Forcing a divorce

[georgebushmoron]

As I understand it, you can't force a divorce. That is, one spouse petitions the other for it, but if the other won't sign, then there's no divorce possible. Is this true? Is there any way to force a spouse into a divorce?

Also, I'm looking for some tips on nasty revenge tricks a wife can play on her husband who is a big asshole and won't divorce her. Any ideas?

 

[Lurker 123]

Also, I'm looking for some tips on nasty revenge tricks a wife can play on her husband who is a big asshole and won't divorce her. Any ideas?

Ask that wife to have many open affairs and invites lots of guys to have sex with her in their bed room!

 

[Sonny]

One spouse can sue the other for divorce citing irreconcilable differences or marriage breakdown whether the other wants a divorce or not. There is a step process. Firstly, one lawyer contacts the other to negotiate a legal separation where the goodies are divided and any spousal and child support is settled. In Canada, each province has a Family Law Act (or similar) which provides guidelines plus there is the record of precedent (prior court decisions). A year later, one petitions for final divorce. The other side can contest, but unless they can show that reconciliation is very much a probability, it is a done deal.

If there are kids involved, revenge is never a good idea because kids are then relationship-cannon-fodder instead of kids who need both parents in their lives. Furthermore, revenge in itself is such a negative mind state that it virtually consumes the life of the person harbouring it. Not worth it. Get the fair breakup deal and move on to a more positive existence. Junk the past tense baggage.

The key is a very good, very experienced, and tough no nonsense divorce lawyer - worth every dollar paid.

 

[LonelyGhost]

As I understand it, you can't force a divorce. That is, one spouse petitions the other for it, but if the other won't sign, then there's no divorce possible. Is this true? Is there any way to force a spouse into a divorce?

Also, I'm looking for some tips on nasty revenge tricks a wife can play on her husband who is a big asshole and won't divorce her. Any ideas?

1. forget the revenge scenario, it causes more problems than it solves.

2. the 'easy' divorce method is to have seperate addresses/domiciles and after 6 months apart one party can 'sue' for divorce since they are no longer together.

 

[sunnysideup]

Divorce proceedings

Don't look to a board like this for legal advice. Go see a divorce lawyer.

 

[FuZzYknUckLeS]

...Also, I'm looking for some tips on nasty revenge tricks a wife can play on her husband who is a big asshole and won't divorce her. Any ideas?

she should move back in with him and make his life a living hell. include Lurker 123's idea about bangin' alot of other guys in front of him! that should learn him!

 

[williewheeler]

a little clarity

1. while each province has a Family Relations Act (British Columbia's) or equivalent, divorce can only be granted under the federal Divorce Act (Canada).
2. the party wishing the divorce files papers - a Writ of Summons and Statement of Claim in British Columbia - in the province's superior court (Supreme Court in British Columbia).
3. if the opposing party does not respond, the divorce can proceed, dependent on the grounds and rulings on division of family property, guardianship and custody of the kids, access to the kids, and child and spousal support. if the other party does file - an Appearance and Statement of Defence in British Columbia - the divorce may still proceed by consent if the parties can reach an agreement on all issues; if not, then there will be a trial to decide the disputed issues before the divorce can be granted.
4. there are 3 grounds upon which the originating party claims a divorce: living separate and apart for a period of 1 year ("irreconcilable differences"), adultery, and physical and/or mental cruelty.
5. the party filing for divorce can claim the 1st ground even if the one year period has yet to run; the court just doesn't grant the divorce until it has.
6. all of this assumes that the parties were married as per the definition of the federal Marriage Act (Canada) in the first place. the law concerning common law couples in most provinces is only concerned about the children of the relationship. common law spouses can't be granted a divorce, and in British Columbia and most other provinces there are no guarantees to a right to family property other than what can be determined under what amounts to an equivalent to contract law (it's too complicated to explain here).
7. while it is possible to do this on your own, you really should hire a lawyer!

 

[williewheeler]

oh, and

as for tricks, see a female family law lawyer - they got lot's of 'em

 

[dirtydan]

The days of both spouses having to agree on a getting a divorce went out with leaded gasoline. As for the dirty tricks, save such tactics for the lawyer. My advice is to have the woman you referred to ask other lawyers who the biggest asshole of a divorce lawyer is. Mind you such a lawyer is likely very expensive.

A friend of mine had a bitch of a wife, so when they divorced he asked his first lawyer who is the biggest bitch among lawyers. In the end my friend came out pretty good, although it was pricey.

See pattern? Bitch of a wife, get a female lawyer. Asshole of a husband, get a male lawyer. In other words hire some one who is similar to your spouse.

 

[Slurpie]

Also, I'm looking for some tips on nasty revenge tricks a wife can play on her husband who is a big asshole and won't divorce her. Any ideas?

Due to legal reasons, the following tale is hypothetical..

without going into the long-winded circumstances, I was backstabbed viciously and without warning. The person who did this I will refer to as "person A"
Now, I am not normally vindictive, or one for revenge, but I figure in this case it was needed.

The problem, how to get revenge without being caught.. with no way it could be traced.. hypothetically..of course.



When I was at the post office, the perfect opportunity presented itself.

I was in line to buy some stamps when I noticed these little cards they had.. on top of the card it said "Moving?.. Let us help"

Upon closer inspection, apparently all you need to for a change of address is fill out one of these cards and drop it into a mailbox.. the postal service does the rest.

hmmmmmmmm...

Like an veil torn from my eyes, the plan appeared in my mind..

I decided to take one of these cards and visit the local library.
In case you do not use the library often , you should know that most libraries will have a copy of phone directories from all the major cities...
and you know the old saying, "If you are one in a million, there are six of you in New York"

I looked up the name of "person A" in the New York City phone book.. yep there were nine of then with the same name. I picked one at random and filled out the change of address card, making that Person A's new address.
Then I went out front and dropped it in the mail box...well hypothetically anyway.

It may not seem like much, but imagine, if you will, the consequences..
all of Person A's mail will be delivered to someone with the same exact name 1000 miles away. The person in New York will receive checks written out to them.. (I cannot imagine that they would actually cash them..I mean would you cash a check written to you?!?) and all the bills as well.. (I am fairly confident those will not get paid) The real problem will be straightening out the mess.. after all both people have the same name. you cannot just reforward the mail back to the original or all the mail would go.

Simple.. foolproof.

oh it took about 8 months to straighten out.




Hypothetically of course.

http://www.ubersite.com/cgi-bin/search.cgi?q=revenge

 

[Lurker 123]

Here's a cute trick that one of my friends had done to him...

In most provinces, both spouses are responsible for each other's debts so long as they are married..

So.. if she borrows a crapload of $, he's responsible for it as 'joint debt'.

Get the picture?

That is not a very good idea! If the debt is getting out of hand, she will also have a big cut in her settlement too!

 

[Lurker 123]

Guys the worse thing to do in a divorce is to consult a lawyer what you can do! Most lawyers will keep on mud slinging each other.They won't care! The longest the case, the more money they will put in their pockets!

Really ,the more this wife can control in her hands,the better it is going to be. All lawyers are suckers,they are crooks. Have you ever seen the lawyer bills for a divorce less than 10 grands each side?

 

[Sonny]

Guys the worse thing to do in a divorce is to consult a lawyer what you can do! Most lawyers will keep on mud slinging each other.They won't care! The longest the case, the more money they will put in their pockets!

Really ,the more this wife can control in her hands,the better it is going to be. All lawyers are suckers,they are crooks. Have you ever seen the lawyer bills for a divorce less than 10 grands each side?

What adds to the cost is court time, which is largely the result of dim-witted infantile emotional egoism of the soon-to-be-ex spouses. So, can the negative emotions and stifle the fuel for the fire; then there's little target for the other side. Deal with each issue dispassionately and things move along. Court itself can be avoided.

Been through the grind twice, and I'll say it again... get a very GOOD, very EXPERIENCED, and TOUGH, NO NONSENSE divorce lawyer. A well reputed professional lawyer gets the job done, and in good time and for less than you might think.

 

[maverick73]

All lawyers are suckers,they are crooks.

I think you meant they are BLOOD suckers, not suckers.

Not all lawyers are crooks, not even most of them. That is just the public perception.

 

[FuZzYknUckLeS]

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Not all lawyers are crooks, not even most of them. That is just the public perception.

Damn. They're so good at it, they even have you fooled!
Never have I seen as much paper generated as that of any lawyer I've ever had the misfortune of employing.

 

[maverick73]

Damn. They're so good at it, they even have you fooled!
Never have I seen as much paper generated as that of any lawyer I've ever had the misfortune of employing.

I think it's quite possible 50% of all lawyers are crooks, but I do not believe that 51+% (the requirement to use the word most) are crooks. Many dedicate their lives to their profession and really don't care about the money (honestly)... because if they did, they wouldn't continue working 14 hour days with no time for their kids... they do it to get justice for their clients.

Besides, how can you call the Michelle Pfeiffer character in "I am Sam" a crook?

 

[gravitas]

Don't look to a board like this for legal advice. Go see a divorce lawyer.

there are certain occasions where seeking the services of a ballwashing shiester is your best course of action.....this is one such situation

 

[Randy Whorewald]

I would think this board has a wealth of divorce experience to draw upon. But then again there's nothing quite like getting fucked by a lawyer.

 

[Damaged]

A well reputed professional lawyer gets the job done, and in good time and for less than you might think.[/QUOTE]

So in your experience how much did you pay the lawyer for your divorces?

 

[James]

But then again there's nothing quite like getting fucked by a lawyer.

Funny thing that. The absolutley most sexually desirable of my circle of friends, whom I've never had the pleasure of romping with, is a lawyer.

I'm sure that getting fucked by her would be worth a brown or two......