OK boys. My mind is about to fucking explode. You gotta tell me what's going on here because I've never heard this one before.
I went on a first date with a woman last week.
She was by far and away the most attractive girl I've been out with since my first wife. She's younger than me by about 8 years. She has a decent job but is going to nursing school part-time too so should have good future career prospects, but living in Vancouver she's just scraping by on her current wages right now. I'm not sure she knows what I do because she hasn't asked and I don't recall telling her but I earn far more than she does.
I'm certain that she had as awesome a time as I did on this date as the conversation was fantastic and there was lots of laughter and chemistry going. A little touching and alot of smiling and talk about future get-togethers was had.
I had felt like having a good steak that night so I had earlier asked if she was ok with us going to Hy's. She didn't blink and was cool with that. Of course in this day and age where no one knows how to deal with feminism, chivalry and paying for the bill I have all but assumed the check would come to me...I don't give it alot of thought. (I've only experienced a couple times where the date actually asked to split the bill but its always a weird experience because you feel like you have to decline it and it becomes some weird negotiation because you don't know if she's just testing you and all the bullshit that goes with it, etc.)
So at the end of dinner I ask for the bill. I'm sure its probably coming out to about $150 or so.
The waiter tells me its been paid and I'm a bit miffed. "By who?" He just thanked us for coming to their restaurant without acknowledging my question and left us (and thinking back he had a smile on his face too I'm sure). I'm still wondering and look at my date. She's got a nice smile on her but is looking coyly away.
"You paid for this?!?! The whole thing??!?! WTF?!?!" The thoughts racing through my head were a bit of a jumble...I couldn't figure out if I should be thrilled or completely emasculated...I've never even considered how I would react if my date paid for the whole thing, only if she offered to pay for half the bill. I knew that $150 would be a hefty bill for her and this would be a hit for her.
I had to ask her what she was doing and why would she do this, and that I really should insist on paying at minimum half of the bill. That I just had to do that at least. And why would she sneak off and do this before the bill came so that I could at least have a chance to offer. And she wouldn't take it but instead offered me her arm and an explanation as we walked out to the car...
Feminism has fucked up the entire dating culture and it has become a bit of a war between the sexes, and the first date whose paying the bill bullshit has really complicated shit up for both women and men. That song and dance walking on glass crap had become this whole test between everyone and it seems that no one can win no matter whether the man pays the whole bill or the woman pays for half, or if one or the other is feigning to cover the woman's share.
She had a long talk about this thing with her father who gave to her advice (what he called a little "trick") to blow a guy's mind. He said eliminate the bullshit. If you like the guy pay the whole bill on the first date but don't do it in front of him.
Don't get into this feigning, negotiating, bullshit back and forth with him at check time at the dinner table because no one can win then. Do it beforehand so that its done and handled. And then tell him he can look after the second date if they go on one. If your date treated you well but you don't foresee a second date do the right thing and pay for half. If the guy's a douchebag...well anything is fair game then and see how much he will pay then. He said to her "I promise you that you will reap the rewards for this."
He told her that no woman does this shit...but she said her father always tells her that she's not just any woman either. She decided that she liked this tack because it was as fair as any other scenario.
I'm not sure I could walk straight after that. I couldn't care less about the $150 or $75 or whatever. The gesture though...wtf?!?!? My head was exploding...the feminist brainwashing our society has been whitewashed with has completely had me unprepared for this kind of thing!!!! Because now not only did I like her but now I like her father too...
What the fuck is going on here boys????? Is this a trap??????? Am I going to get sucked down into some sort of black hole and have my soul ripped away from me?!?!?!?
Scared to shit. Tell me what's going on.
I went on a first date with a woman last week.
She was by far and away the most attractive girl I've been out with since my first wife. She's younger than me by about 8 years. She has a decent job but is going to nursing school part-time too so should have good future career prospects, but living in Vancouver she's just scraping by on her current wages right now. I'm not sure she knows what I do because she hasn't asked and I don't recall telling her but I earn far more than she does.
I'm certain that she had as awesome a time as I did on this date as the conversation was fantastic and there was lots of laughter and chemistry going. A little touching and alot of smiling and talk about future get-togethers was had.
I had felt like having a good steak that night so I had earlier asked if she was ok with us going to Hy's. She didn't blink and was cool with that. Of course in this day and age where no one knows how to deal with feminism, chivalry and paying for the bill I have all but assumed the check would come to me...I don't give it alot of thought. (I've only experienced a couple times where the date actually asked to split the bill but its always a weird experience because you feel like you have to decline it and it becomes some weird negotiation because you don't know if she's just testing you and all the bullshit that goes with it, etc.)
So at the end of dinner I ask for the bill. I'm sure its probably coming out to about $150 or so.
The waiter tells me its been paid and I'm a bit miffed. "By who?" He just thanked us for coming to their restaurant without acknowledging my question and left us (and thinking back he had a smile on his face too I'm sure). I'm still wondering and look at my date. She's got a nice smile on her but is looking coyly away.
"You paid for this?!?! The whole thing??!?! WTF?!?!" The thoughts racing through my head were a bit of a jumble...I couldn't figure out if I should be thrilled or completely emasculated...I've never even considered how I would react if my date paid for the whole thing, only if she offered to pay for half the bill. I knew that $150 would be a hefty bill for her and this would be a hit for her.
I had to ask her what she was doing and why would she do this, and that I really should insist on paying at minimum half of the bill. That I just had to do that at least. And why would she sneak off and do this before the bill came so that I could at least have a chance to offer. And she wouldn't take it but instead offered me her arm and an explanation as we walked out to the car...
Feminism has fucked up the entire dating culture and it has become a bit of a war between the sexes, and the first date whose paying the bill bullshit has really complicated shit up for both women and men. That song and dance walking on glass crap had become this whole test between everyone and it seems that no one can win no matter whether the man pays the whole bill or the woman pays for half, or if one or the other is feigning to cover the woman's share.
She had a long talk about this thing with her father who gave to her advice (what he called a little "trick") to blow a guy's mind. He said eliminate the bullshit. If you like the guy pay the whole bill on the first date but don't do it in front of him.
Don't get into this feigning, negotiating, bullshit back and forth with him at check time at the dinner table because no one can win then. Do it beforehand so that its done and handled. And then tell him he can look after the second date if they go on one. If your date treated you well but you don't foresee a second date do the right thing and pay for half. If the guy's a douchebag...well anything is fair game then and see how much he will pay then. He said to her "I promise you that you will reap the rewards for this."
He told her that no woman does this shit...but she said her father always tells her that she's not just any woman either. She decided that she liked this tack because it was as fair as any other scenario.
I'm not sure I could walk straight after that. I couldn't care less about the $150 or $75 or whatever. The gesture though...wtf?!?!? My head was exploding...the feminist brainwashing our society has been whitewashed with has completely had me unprepared for this kind of thing!!!! Because now not only did I like her but now I like her father too...
What the fuck is going on here boys????? Is this a trap??????? Am I going to get sucked down into some sort of black hole and have my soul ripped away from me?!?!?!?
Scared to shit. Tell me what's going on.
