In love with a sp
I think my experiences can help.
I have just finished a one year relationship (living together) with a girl (32 yo) who I met as a customer. I was a customer for a while, she was in bad financial straights. When we started dating she stopped the work and I picked up her tab. While she lived with me I paid all the bills but she lived on almost nothing. Never bought clothes, it was cheaper than any relationship I have had. She was not after me for the money.
What I learned about this profession is that it is a fantasy the girl provides. She may like you or not - that is NOT the point. It is like Hollywood - it is ALL make believe. This is NOT to insult anyone just to be real. We pay girls to pretend they are enjoying themselves so that we can enjoy ourselves. AS a result of this I was nver bother by what she it - It really is just physical.
The major problem was that she did not trust me. She felt that if I could go to a woman in that way how could she ever really trust me. This was the ultimate death of our realtionship.
All in all I would say that do not worry too much whether or not this girl is using you - chances are she is not. (And in fact we all use each other a bit. Just think it is better to date someone with money than not. Doesn't not mean you would choose them based on that just a bonus.) The real problem will be that in meeting this way what underlying issues and problems will develop - for example your doubt expressed here.
All in all I would say treat her like anyone else - she is. It is clear she has problems and some baggage and if you can deal with those ok. Look in her eyes when you are together - if it seems real it most likely is.
A last point. Any girl who really knows how to use a man would not choose this line of work. A real heartless woman can easily trap a with a few assets without having to become an SP.
Just my thoughts!
P.S. Some counselling might be in order. We can all use guidence.
