Forced trapped friendship with sp's

[sevenofnine]

I know this topic has been beat to death.

But do you realize that in some ways the sp is trapped, and your forcing your friendship on her.

I work with the public, I have to be there its my job, I have to stand there and offer up public relations ok.

And there is a type of person, that will use this fact that I am trapped and come up to me and assume were friends.

When I was a lot younger I just went with it, I ended up being stalked twice by women.

After being in my job for thirty plus years. I realize that any one like that, who just uses the fact that I can't get away and have to be polite to them to pretend were friends or can be,

Is a fucking nut case.
I will have nothing to do with them.

I have recently had a very beautiful women come up to me and pull that, I just laughed in her face.
Its my job, who would come on to me a complete stranger, while Im at work and can't get away or tell her to just fuck off. She is a nut.

I do have friends I have met for years, and we stand and talk like ceo's etc, who just pass on a hello or a joke or whats happening with the flames or our kids. Or even women that for what ever reason, we have met almost daily, one word of hi, became two words then three, and we have built a relationship a trust over months, and now we look for each other, and talk a minute or two then go our way.
Its a lot different then some fucking nut case forcing there way into a relatonship and won't go away.

I wonder but how many of you guys out there, that is what your doing to an sp that you see.

Frienships is mutual its trust, its not forced or imposed on someone.

I know an sp can take away some lonely nights.
But ask yourself the question if you weren't paying her, Would she even be there with you.

 

[groundhog9]

Of course she wouldnt. I think your stating the obvious Thats why we pay them money.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

While groundhog9 may be speaking for the vast majority, the topic might be considered somewhat relevant, 7of9.

Because she has to be nice to him, you're suggesting that some guys may take advantage of that fact. They might do so by texting when they're bored, calling just to shoot the breeze, or forwarding funny memes, etc.

But really, it's the lady's job to keep her wits about her and I think you'd find that most ladies know when to put a stop to a conversation that isn't going anywhere, i.e. turning into an appointment in the very near future. So ease up on your buds here! And some of them probably are just being friendly! :nod:

 

[DiscreetOG]

My tale of woe...About 10 years ago, I started to see a young SP (her mid-2's, me 50) off and on. At the start of our relationship, she would travel from time to time to eastern Canada and work her way back to B.C.. So there would be gaps of anywhere from a month or 2 between our sessions. Anyways, at one point she stopped travelling for a year or two and I'd see her 2 or 3 times a month. During our sessions, she'd ask me business related questions. When I asked her why she wanted to know this information, she informed me that she had a business on the side that from what I could gather, it was failing. As we discussed her business I found out that she was supporting it with monies she was earning as an SP. As I learned more about her business, why she had chosen this particular enterprise, business location, etc... I came to the realization that in her case the cliché ''Failure to plan is planning to fail'' applied. As we discussed ways for her to wind up her business, with the least cost to her, she told me that she considered me a ''close friend'' and had confided only with me about her failing business. As winding up her business came to a conclusion, she indicated to me that she couldn't make good money locally, and would be travelling again (both overseas and within Canada). We corresponded via e-mail and as she travelled back and forth through Vancouver or Victoria (about every 3-4 months), we'd arrange to get together. About 6-9 months after she started to travel again, I noted that there as a larger and larger gap with respect to her responding to my e-mails. Then one day, her response to may e-mails ended...no goodbye, no nothing. I have not had any communication with her for about 5 years...
Maybe it's just me, but as I sit here and write this I questing whether ''Friendship'' has the same meaning when it comes to our relationships with SP's, as it does in our everyday life........

 

[Man in Submission]

I have virtually no experience with an SP, but I would think a lot of the same things would apply as with most or all ladies you are trying to get to know better. Be polite and pleasant and compassionate, try to create an environment of sincere trust, do NOT force the issue, and allow her to determine whether she wishes to be your friend. When you do that, nine times out of 10 you will draw a favourable response ... they are simply human beings and the overwhelming majority like to be treated with respect and kindness. It may seem idealistic, but I know of no other way to approach it. Patience is always a virtue. With an SP, maybe she is cautious at first - and understandably so, especially when she is with a total stranger - but she will remember if you are gentle and caring towards her, and the next session will almost surely be more relaxing and more enjoyable for both parties.

 

[Tugela]

About 6-9 months after she started to travel again, I noted that there as a larger and larger gap with respect to her responding to my e-mails. Then one day, her response to may e-mails ended...no goodbye, no nothing. I have not had any communication with her for about 5 years...
Maybe it's just me, but as I sit here and write this I questing whether ''Friendship'' has the same meaning when it comes to our relationships with SP's, as it does in our everyday life........

That is just normal drifting apart. Happens all the time when the activity connecting you to someone is not there any more. Why should it be any different with her just because she had sex with you at one time?

Plus, she may simply have died, or decided to make a break with her past (and you along with it).

 

[Guardian Angel]

I have turned a few clients into friends! I know alot of sp's see this as a "no-no" but I can't really help it if I hit it off with the person. I have one client that I see twice or three times a week in my personal life, he has literally turned into my best friend in the entire world. We have gone on trips together (I paid for one of our trips) because he has done SO much for me and been such a good friend, I took him to Mexico! We dont' have sex anymore as he has a girlfriend now but we still see each other all the time.

I also made friends with a couple I see and I go out with them to events and stuff, no one knows I am an escort. They introduced me to their friends and some of their family. I guess I make people feel comfortable and I don't give off a vibe that I am a paid girl. They have become like family to me I love them dearly!

None of these friendships are forced I genuinely love making lasting friendships with people and sometimes its hard when you really hit it off with someone not to take that friendship into your personal life!

Kisses Melina*

I have become friends with Escorts over the years. I don't have sex with any of them now, but our friendship is still there and we look forward to our emails, texts and visits when they are possible.

When you see people on a regular basis, friendships develop beyond the business of the day. It would be a lonley life if it didn't happen this way.

Cherish your friends, life is too short to eliminate possible new friendships.

G.A.

 

[sevenofnine]

I think it starts out slow.

You might feel sorry for someone, or feel whats the harm.
But feeling that way opens up a door.

My first stalker just asked if she could sit with me.
She was young beautiful I was late twenties, a guy, had just brought my newborn home from the hospital that week.
I was full of life and didn't really pay attention.

She eventually said she was ok with sex if that is what I wanted. My daughter had spent a week in an incubater, I just like brought her home there is no way I was going to cheat on my family my marriage.
And besides I just felt sorry for her she was so alone and pathetic. I don't have sex with people I feel sorry for.
But the hole just getting deeper and deeper and deeper, she started buying me gifts and showing up at my house.

How I got rid of her, I ended up with cancer and fell off the radar for a year. Spent most of it in a hospital.

My second stalker I just said hello to, and we talked, and it was an interesting conversation she passed the time.
But she wouldn't ever go away,
She would wait for me for hours to get off work I would transfer to different buildings different departments and she would stalk out buildings and watch the people come and go.
My job offers me that oppurtunity to transfer around work in different buildings and I would never tell her where I would be. It would take her like weeks to find me again. Eventually she just dissapeared.

My sp was recently stalked,
a guy who she thought was a bit different but there are a lot of us like that I guess, and money is money.
At first it was simple and easy, it always is.

But once the person feels there in, they let their guard down and you realize just how out of it they are and in need of help.
Any way he just went weird on her, and when she wanted to break if off, he started stalking her researching her Going into her personal life. etc.

Saying he loved her and they were friends and all of that but it was only one way. He wouldn't take no for an answer.

After being stalked twice, my job I meet a lot of people.
To most people I might appear rude, not very talkative.
Even with a beautiful women that wants to get to know me,
I have had very beautiful women all dressed up to kill come and hit on me.
And they go away wondering if this guy is a nut, because I won't respond.

One I am at work,
number two, what kind of person, just throws them self at a complete stranger,
in my experiance a nut.

 

[sevenofnine]

Actually I am in the process of writing a book.

And for say fifteen or so years, I have written things and stuck them in various corners of the web.

There was an interesting talk on Ted Talks about the evolution of writing.

For all those people who get bent out of shape because he didn't capatalize, or maybe his gramer wasn't perfect. You should take a look.


That being said I need to improve.
But writing is a lot more then just, did he cap or was the punctuation correct.

Its having something to say, that people want to hear.

And not that it matters, but yes I can write.

The last thing I wrote on the internet was very well recieved.
It was about my version of a perfect escort.

All of my stuff tends to have a sexual side to it, though its not how it starts out.
And werid I write from a females voice.

Strange as hell but when I write I am more comfortable using the females perspective.