Fat, Bald, Body Hair -Chances of being turned down?

[Surrey's Jewel]

When a super gorgeous guy comes to see me I get paranoid and can't relax. I had this super sexy looking, young, body builder type who used to come see me all the time. I had him saved in my phone as 'muscles'. I hadn't seen him for about a year and he showed up at my door the other day. He'd gotten a new phone so I didn't know it was him coming. He's changed jobs (think he was previously into something criminal) .. has a 'legit job' now he says and he's obviously stopped working out or taking sterioids or both now .. average looking build now. We had the best sex we've had so far ..... I was waaaaaay more comfortable.

 

[Sydney Carton]

I was told yesterday that I "suck cock like an Asian (sic) pro".

I have no idea what that means but am intrigued and think further explanation may be needed.

Having chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream come out your nose as you laugh is no laughing matter, it but actually stings and kinda ruins the mood for further ice cream.

As for fat, body hair and bald, sorry I can't help anyone with that as my magic mirror always tells me I'm handsome, smart and sophisticated

 

[Man Mountain]

I still have my hair though

It seems like there are a lot of high-class ladies on this board who will not hesitate to interrupt a session if they are too grossed out by the guy. I have male pattern baldness, weigh 265 lbs at 5' 10" and am covered in bristly hair. I'd have to have to endure the humiliation of being turned down for ugliness so I thought I'd conduct a brief survey to determine how many of you pooners are as ugly as I am.

For a long time, my sig line on this forum was "Larger than life and twice as ugly." I have a number of physical appearance issues that I'm very insecure about, my weight only being one of them. But before making arrangements for a session, I've always made sure to explain all of them in detail (either through an initial email or over the phone) to any lady I was interested in seeing to make sure that she would be comfortable seeing me. I don't want to see anybody who wouldn't be comfortable seeing me. There are ladies that are genuinely as compassionate and understanding as Harmony and all of the other wonderful ladies that have taken the time to chime in here and say that it is something that they can look past. But I can tell you that I have also been turned down on two occasions.

The first time was especially tough on me as it was my first attempt at seeing a very well reviewed and seemingly reputable lady who was an advertiser on this forum. I had sent her the very detailed email about all of my insecurities and we had even talked on the phone. Obviously, as this was my first time at trying this, I was as nervous as you can imagine in making contact with an SP let alone baring all of my insecurities to someone on top of that. And at first, she responded with all of the understanding comments that you've been reading here. "I'm not going to judge you. I only want to make you feel good." In fact, beyond those simple platitudes, she actually made it seem like she was really excited at the prospect of being my first SP experience. So, I got to feeling pretty good about it and that nervous energy I was feeling became a mix of nerves and excitement. We set a time for an appointment and everything was confirmed but I was to make a final call from just outside her place to get the appartment number and buzzer code. I'm sure most of the experienced members know the drill at this point. It was during that call just outside of her place when she suddenly decided that she was not comfortable with seeing me after all. I can tell you that feeling was quite a blow and it wasn't easy to get past. It was enough to send me back to strictly enjoying private dances at the 5 for a long time again. Where not only had I never felt "rejected" but beautiful women actually approach me.

The reason I make all of my issues known before hand is because I respect the right of the SPs to make the choice of who they might want to see or not. But I would much rather be turned down either on the phone or via an email and not have my time wasted than to show up and be turned away. However, I also want to say that in the time that I've spent indulging in private dances and seeing SPs that I've been very fortunate to have been in the company of some truly compassionate and understanding ladies who are far more beautiful than a fat, ugly bum like me has ever deserved to be able to spend time with. It's sometimes hard to express just how much that has meant to me. I have tried to let each of them know how much I've appreciated it. I hope I've been able to.

Of course, I don't doubt that a few women have seen me as nothing more than a walking wallet too but as long as they don't make me feel like I'm nothing more than a walking wallet, I'm perfectly happy.

In any case, I hope that you find what you're looking for bug123. If you do your research, I'm sure you'll be able to find the ones that will treat you right. Best of luck to you in your search.

 

[sonoman]

I've been very fortunate to have been in the company of some truly compassionate and understanding ladies who are far more beautiful than a fat, ugly bum like me has ever deserved to be able to spend time with.

Maybe you're just being tongue in cheek, but no need to adopt that line of thinking about yourself.

 

[Bad Santa]

Unless you have horrible breath, attitude or hygiene, I see no reason to turn you away. I've had attractive young men come in with pompous attitudes and even worse hygiene (one ate fish and garlic prior to our session and had bad body odour) come in to see me. My only real concern would be whether it actual sex or related activity would be dangerous to either of us. For instance, having ancient (and I mean ancient, I've had a 75+ year-old-man come see me once) clients makes me nervous, and I usually have to sit them down for a brief talk to make sure we don't run the risk of breaking bones or hips.

But yeah, hygiene and bad breath are much more of a concern to me than your physical features, weight, or hair. I've one regular who is about 6'4, 300lbs+, balding, somewhat hairy, and he's he gentlest, most kind and considerate giant I've ever known in my eighteen years. Not to mention a fantastic roll in the hay, oddly enough. People come in all shapes and sizes, it's one of the things I like about this job. You get to meet interesting people from all walks of life. It's a reality that not everyone in the world is attractive by popular standards, what's sad is that such advantageous aesthetics can lead people to being arrogant and prejudiced against others.

That being said, as an SP, I am here to provide a service. I'm not here to judge. Nor am I here to poke fun at anyone, or grimace in disgust and turn people away because they aren't considered attractive enough. My only working goal is to provide my services to the best of my ability and make sure that my client enjoys the time which they choose to spend with me. That's it, plain and simple.

It is always good to self improve. Absolutely for sure.

However, it should not matter how you look with a professional sp. If it matters, she is in the wrong line of work. There is a lot that can be done with laser, grooming, and exercise. However, it is really hard to find the motivation to do that, when you lack the desire. Quite possibly the woman you choose to see, will help you gain the confidence you need to over come your physical imperfections. The 2 things any sp should care about are hygiene and manners When I say manners, I don't mean the ones you portray at grandmas house. I mean the ones you bring out on a first date

I personally would never in a million years turn a man away based on his physical appearance. i would feel so horrible inside. I specifically say on my website that I am age (although I prefer over 25), race, weight, and status blind. As a matter of fact, the less attractive someone is, the more I want to make him feel incredible.

I would, though to lessen the chances of any kind of silliness, research ladies websites, see if they specify a certain type. If you find nothing on there saying a specific body type, then send her an email with a physical description. I personally would never turn you away unless you were mean. Hygiene can be fixed with a shower and a toothbrush. I know most of my friends think the same way

For a long time, my sig line on this forum was "Larger than life and twice as ugly." I have a number of physical appearance issues that I'm very insecure about, my weight only being one of them. But before making arrangements for a session, I've always made sure to explain all of them in detail (either through an initial email or over the phone) to any lady I was interested in seeing to make sure that she would be comfortable seeing me. I don't want to see anybody who wouldn't be comfortable seeing me. There are ladies that are genuinely as compassionate and understanding as Harmony and all of the other wonderful ladies that have taken the time to chime in here and say that it is something that they can look past. But I can tell you that I have also been turned down on two occasions.

Man Mountain, I can't see you going wrong with either of these sweet ladies.

This world of pooning does make for such strange bedfellows, doesn't it?

 

[Harmony-bc]

But I can tell you that I have also been turned down on two occasions.

The first time was especially tough on me as it was my first attempt at seeing a very well reviewed and seemingly reputable lady who was an advertiser on this forum. I had sent her the very detailed email about all of my insecurities and we had even talked on the phone. Obviously, as this was my first time at trying this, I was as nervous as you can imagine in making contact with an SP let alone baring all of my insecurities to someone on top of that. And at first, she responded with all of the understanding comments that you've been reading here. "I'm not going to judge you. I only want to make you feel good." In fact, beyond those simple platitudes, she actually made it seem like she was really excited at the prospect of being my first SP experience. So, I got to feeling pretty good about it and that nervous energy I was feeling became a mix of nerves and excitement. We set a time for an appointment and everything was confirmed but I was to make a final call from just outside her place to get the appartment number and buzzer code. I'm sure most of the experienced members know the drill at this point. It was during that call just outside of her place when she suddenly decided that she was not comfortable with seeing me after all. I can tell you that feeling was quite a blow and it wasn't easy to get past. It was enough to send me back to strictly enjoying private dances at the 5 for a long time again. Where not only had I never felt "rejected" but beautiful women actually approach me..

This makes me angry, People really piss me off with their hurtful self centered ways.

When I met you, I was expecting some big scary monster to knock on my door. You did not look any where near my mental image based on your description of yourself. The man who actually knocked, was very sweet, charming, lovable and very sincere and I enjoyed meeting him very much

 

[island-guy]

I gotta tell you that this is a basic difference between men and woman. I would never consider jumping on a 300lb ugly woman no matter how much alcohol I consumed. lol.

But if you had no money to pay your rent and no job or other source of income and the 300lb ugly woman was going to pay you $300 per hour?

SPs don't have sex with guys because of alcohol... they do it for the $$

 

[MissJasmine]

I can completely relate to Surrey's Jewel feeling intimidated by really attractive clients. Its very hard to be focused on my part when I'm distracted and stuttering.

As far as very overweight clients go I am perfectly comfortable with them as long as hygiene is good. In some cases there can be physical limitations (like hogtying someone 300+ pounds) but I'm pretty creative and find ways of working around these sort of things.

I think most of us can be pretty hard on ourselves when it comes to looks, but if something really bothers you don't just "live with it" if you don't have to. Improving one's appearance and fitness can definetely help boost confidence and stamina in the bedroom

p.s. Man Mountain is a sweetheart in person and I think most ladies would enjoy seeing him.

 

[Harmony-bc]

On the flipside I was with an SP the other week who let a right old eggy fart out when she was pushing herself to squirt for me. It was fucking loud too.

Man, that was funny. She didn't get kicked out of bed.

omg, hahahaha. How embarrassing would that be. What can you do but laugh.

Speaking of bum-related incidents, I've had one gentleman who sharted all over my nice, clean towels. Then proceeded to hide them in a cabinet. Imagine my horror when they fell out in front of me.

hmm, I don't think that was an accident. I think that is a case of someone with a different sense of humor then you or me, lol Why would he hold towels up to his bum and fart? Nope, it was on purpose. This is one of the main reasons I offer accompanied showers, or at least leave the bathroom door open a crack, hahaha. So I can see what those guys are up to, if their sense of humor is a little off.

 

[jmmk]

Holy shit that was funny Sihasen. I know this is a serious and relevant thread but penis cheese is flippin' funny.

 

[Bad Santa]

Speaking of bum-related incidents, I've had one gentleman who sharted all over my nice, clean towels. Then proceeded to hide them in a cabinet. Imagine my horror when they fell out in front of me.

Sihasen, you poor girl. 75+ creaking boner pooners, stinky guys with penis cheese, oily hair and bad breath and others sharting all over your towels.

And you're all of 18. You've certainly had an interesting start to your career!

For you, a clean, considerate, fat, ugly bald guy sounds like a godsend!

 

[Bad Santa]

Awww! What a nice monkey!

 

[Unpossible]

It seems like there are a lot of high-class ladies on this board who will not hesitate to interrupt a session if they are too grossed out by the guy. I have male pattern baldness, weigh 265 lbs at 5' 10" and am covered in bristly hair. I'd have to have to endure the humiliation of being turned down for ugliness so I thought I'd conduct a brief survey to determine how many of you pooners are as ugly as I am.

Sounds like you might get turned down by a micro. Indies charge a higher price because they understand that they might have to entertain an obese hedgehog like yourself.(no offense)

 

[Ride My Mustache]

Sounds like you might get turned down by a micro. Indies charge a higher price because they understand that they might have to entertain an obese hedgehog like yourself.(no offense)

I've never heard of anyone being turned down in a micro for being fat, hairy, or bald. And i've been to a lot of micros in more than just Canada. Only heard of guys being turned down for stupid crap like trying to bargain for rediculously low prices, or being filthy or abusive. I'm sure you would be just fine in a micro as well as with the indies.

 

[jackperb]

It is always good to self improve. Absolutely for sure. There is a lot that can be done with laser, grooming, and exercise. However, it is really hard to find the motivation to do that, when you lack the desire. Quite possibly the woman you choose to see, will help you gain the confidence you need to over come your physical imperfections.

That's actually what happened to me. I'd been unhappy with my weight for a long time and getting more and more determined to do something about it. Seeing a particular SP is what finally gave me the motivation to actually loose the weight. It wasn't anything she did or said - she was a real sweetheart during our time together and made me feel like a king. But being with her was what finally gave me enough push to actually do something. Since then, I've lost about 40 lbs. with another 40 to go.

 

[HubbaHubba]

Well, as bizarre and gross as some of the stuff is, it's still pretty funny when you think about it in retrospect. XD

U crack me up and also taught me a new term....sharted..... Just saying it is kinda funny.

 

[sonoman]

Sounds like you might get turned down by a micro. Indies charge a higher price because they understand that they might have to entertain an obese hedgehog like yourself.(no offense)

Great comment.

 

[virginjohn]

Sounds like you might get turned down by a micro. Indies charge a higher price because they understand that they might have to entertain an obese hedgehog like yourself.(no offense)

Here is an actual obese hedgehog (these animals are so cute!):

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[FunSugarDaddy]

But if you had no money to pay your rent and no job or other source of income and the 300lb ugly woman was going to pay you $300 per hour?

SPs don't have sex with guys because of alcohol... they do it for the $$

Well Duh...but the question is...if you were in that situation would you do it for the money??

As a general rule, a higher % of guys wouldn't because they need to be physically attracted to someone to perform.

Women, can focus on other things, much of which has been pointed out here, such as making sure someone feels good about themselves etc. looking deeper into who the individual is, in terms of character etc. And the fact is, most guys couldn't give a damn about those type of issues they just want to have sex with someone they're attracted to. That said, that doesn't mean the person they are attracted to, is necessarly attractive to the general public.

 

[Simonnn]

What was your actual reason for turning them away and what reason did you give them?