Frustration with a local SP

[ComicalKazee]

For the past seven weeks now I have been trying to connect with a local SP who advertises on EC. I won't mention who, but she goes by the name associated with a small European country famous for tulips.

It started on Jan 8th, when I e-mailed her to try to set up an appointment. She replied, saying that today is not good but we should try for the next week. Okay, next week comes and I try again. This time, she replies and says today looks good, and that I should e-mail her later to confirm. I did that, and again she replied. This time she says something came up and I should try again tomorrow. I did again, and again...... 'e-mail me back later for confirmation'. I did again, and again, 'something came up and we should try for later in the week. Later in the week, I e-mailed her again, and the same thing happened...... 'something came up. Try again tomorrow'. I tried again and again and again with the same result. She promised me that she would make it up for me with a special rate, service, etc. a couple of weeks ago, I e-mailed and she replied, saying that her sister was expecting a baby and that she wanted to be with her for the delivery. We played e-mail tag and then she said she had to take some time off work for personal reasons and she was not seeing clients for a while. Then last week, she replied to my e-mail, saying that the appointment we made for the next day was "100% assured". The next day I e-mailed to confirm the appointment. Guess what? She replied (immediately) saying that her sister just called and wasn't sure when she would be back, and she was stuck babysitting her sister's kids.

I noticed earlier this week on her EC ad that she was accepting appointments for Saturday the 27th. I e-mailed her a couple of days ago and she replied, saying that Saturday is good, and she would e-mail me on that day to confirm. Well she did e-mail me, but with more bad news. She said she suddenly became very ill and wasn't keeping appointments for this day. Again, she said that she would make this up for me.

Then I had an idea. I used my friend's e-mail account to e-mail her (with his permission... another pooner who has never seen her). She replied to this e-mail, saying that she is booking clients today, and I should e-mail her at 6:00 to confirm a late night appointment. I e-mailed her again with my friend's account. She replied, saying that 'something came up' and she wasn't taking appointments. Strange.... earlier she stated that she was sick and wasn't even considering appointments for this day.

This makes a total of 16 appointments that I have made with her, all of which were cancelled at the last moment.

Why do some SPs play games like this? I mean come on.... I gave her a very good reference. I always chose my words very carefully in my e-mails so I would not offend her, even after the numerous cancellations.

WTF??

 

[Ironpump]

Probably because something better came up. Maybe it was one of her regulars? Also keep in mind, you did email the hardest person to contact on EC in Winnipeg.

 

[Sixpak]

I know lots of guys who say they won't try to contact her anymore after a cancellation or two.
I know that I wouldn't .... seeing her once was sufficient, but CK is hoping to see her for the first time, so I guess he is more determined! A pooner that says he is one of her regulars stated that if he tries to book her for a couple of hours she will honor his appt and 'bounce' the previously booked 1 hour ones - not sure if that is true. Not honorable imho, but maybe this business is a bidding war for some!!! ;-)

 

[ComicalKazee]

Probably because something better came up. Maybe it was one of her regulars? Also keep in mind, you did email the hardest person to contact on EC in Winnipeg.

No Iron, I don't buy the notion that she had a regular in the works. Come on.... as I mentioned, I had 16 appointments set up, all of which were cancelled. If she doesn't want to book new clients, fine. Just don't play silly childish games like this. There's more to this that I will never understand. As far as a 'bidding war' goes.... I don't buy that also. We're dealing with an SP who has no dignity, no honour. Such an SP, even with the gorgeous body she possesses, will never deserve my clientele. I think it's important to get the word out about her. Winnipeg is too small of a market to behave with an unprofessional reputation.

I invite all retorts, especially from this SP herself.

 

[TheDog]

I gave up too after the same experience and I doubt she cares about losing my business because she probably has many other clients or regulars. That's cool, and I don't really care either because there's enough other choices. Thing with her is she always seems to need several days notice. Well that's all cool too except how the hell can I do that in this business?? It's not like I'm going to the dentist so that just doesn't work for me personally. Some notice like a few hours of course .... but 3, 4, 5 days? Nah-huh, I have to make my move more or less when peter gets restless and the opportunity to get out is there.

 

[Soleil]

As an aside, I can't tell you guys how many emails I get, that I take time in responding to, addressing any issues or questions etc. and I never, ever hear back from them again. I empathize completely with what you went through ComicalKazee, but I share the same frustration from the other side. I chalk it up to fate. They never respond again? I'm probably better off not seeing them anyway. She probably did you a favour in the end. I'm sure that doesn't make you feel much better, but I tried! lol

 

[MRGREEN]

My friend Binder Dundat had the exact same experiences....and after several cancellations the actual meeting was pretty anticlimactic

Peace
Mr Green

 

[Jethro Bodine]

She is one of 2 SP's that I've given up on seeing because of this kind of thing. Sure, something can always come up, its happened to me, but when the pattern repeats itself over and over.
I must have tried 7 or 8 times to get together with her until I gave up. (What do they say is the definition of insanity...Doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result )
Too bad when the reviews of those who have seen her are so positive.
And guys, while it pisses me off when it happens, Soleil is right that it happens to the ladies waaaaaay more times.

 

[Sixpak]

My friend Binder Dundat had the exact same experiences....and after several cancellations the actual meeting was pretty anticlimactic

Peace
Mr Green

She does not understand what it takes to be reliable. She does not have the smarts of a Soleil in being successful in this business, or any other type of business. When she started she was very green, and treated the job as a casual, part-time occupation. Maybe that is her attitude still, and finds that she can commit when it suits her - never mind thinking about the client's efforts and commitments that were involved in the planning. There are many other SPs that will serve you better.

The belief that she provides some with very good service has become a self-fulfilling prophecy - she has given up the responsibility for her actions. It is the easy way out. She is under no pressure to correct her behavior. It’s not her fault. “That’s just the way I am” is her excuse. Here endeth my amateur psychological analysis of a provider that has received some good reviews but has no clue about marketing! Those that anticipate too much will find out once/if a meeting actually happens.

:Anticipation is the purest form of pleasure. And the most reliable. And that while the things that actually happened to you would invariably disappoint you, the things that never happened to you would never dim, never fade. They'd always be engraved on your heart with sort of a sweet sadness to them. ~ Dawson’s Creek"

 

[clarence69]

so who is this sp?

 

[chuck]

See the first post for the clue "name associated with a small European country famous for tulips". For an additional clue, think of windmills. Now how do we get the background music to the game show jeopardy?

 

[scldr]

I have seen her twice and both times she replyed quickly and was on time. I would say one of my best encounters last year. She reminded me alot of the good times with Kerry & Mandy. Will definitly see her again

sc

 

[rubintugger]

I have seen her twice and both times she replyed quickly and was on time. I would say one of my best encounters last year. She reminded me alot of the good times with Kerry & Mandy. Will definitly see her again

sc

She's is high on my "to do again" list. Her pics do not do her justice. She is an all round lovely woman and a great experience. Mentioning her in the same breath as Kerry and Mandy is well deserved.

I know, as a paying customer, that we expect that Service Providers should be at our beck and call. We tend to forget they do have lives outside our beds, that family issues, health issues, monthly issues all affect thier availablilty. And a lot of the time, the good SP's would rather not have a session than have a bad session. I know she is of that nature.

SP's also have the disadvantage of not knowing who they are meeting on the first appointment, and if they aren't in the proper mindset, it can be a bad experience. Using someone else's email could also add to that, intentionally or not. I don't think she would intentionally "string you along", she was probably genuinely trying to accomodate you, but it just never happened.

It is unfortunate that you encountered a period of time where you didn't manage to hook up. I don't think your persistance to make it happen in your time frame helped put you in the right frame of mind either. It is probably lucky you didn't get together at this time, no matter what happened, you probably would have been disappointed.

There are "slot machine" girls out there that take every phone call, see as many men as they can, and there are men that like that availability, even with the consequences. There are also very exclusive ladies out there that take only a few appointments, when they are able to give the absolute best to thier guest. These are the ones I prefer to make my regulars. And when I am in the mood, if an appointment falls through, there's always some acceptable fun available out there, either at an MP or with one of the more available ladies out there.

Is she worth the effort to persue? For me, in a word, Yes. Does every SP need every call that comes in? No. Does that make them evil? Not at all. Yes, it is bad for business to disappoint a customer by not being able to accommodate their appointment needs, but it is worse to make it happen in a bad way. I'd rather a lady said no at the last minute than take my money and give 50%...

Just my $.02.

Rubin

 

[who cares!!]

Rubin nicely said. This particular SP has always shown me a great time, even with the odd cancellation and that is what should count here.The service that she gives, not how difficult it is to book her.
CK, you even said yourself, she is busy with family, personal problems, so that should account for something. I think you are taking this too personally. Give it time, try her again. If no luck, then let it go, move on.There are alot of nice girls on EC you could try and have fun with also.

 

[sugarass]

As an aside, I can't tell you guys how many emails I get, that I take time in responding to, addressing any issues or questions etc. and I never, ever hear back from them again. I empathize completely with what you went through ComicalKazee, but I share the same frustration from the other side. I chalk it up to fate. They never respond again? I'm probably better off not seeing them anyway. She probably did you a favour in the end. I'm sure that doesn't make you feel much better, but I tried! lol

I agree , I go through the same situation!

 

[ezish12]

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SP's also have the disadvantage of not knowing who they are meeting on the first appointment, and if they aren't in the proper mindset, it can be a bad experience. Using someone else's email could also add to that, intentionally or not. I don't think she would intentionally "string you along", she was probably genuinely trying to accomodate you, but it just never happened.
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I agree with you. May be that's why It wasn't easy to get the first appointment. However, after that it is easier. Still have to try couple of times, to find a time when we both are free. I think she is very busy and only takes very few clients per day. That makes it even harder to book her.

 

[Deepstrokes]

I saw her a couple of times early last year, however I have had a lot of trouble trying to get something set up in the last 4 months. Maybe there is something major going on in her live.

 

[dreamer1999]

I've been trying to see her for almost 6 months. Im kinda losing interest, she never available.

 

[Jethro Bodine]

Unfortunately there are a few like this in Wpg.
The guys who see them are very happy and rave about them but it is almost too much work to get a hold of them.
I guess it boils down to how much you MUST see them and how persistant you are.

 

[dilligaf]

Fool me once,shame on you
Fool me 16 times...