themselves to check a few things out first before asking questions but in my experience men ask questions for the same reason I do and those question are occasionally annoying , redundant or even stupid because sometimes it takes a couple of those to get to the point . I know the difference and I enjoy getting to know people so I accept this is apart of building new friendships not just with escorting but in all interactions with a new person .
What this poster is talking about is the idiots that continually call for years asking the same bullshit and wasting time . Agreed annoying to the max . Lucky I don't think what she is talking about is the same thing as what your speaking because what your talking about is a flake and of course that's annoying and I agree a waste of time !
I prefer to attract men who care enough about themselves to check a few things out first before asking questions but in my experience men ask questions for the same reason I do and those question are occasionally annoying , redundant or even stupid because sometimes it takes a couple of those to get to the point . I know the difference and I enjoy getting to know people so I accept this is apart of building new friendships not just with escorting but in all interactions with a new person .
What this poster is talking about is the idiots that continually call for years asking the same bullshit and wasting time . Agreed annoying to the max . Lucky I don't think what she is talking about is the same thing as what your speaking because what your talking about is a flake and of course that's annoying and I agree a waste of time !
I speak as someone who sees many SPs, has a job and is not afraid to spend money. While I appreciate the problem SPs would have with many texts and emails, I personally need to have some email/text interaction first to see if the SP sounds like someone I would want to see. I will also, as a previous poster said, get flirty on those messages, as for me it builds the anticipation of seeing this person. I understand SPs have to deal with a lot of texters/emails who are wasting their time, but there are some of us who legitimately need to have this type of interaction before deciding to see you.
And BTW, just because someone who has been texting or emailing an SP does not immediately see them does not mean they were wasting their time or do not have a job. Perhaps they did not feel a bond with the SP from the answers. Or perhaps they will see the SP weeks or months later.
I get the venting of the OP but I think there does need to be something said from the other side of the fence.
WH
And BTW, just because someone who has been texting or emailing an SP does not immediately see them does not mean they were wasting their time or do not have a job. Perhaps they did not feel a bond with the SP from the answers. Or perhaps they will see the SP weeks or months later.
I get the venting of the OP but I think there does need to be something said from the other side of the fence.
WH
Is true. It could be a month before I book after making first contact and I will only contact through email. My phone belongs to my employer and no way I'm using it to book playtime.
If I'm really serious about a lady,
There is only one question I ask,
Can we get together?
If two adults are willing and interested, I'm sure they can find something to do that is or works for both of them.
If I find myself chatting a lady up, its more about gaging her personality her mood, which means to me any way, there are some flags that have gone up.
And if a lady can't answer a question a normal every day question for someone in this, well that says something doesn't it.
There is only one question I ask,
Can we get together?
If two adults are willing and interested, I'm sure they can find something to do that is or works for both of them.
If I find myself chatting a lady up, its more about gaging her personality her mood, which means to me any way, there are some flags that have gone up.
And if a lady can't answer a question a normal every day question for someone in this, well that says something doesn't it.
thats why text is best ....both their hands are kept busy hehe
and if the conversation turns ugly just ignore the texts
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why do most ladies have websites? to post pertinent information.
many have other careers or obligations that dont allow them to speak freely on the phone so it gets frustrating
now imagine getting 20,30, 40+ calls EVERY day of men wanting to know what are your restrictions, what are your rates, where are you located, etc etc
to go through it all with every caller (many of whom call on a regular basis asking the same things)would consume every waking moment some days .
THAT is WHY most ladies have a WEBSITE!
many have other careers or obligations that dont allow them to speak freely on the phone so it gets frustrating
now imagine getting 20,30, 40+ calls EVERY day of men wanting to know what are your restrictions, what are your rates, where are you located, etc etc
to go through it all with every caller (many of whom call on a regular basis asking the same things)would consume every waking moment some days .
THAT is WHY most ladies have a WEBSITE!
i like being text-only...to be honest i'm very shy on the phone and my heart starts pounding really fast when i have to speak to a stranger on the phone, so i completely restricted incoming phone call access in my phone, and can only receive text. this also ensures the person actually read my ad and the part that says "text only please" and is fulfilling a request - its a good sign...and i cant hear anyone properly and always have to get them to repeat or have to repeat myself over and over, so for me overall i'm a total text person...i know im in a minority here but im usually a minority in all aspects of my life lol
I am out there in the public
And some days I just could scream with all the stupid people out there.
The more stupid they are the more effort it takes the more time it takes to deal with them.
I had to take a class last week, for work.
some guy wouldn't shut up, he kept talking and talking it was ten and night everyone was up since like six or earlier.
And this guy kept talking and talking stretching it longer and longer. Finally some one pretty much yelled at him shut up all ready.
Sorry ladies. Part and parcel of the job,
And some days I just could scream with all the stupid people out there.
The more stupid they are the more effort it takes the more time it takes to deal with them.
I had to take a class last week, for work.
some guy wouldn't shut up, he kept talking and talking it was ten and night everyone was up since like six or earlier.
And this guy kept talking and talking stretching it longer and longer. Finally some one pretty much yelled at him shut up all ready.
Sorry ladies. Part and parcel of the job,
Luckydick has it pretty much nailed. When I call I prefer to talk for a bit about whatever, however the conversation flows, to get a feel for the person I may be spending some time with in the next little while. I dial the number because it is available, and the conversation typically starts with words that are common in this business/hobby. Some guys and some girls are more open both in terms of what they will do, want to do, or will talk about. It is not so much what is said as how its said for me. Like a bj, it is not so much that I get a bj, but how I get a bj or how it is performed on my fantastically huge perfect dick that is mine. and if she tells me shit like that, when I am in the mood for it. For hobbyists talking is part of the deal, for business people giving customers what they want will garner more repeat business - this is no brainer stuff.
What the OP complained about is the repeat never a customer fuckwads. I was one of them when I was just starting out. I was so nervous, feeling guilty, scared of getting caught, all that crap. After a couple decades and how many women . . . now I feel like some SPs are fuckwads because they can't talk the language of the business. That is part of the communication gap in this game
and if she tells me shit like that, when I am in the mood for it. For hobbyists talking is part of the deal, for business people giving customers what they want will garner more repeat business - this is no brainer stuff.What the OP complained about is the repeat never a customer fuckwads. I was one of them when I was just starting out. I was so nervous, feeling guilty, scared of getting caught, all that crap. After a couple decades and how many women . . . now I feel like some SPs are fuckwads because they can't talk the language of the business. That is part of the communication gap in this game
Here here. I feel the same way. Due to travel schedules it might months before I get back to Vancouver. However when I get in I see SPs that make me feel good. Recently I spent over 40,000 Euros on a SP over time. So to those ladies out there becareful before you judge. Guys have the same issue. I can not tell you how many times I have hired a SPs for the night or an over night only to be disappointed and waste my time and money.
This is actually one of the of the things that comes up time and time again here. If you want a telephone connection with a lady, it makes sense not to chase after someone whose ad states "text or e-mail only"! When you push the issue, and receive a curt response, I don't think you should feel high-and-mighty, I think you should question your motives.
I am happy to answer any and all questions, by phone, text, or e-mail, when I'm able, and when the inquiry seems legit. If a call comes in, and I'm not in a position to answer it, I will typically reply with a text, explaining such. If a text comes in while I don't have my phone with me, I'll often reply later, explaining such. E-mails always get a reply.
Exceptions: I almost never reply to a caller that has contacted me between midnight and 9am, because I presume that they're looking for something I don't offer. I've been advertising Daytime Playtime for long enough that I just don't feel like explaining that any more. If someone is calling at that hour, by the time I replied to them, they'd likely have found someone else anyway, so I just don't think it's important that I reply, nor is it expected.
In reference to the OPs irritation at those who contact frequently but never book, yes, I think that just goes with the territory (due to a variety of factors, all mentioned elsewhere in this thread). We all need to find a way to make and defend our own boundaries, while still being open enough to engage the serious inquiry. This requires an exceptional array of skills.
Maybe someday, I'll own a massage parlour. Should that happen, Vancouver pooners would enjoy a level of service previously unheard of. But that's another chapter to my life, which has yet to be revealed!
I am happy to answer any and all questions, by phone, text, or e-mail, when I'm able, and when the inquiry seems legit. If a call comes in, and I'm not in a position to answer it, I will typically reply with a text, explaining such. If a text comes in while I don't have my phone with me, I'll often reply later, explaining such. E-mails always get a reply.
Exceptions: I almost never reply to a caller that has contacted me between midnight and 9am, because I presume that they're looking for something I don't offer. I've been advertising Daytime Playtime for long enough that I just don't feel like explaining that any more. If someone is calling at that hour, by the time I replied to them, they'd likely have found someone else anyway, so I just don't think it's important that I reply, nor is it expected.
In reference to the OPs irritation at those who contact frequently but never book, yes, I think that just goes with the territory (due to a variety of factors, all mentioned elsewhere in this thread). We all need to find a way to make and defend our own boundaries, while still being open enough to engage the serious inquiry. This requires an exceptional array of skills.
Maybe someday, I'll own a massage parlour. Should that happen, Vancouver pooners would enjoy a level of service previously unheard of. But that's another chapter to my life, which has yet to be revealed!
i guess posting rules have changed for ladies in blue?
so that being said..i prefer to chat /correspond alot before i book! thats why i miss ersbook. i like to have some kind of connection with a fellow im going to be intimate with,as well as get a feel for who he is and what his desires are so i can plan the perfect session for him. i have no problem answering their questions concerning what they are seeking. its just the guys who dont go past the pic and phone number and so are asking all the basic questions that are answered in the first lines of the ad ! only to have them conclude with "oh thats too far away" or "oh i was looking for a young girl" . these are the ones that frustrate me
I feel the same way but from the other side. I hate hearing from a 20 something who meets me and trys to nickel and dime me. Extra this extra that and keeps looking at her watch or her phone and says are you done yet. Talk about disconnect. I pay and and I want to feel something. I want her to want to spend time with me. Yes I pay her to have dinner to say things I want to here. What is wrong with that?
So it sounds like we have the same issues just from different sides. Even though I am paying ant her to at least pretent to be into me or have an interest. Too much to ask?
