I need some help. I have been seeing a girl for over a year now. About 6 months ago I found out she was an sp. Said she has quit now and doesn't want to go back to it. I am somewhat unsure about that but is likely to be true. How do I know if she is really enjoying my company or just putting on a show as she would for a client? Can she really enjoy sex with me? Does she compare me to all the men she met? I am very confused and very much in love with her. Can anyone help me?
Falling in love with an sp
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I think you are OK.... I'm in my early 30's and can see how this would happen.. She would not stay with you if she did not enjoy your company. Give her a chance but if she goes back to being an SP. --- RUN man RUN... You will have to communicate to her that it will be hard to trust her but you are willing to give it a shot
From readin your post I gather your not paying for her company, am I right or wrong?!?!?!
If I'm right, then it should be obvious as shittin yer pants she cares for ya. No SP is gonna let you bang her for free if your just some other stupid trick!!
If I'm right, then it should be obvious as shittin yer pants she cares for ya. No SP is gonna let you bang her for free if your just some other stupid trick!!
It really depends on the girl. Some might try to use you, some might actually fall in love with you back. If you aren't paying her for her time or paying her rent or supplying her habit or feeding her daily or buying her kids clothes or or or then hitrack is probably right, 
eek: ) and she is genuine.
eek: ) and she is genuine.No, I am not paying for her company. She is having a tough time and has moved into my place for awhile until she gets on her feet again. She has no income at all. She has kids that stay here on her week with them as well
Bluebells, I am paying for her habits and food and everything else. And we don't have sex very often at all
That is very well said.hitrack said:
As long as your GF does not ask you for $$$. That is fine.
I had a relationship with a retired SP for a few months. suddenly she asked me money for some legitimate reasons. I trusted her. Then she kept asking again and again. Finally I had enough and said good bye to her. Within two weeks ,she was back in the trade!
So good luck to you!
That was exactly what happened to me. I thought I was a gentleman paying my SP friend her rent,her school fees but not habits. However the intimacy was getting worse and didn't have sex for quite a while!tonyinkelowna said:
Perhaps you should keep an account how much you have spent with her. If you can't afford anymore, run!
Watch out man!
I think the question is whether she loves him or is using him .... he sounds willing to accept her, past and all. Although the very fact that Tony is wondering enogh to ask here online (his third post) suggests that maybe he does know the answer and looking to us to either confirm or deny the nasty, awful (maybe??) truth.
1. you don't. you either trust her or don't.tonyinkelowna said:
2. can she enjoy sex with you? how bad in the sack are you? dump the porn and ask her what she likes.
3. EVERY woman compares every guy she is with every guy she has ever met!
4. no, we can't help you ... only you can help you. either you like her and enjoy this situation or you are a schmuck who is getting used and is close to realizing it and should do something about it (like asking her to leave your house!).
and PS: i have seen this with non-sp's as well ... this woman i was dating dumped me one night and hooked up with a friend of mine ... turns out she did it because she was pregnant from her previous boyfriend but since i didn't look like him she picked a guy who did and had sex with him and said the kid was his!
women.
I have a bf, and he knows what I do. The difference between my situation and yours is that I am still in the biz, whereas your love kitten isn't. I agree with mariolopez's comment. You fell in love with her for her, so what does it matter if she was an escort? And I can't speak for her, but I don't compare my bf to my clients, nor the other way around. As for the whole, she's staying with you and you're supporting her.... what are these problems that prevent her from getting back on her feet?? No job? Can't work? What? If she's at your place all day, and not looking for a job, bad situation. Its one thing to be a victim of circumstances, but loafing around and not doing anything to make things better for yourself isn't healthy. On her or on your pocketbook. She sounds like she may be letching, or (wishful thinking) she just has motivational problems. In which case it'll probably blow up in your face anyhow. If you love her, great. If she loves you, great. But love doesn't mean you're obligated to be her safety net. Make rules that she has to follow if she is to continue living off you. She has to hand out so many resumes a day, or she has to do so much homework (is she's an undergrad), or something to get her to put effort into her life. May sound cruel, but its better than being walked on. Love is blind, but the neighbours ain't, and here in Perbville, the consensus is that you are likely being used. Take preventative measures is my advice. Best of luck!
I really dont know bluebells. Not sure if I am being used or not. I do know that feelings are there from her. She has been out of the country visiting relatives for 3 weeks now. We talk on the phone virtually every day. Who knows??? I think I am dazed and confused
You have a parallel story with mine.tonyinkelowna said:
I also paid for her holiday with her grandma and daughter. She was enjoying herself but I had to work double hard to supply the cash to make her happy for 4 weeks.
I am sorry. You can tell,she is using you!
...or renting an incall location down the block. Give your head a shake. I apologize for being blunt, but really, come on man! It's time to end things. Walk away from her and walk away from PERB. This is not the place to be asking guys who pay for sex and companionship for relationship advice.tonyinkelowna said:
