Feeling very conflicted about a review

[Man Mountain]

A little while back, I had a session with a certain SP. At the time, I felt like it was probably the best session I've had all year. Since then, I've only had one session that I would consider was on par or maybe just a little better than that one. Anyway, the night I had that session, I enjoyed myself with her so much that towards the end of our time, I asked if she was aware of the forums and how she felt about the idea of me possibly writing a review for her as she had not yet been reviewed. She let me know that while she was flattered that I would be willing to, she preferred to "stay under the radar" and to "keep a low profile" and preferred not to be reviewed. I hope to see her again and have respected her wish.

However, recently someone else has chosen to post a review of this young lady. One that, quite frankly, I believe is extremely unfair and unflattering to her. Most notably, an extremely unflattering categorization of her looks which, in my opinion, is VERY far off the mark. In my opinion, this young lady is hands down one of THE most beautiful women I've ever seen in person and when I saw the comments about her looks in the review, my first thought can be summed up by Wesley Snipes in the following clip:

So, I'm conflicted about this. On the one hand, I really want to make note in that review that I believe the comments are unfair and, in my opinion, not accurate. On the other hand, I also want to respect her wish to not have attention drawn to her on the review boards. I didn't comment when the review was originally posted and it was just kind of fading away since it was first posted but then it was bumped again with new posts from others who have obviously not seen her making "piling on" type comments about her pics, taking the original poster at his "word" about her looks in comparison to those pics.

Also, her availability seems to be extremely limited. And booking time with her was challenging and I was lucky to be able to see her when I did. When I have time and opportunity, I do try and check whether she might be available again but haven't noticed any availability that fits my schedule since my one visit with her. So, if I were to think selfishly, I suppose it would improve my chances of being able to book time with her again if others read that unfair review and decide not to take a chance on her because of it.

However, as I said, I'm very conflicted over this. She's so beautiful and I had such an awesome time with her that it really irks me to see those comments about her. Oh well... I guess I'll keep my opinion to myself and just go and polish my somewhat tarnished armour.

 

[tantalizeme]

She let me know that while she was flattered that I would be willing to, she preferred to "stay under the radar" and to "keep a low profile" and preferred not to be reviewed. I hope to see her again and have respected her wish.

However, recently someone else has chosen to post a review of this young lady. One that, quite frankly, I believe is extremely unfair and unflattering to her.

So, I'm conflicted about this. On the one hand, I really want to make note in that review that I believe the comments are unfair and, in my opinion, not accurate. On the other hand, I also want to respect her wish to not have attention drawn to her on the review boards. I didn't comment when the review was originally posted and it was just kind of fading away since it was first posted but then it was bumped again with new posts from others who have obviously not seen her making "piling on" type comments about her pics, taking the original poster at his "word" about her looks in comparison to those pics.

However, as I said, I'm very conflicted over this.

Hey Man Mountain,

Always enjoy your articulate ponderings about various quandaries you get yourself into.

Your posts show you're a considerate and appreciative pooner. Sometimes, perhaps, you worry a bit too much about displeasing a lady or doing the wrong thing.

Obviously you don't subscribe to the view I regard as most reasonable: that consumers deserve to be informed about products they consider buying—so that, if a lady chooses to advertise erotic services, those services can be justifiably reviewed, with or without her blessing.

In the situation you describe, why not simply e-mail or phone the lady, alert her to the review in question and ask if she'd mind if you provide a favorable counterpoint?

 

[Webster]

I'd post nothing. That's her request, and it seems she's in demand anyway. Seems like there's no damage except to your sense of chivalry, which might mean you're a good person who doesn't wanna see someone wronged.

 

[badbadboy]

MM you are good to go with me and thanks for your posts.

I would honour your lady's requests. White Knights sometimes stir up too much unwanted attention in their haste to protect their fav SP's. The SP's are unable to fly under the radar with the unwanted attention whether its positive or negative.

 

[uncleg]

Agreed.....

MM is a good man!:thumb:

I agree with HH on MM, you're a good guy. In your boots I wouldn't write a review, but I would make a comment in regards to the negatives.
sort of like, binder, donedat, had a good time, will go back. Just a friendly YMMV reminder.

 

[Flanders]

Even if I have "BEST TIME EVER" with a lady, I do not assume that everyone will have the same connection, chemistry, etc.

Negative reviews are as valid as positive ones, and a thoughtful, respectful neg review is one of the most helpful pieces of info in here. If they come from a Douche, it will be revealed through their posting history.

My good times do not trump someone else's disaster in the review world. (Neither do yours) It means I (you) had a good time and someone else didn't.

The "piling on" of a negative review is just lame.

Lamer though, is White Night Syndrome.

 

[sevenofnine]

chemistry perceptions, is so important in this.
and what you want or need,
from an sp,

and of course you should respect the requests of the lady.


that being sad, if the review contained things that was just rude or out of bounds, you could point this out,

i have did this for instance when a review commented on a womens iq or lanquage skills
the women in question spoke three lanquages, english wasn't her first lanquage but the reviewer commented on her lack of english and reflected on her iq, in a not so complimentary fashion.
which i thought was quite unacceptable. she is quite smart, just not overley fluent in english.

another review was just ran a women down. in a very un polite fashion.
the women was big didn't have a nice incall, but the guy was just rude, and well she was the cheapest escort around,

for sure the women wasn't what ever one wanted, but no women is. he was just rude.

i actually saw this women, saw her, and liked her,
i wrote a very kind review, but truthful,
i saw her many times.

she should consider her self lucky,
actually,
i have seen over forty escorts, but only repeated with three or so.

sure she was big, and didn't have a nice incall, but she had the warmest smile.
she was to big to get into alot of postitions etc, but just the same there were some services she provided i really enjoyed.
i fail to see why you have to be rude,

any way, i have never read the review, but if its rude or just crosses the boundaries i would just point this out, whether she is my sp or not.
of course your not going to like every sp, and i think you have the right to tell the truth in a review, but that doesn't mean you run her down, just be kind but yet truth full


its a tough call honestly it is, its a business for these ladies. and a wrong word, means dollars

yet as a guy, i think we have the right to know what were paying for,
but just the basics age weight services, and little more then all of that because its so much perceptions

 

[Big Dog Striker]

I think you're beating yourself up for nothing on this issue MM.

Totally agree with uncleg on this MM you should not write a review cuz she requested you not to but you should definitely write a comment as you see it to be in your experience in that review you are mentioning.

Nothing wrong with expressing your opinion especially if you feel strongly about it.

I can assure you that no one will be jumping on your back if you do.

Well said.

MM, your favorite hottie will probably respect you more if you show her that you're word is GOLD by keeping your fun times under the radar. However, don't let those negative comments bother you. It's probably like a grain of salt to her anyways. Just relax, have fun and enjoy the beautiful day. :nod:

 

[wilde]

MM, I have the utmost respect for you but I think it's time to grow a pair...

 

[badbadboy]

I would direct her to the negative review and let her know she can get on the "do not review" list if she so chooses. She may also have changed her mind about being reviewed since you last saw her.

Is this "do not review" list published anywhere here on Perb or is that a private thing for the SP's to have with their advertising deal on Perb?

I do note an unfavourable review of an advertiser posted this morning has disappeared so I am assuming the SP was on a "do not review" list.

 

[storm rider]

Even if I have "BEST TIME EVER" with a lady, I do not assume that everyone will have the same connection, chemistry, etc.

Negative reviews are as valid as positive ones, and a thoughtful, respectful neg review is one of the most helpful pieces of info in here. If they come from a Douche, it will be revealed through their posting history.

My good times do not trump someone else's disaster in the review world. (Neither do yours) It means I (you) had a good time and someone else didn't.

The "piling on" of a negative review is just lame.

Lamer though, is White Night Syndrome.

Well said and oh so fucking true....nothing worse than a "white knight" and I should know as I had a few run me down when I posted a negative review of a gal......the common refrain of "no way that happened/she's awesome and your on crack" by guys defending the gal made me want to puke as my review was word for word of how the whole situation played out.....fucking pathetic actually that pooners take up the torch for an SP and flame other pooners.

Dont become a "white knight" Man Mountain....once you start down that path this pastime will change for you and not in a good way.

SR

 

[Alix Turner]

Bad reviews have a way of coming out in the wash when they are fake. A smear campaign will be obvious if more good reviews come up and get dogged by low posting members. While a fair and respectful but well thought out response from the girl goes a long way.. a lot of men don't do research beyond photos and a phone call with the girl even when they know about perb (mostly because they know that the reviews can vary wildly from their own experience and possibly be a bit offtruth) A bad review on perb is not a death sentence to an escorts career, she may want to advertise somewhere that she will be seen by potential clients that won't use perb (eros etc) in case her potential of seeing perb clients becomes limited for a while.

6 months or so of being banned from perb was probably similar to getting a bad review and because I had essentially stopped advertising after finding that the people that found me through reading about me on perb often had a fairly clear impression of Alix and that was what they wanted, where with ads.. you're probably some photos, some numbers that he finds acceptable, and the rest has been filled out with a bit of imagination, hope and assumption (not always, but often) ... which isn't always easy to adapt to when you meet. Anyway, I bit the bullet and posted on Eros... more good reviews happened, and everything ended up peachy

and we all lived happily ever after.
the end

 

[mistressfreyja]

You are such a sweetheart.

But, just remember, that sweetheart status doesn`t predicate you having to live up to prince charming status.... aka someone to save one from hurt. It`s an impossible feat, and I know you have a kind heart.

Also, freedom of speech is just what it is. A bad review, is still a review. Some really bad reviews end up drumming more biz than a phenomenal review.

I just know you mean well. We women appreciate such treatment.

A little while back, I had a session with a certain SP. At the time, I felt like it was probably the best session I've had all year. Since then, I've only had one session that I would consider was on par or maybe just a little better than that one. Anyway, the night I had that session, I enjoyed myself with her so much that towards the end of our time, I asked if she was aware of the forums and how she felt about the idea of me possibly writing a review for her as she had not yet been reviewed. She let me know that while she was flattered that I would be willing to, she preferred to "stay under the radar" and to "keep a low profile" and preferred not to be reviewed. I hope to see her again and have respected her wish.

However, recently someone else has chosen to post a review of this young lady. One that, quite frankly, I believe is extremely unfair and unflattering to her. Most notably, an extremely unflattering categorization of her looks which, in my opinion, is VERY far off the mark. In my opinion, this young lady is hands down one of THE most beautiful women I've ever seen in person and when I saw the comments about her looks in the review, my first thought can be summed up by Wesley Snipes in the following clip:

So, I'm conflicted about this. On the one hand, I really want to make note in that review that I believe the comments are unfair and, in my opinion, not accurate. On the other hand, I also want to respect her wish to not have attention drawn to her on the review boards. I didn't comment when the review was originally posted and it was just kind of fading away since it was first posted but then it was bumped again with new posts from others who have obviously not seen her making "piling on" type comments about her pics, taking the original poster at his "word" about her looks in comparison to those pics.

Also, her availability seems to be extremely limited. And booking time with her was challenging and I was lucky to be able to see her when I did. When I have time and opportunity, I do try and check whether she might be available again but haven't noticed any availability that fits my schedule since my one visit with her. So, if I were to think selfishly, I suppose it would improve my chances of being able to book time with her again if others read that unfair review and decide not to take a chance on her because of it.

However, as I said, I'm very conflicted over this. She's so beautiful and I had such an awesome time with her that it really irks me to see those comments about her. Oh well... I guess I'll keep my opinion to myself and just go and polish my somewhat tarnished armour.