Maybe this is what everyone already does, but you might want to read through to the end. There was one issue that was a surprise for me.
I don't have a problem with deposits, at least for trusted sex workers. But I want to be sure that I cover my tracks in case someone looks at the bank account online or the monthly statement.
So here is what I do, step by step. I would be interested to hear if anyone has other suggestions. Also, this works for my bank, but may be completely different for another on.
1. Go online and go to the eTransfer tab. Select "edit your contact information". Here is where I can enter a nickname. I choose "Mike" but you might want to get more creative. Keep in mind, this nickname might show up later on, as I will show you so actually you should probably use your real first name but NOT your last name, obviously.
2. Change the email address to the one you set up for this hobby. Be sure that you change back to your usual email address after you have sent the eTransfer.
3. Add the sex workers contact to your contact list for eTransfers. When you enter the contact information, and this is really important, make up a fake name e.g. BJ Computer Enterprises. This is much easier to explain to an accountant or significant other than an contact like Pricilla Pussy or Jessie Juggs
4. Make up any password you like if necessary for the eTransfer unless the recipient has autodeposit enabled. Probably best practice is to have a password rather than autodeposit.
5. Send a text to the sex worker so she knows to expect the made up contact name, and the password
6. The sex workers email address will still show in your online transaction record (see below). SEX WORKERS PLEASE NOTE: consider setting up an innocuous email address that does not include your working name, e.g. BJ93175_L@gmail.com or something like that.
7. Send the required eTransfer. In the message section, DO NOT put in any details. Just something like "Thanks very much". See below for the reason.
8. Now go back and erase your tracks - change your email back to your usual one and delete the contact for the sex worker. You might get a message that there is still an outstanding transfer. I can disregard this with my bank.
This should do it. The one thing that caught me off guard was seeing my online transaction history. It turns out my bank keeps a detailed record of every eTransfer that includes the contact name, email address, AND the message I sent. I did not expect that last one. I had been in the habit of sending a message along with the etransfer giving some of the details for the session, e.g. "This is for a one hour outcall session at 7:00pm tonight. Thanks very much." I thought this was a good idea if the sex worker ever questioned whether I had done a transfer or not. However, if anyone ever went into the online eTransfer record, I would have a very hard time explaining this! I would also have a hard time explaining away some of the email addresses associated with the contacts - so again, sex workers, please help us out and use discrete email addresses.
I hope this helps save someone's butt. Let me know what you think and if you have any other ideas. Again, details may vary depending on your bank.
I don't have a problem with deposits, at least for trusted sex workers. But I want to be sure that I cover my tracks in case someone looks at the bank account online or the monthly statement.
So here is what I do, step by step. I would be interested to hear if anyone has other suggestions. Also, this works for my bank, but may be completely different for another on.
1. Go online and go to the eTransfer tab. Select "edit your contact information". Here is where I can enter a nickname. I choose "Mike" but you might want to get more creative. Keep in mind, this nickname might show up later on, as I will show you so actually you should probably use your real first name but NOT your last name, obviously.
2. Change the email address to the one you set up for this hobby. Be sure that you change back to your usual email address after you have sent the eTransfer.
3. Add the sex workers contact to your contact list for eTransfers. When you enter the contact information, and this is really important, make up a fake name e.g. BJ Computer Enterprises. This is much easier to explain to an accountant or significant other than an contact like Pricilla Pussy or Jessie Juggs
4. Make up any password you like if necessary for the eTransfer unless the recipient has autodeposit enabled. Probably best practice is to have a password rather than autodeposit.
5. Send a text to the sex worker so she knows to expect the made up contact name, and the password
6. The sex workers email address will still show in your online transaction record (see below). SEX WORKERS PLEASE NOTE: consider setting up an innocuous email address that does not include your working name, e.g. BJ93175_L@gmail.com or something like that.
7. Send the required eTransfer. In the message section, DO NOT put in any details. Just something like "Thanks very much". See below for the reason.
8. Now go back and erase your tracks - change your email back to your usual one and delete the contact for the sex worker. You might get a message that there is still an outstanding transfer. I can disregard this with my bank.
This should do it. The one thing that caught me off guard was seeing my online transaction history. It turns out my bank keeps a detailed record of every eTransfer that includes the contact name, email address, AND the message I sent. I did not expect that last one. I had been in the habit of sending a message along with the etransfer giving some of the details for the session, e.g. "This is for a one hour outcall session at 7:00pm tonight. Thanks very much." I thought this was a good idea if the sex worker ever questioned whether I had done a transfer or not. However, if anyone ever went into the online eTransfer record, I would have a very hard time explaining this! I would also have a hard time explaining away some of the email addresses associated with the contacts - so again, sex workers, please help us out and use discrete email addresses.
I hope this helps save someone's butt. Let me know what you think and if you have any other ideas. Again, details may vary depending on your bank.
