Etiqueitte question/disscussion

[lff1975]

I have an etiquette question for you all. When you meet a provider and you can tell she doesn't meet your expectations what should you do?

If it was a fake add I think it is ok to just walk away. I believe that is easy.

What to do if it seems that the add and communication were somewhat accurate but you just don't fell it right off the start. Before anything starts is it proper to just say sorry and leave or pay the provider something or the whole session for their wasted time.
The reason I ask is you can read my review of Monique 0894. I ignored all the red flags for the situation and tried to go though with it because she wasn't a fake but not what I expected?

 

[plumbcrawl]

I have an etiquette question for you all. When you meet a provider and you can tell she doesn't meet your expectations what should you do?

If it was a fake add I think it is ok to just walk away. I believe that is easy.

What to do if it seems that the add and communication were somewhat accurate but you just don't fell it right off the start. Before anything starts is it proper to just say sorry and leave or pay the provider something or the whole session for their wasted time.
The reason I ask is you can read my review of Monique 0894. I ignored all the red flags for the situation and tried to go though with it because she wasn't a fake but not what I expected?

You are paying for time, the moment you hand over the envelope your money/their time is gone. Neither of you can get them back. If you see enough ladies you will eventually have this happen. Reviews and research help stack the deck in your favour a bit but sometimes you hit snake eyes. It sucks when it happens but it makes the ladies/encounters that are mind blowing seem even sweeter. Chalk it up as a bad draw and move on. There are rare cases when there are refunds but they are the exception and honestly the SP that offer it tends to be the ones that aren't doing the things that would cause you to want a refund (if that makes any sense)

 

[surveyor66]

I have an etiquette question for you all. When you meet a provider and you can tell she doesn't meet your expectations what should you do?

If it was a fake add I think it is ok to just walk away. I believe that is easy.

What to do if it seems that the add and communication were somewhat accurate but you just don't fell it right off the start. Before anything starts is it proper to just say sorry and leave or pay the provider something or the whole session for their wasted time.
The reason I ask is you can read my review of Monique 0894. I ignored all the red flags for the situation and tried to go though with it because she wasn't a fake but not what I expected?

If she's not what you are into you walk. You don't offer anything - except if you're guilty of something (like ducking out when everything else is as advertised). IF she faked the ad etc then she is the guilty party. then just apologize - say "I'm sorry this isn't what I was expecting" and walk. Trust your guts too. And if there are no reviews don't go. If there are bad reviews don't go. If there are mixed reviews you still are taking a chance but much less risky bc ymmv. If there are many good reviews then go and have fun.

 

[Yukon#One]

Do your research
and do not ever put yourself in a corner , or bad situation .

 

[Ron Jeremy Jr.]

I think it depends on where you're at in the session. If you're there a minute or two and you realize it's just not right, but the lady did not fake on the pics, I think it'd be fine to give the lady $50 for her time and say it's not what you expected, and leave.

 

[TerrR]

Also remember that this is a business for these ladies. If you book a time slot and then walk because it just didn’t feel right, that SP has now lost that time slot and therefore her opportunity to earn money for that time slot. I think that RRJ’s suggestion would be the least you could do in a circumstance like that.
Of course, if she’s fake you walk…immediately.

 

[Ron Jeremy Jr.]

Also remember that this is a business for these ladies. If you book a time slot and then walk because it just didn’t feel right, that SP has now lost that time slot and therefore her opportunity to earn money for that time slot. I think that RRJ’s suggestion would be the least you could do in a circumstance like that.
Of course, if she’s fake you walk…immediately.

You're right on. I've only done that once in my almost 25 years in this hobby. And if I recall, it was a situation where the pics were accurate but after talking to her for like 30 seconds I could tell something just wasn't right with he her mentally.

 

[Rex456]

Agree with @plumbcrawl, you're not exchanging money for a commodity but for a providers time. If you do what @surveyor66 suggests, then that's lacking class on your part. Also, liable to get you blacklisted with other providers if that provider decides to share with others you pulled a runner. Just ask yourself what you would do if you were going to see a RMT or another professional service provider.

You do have an opportunity at the start to say you don't think this is going to work. Maybe she has cats and you're allergic. Maybe she looks like your ex-wife. There's things you're not going to know until you meet. Vice versa, you might look like someone she knows and she may pull the pin (be prepared for that). At the start is where you can suggest if a deal can be reached, but it's up to the provider who's time you committed to, to decide what that is. They may write it off, may charge you their 15min rate (if they have) or they may just want the whole amount. As others have said, it's possible for these things to happen. But those chances are greatly reduced when you research what you can.

 

[Ron Jeremy Jr.]

Agree with @plumbcrawl, you're not exchanging money for a commodity but for a providers time. If you do what @surveyor66 suggests, then that's lacking class on your part. Also, liable to get you blacklisted with other providers if that provider decides to share with others you pulled a runner. Just ask yourself what you would do if you were going to see a RMT or another professional service provider.

You do have an opportunity at the start to say you don't think this is going to work. Maybe she has cats and you're allergic. Maybe she looks like your ex-wife. There's things you're not going to know until you meet. Vice versa, you might look like someone she knows and she may pull the pin (be prepared for that). At the start is where you can suggest if a deal can be reached, but it's up to the provider who's time you committed to, to decide what that is. They may write it off, may charge you their 15min rate (if they have) or they may just want the whole amount. As others have said, it's possible for these things to happen. But those chances are greatly reduced when you research what you can.

Disagree on one part. If the SP is fake (ad clearly has fake pics) I think walking away is appropriate and encouraged.

 

[Rex456]

Disagree on one part. If the SP is fake (ad clearly has fake pics) I think walking away is appropriate and encouraged.

Absolutely. If she's using fake pics and hasn't been reviewed before (e.g. Avaa Mills) there's no obligation there. That shit shouldn't be condoned.

 

[plumbcrawl]

Disagree on one part. If the SP is fake (ad clearly has fake pics) I think walking away is appropriate and encouraged.

That was covered in the very first post and it wasn't the OP's question. What he was asking was if it wasn't a fake ad but just not what you were expecting or lack of chemistry. For that I don't think it's fair to walk away. You have a brief amount of time when you walk in to do a quick scan to see if alarm bells go off in your mind. There's no cut and dry answer but it's not fair for ladies to be on the hook for a guy's cold feet. I would happily give up the donation if it really feels wrong. It get's tricky because every lady has time wasters and if it becomes normalized to have guys to show up and leave because reality is a bit diffrent from pictures. Ladies are posting the pics that they feel make them look the best (all social media) So for the most part if a lady looks like she has kinda thick wrists in her pics her wrists in reality are probably at least that thick and she probably tried to picks pictures that made her wrists look their best in her opinion. If a lady has be reasonably honest and made an effort you don't have to stay but your money does.

 

[Ron Jeremy Jr.]

That was covered in the very first post and it wasn't the OP's question. What he was asking was if it wasn't a fake ad but just not what you were expecting or lack of chemistry. For that I don't think it's fair to walk away. You have a brief amount of time when you walk in to do a quick scan to see if alarm bells go off in your mind. There's no cut and dry answer but it's not fair for ladies to be on the hook for a guy's cold feet. I would happily give up the donation if it really feels wrong. It get's tricky because every lady has time wasters and if it becomes normalized to have guys to show up and leave because reality is a bit diffrent from pictures. Ladies are posting the pics that they feel make them look the best (all social media) So for the most part if a lady looks like she has kinda thick wrists in her pics her wrists in reality are probably at least that thick and she probably tried to picks pictures that made her wrists look their best in her opinion. If a lady has be reasonably honest and made an effort you don't have to stay but your money does.

Rex456 was responding to TerrR. That's the conversation I was responding to.

 

[surveyor66]

Agree with @plumbcrawl, you're not exchanging money for a commodity but for a providers time. If you do what @surveyor66 suggests, then that's lacking class on your part. Also, liable to get you blacklisted with other providers if that provider decides to share with others you pulled a runner. Just ask yourself what you would do if you were going to see a RMT or another professional service provider.

You do have an opportunity at the start to say you don't think this is going to work. Maybe she has cats and you're allergic. Maybe she looks like your ex-wife. There's things you're not going to know until you meet. Vice versa, you might look like someone she knows and she may pull the pin (be prepared for that). At the start is where you can suggest if a deal can be reached, but it's up to the provider who's time you committed to, to decide what that is. They may write it off, may charge you their 15min rate (if they have) or they may just want the whole amount. As others have said, it's possible for these things to happen. But those chances are greatly reduced when you research what you can.

OBV you didn't read my post correctly. To Clarify - You walk - except If you are guilty of something - if you're going to do something wrong like ducking out bc you're not into the girl (meaning she's real but not what you want) - then I'd agree you should offer her something bc then you are the one wasting her time. If she's fake in any way meaning her pics are 10 yrs old or plain fake - if she's strung out on anything - or she looks like hell or she just woke-up and really not prepared for a client - then you walk and it really helps if you report back on perb so others know. I've encountered all of it. Cheers.

 

[Rex456]

Read it correctly.....before you edited it.

Regardless, rather than have us fill in the blanks, the providers on here can come in and suggest what they think is appropriate for a session that doesn't get off the launch pad.

 

[westwoody]

There are guys who repeatedly do this to different ladies, on purpose. They always forget their wallet and “will be right back”.

There was a creepy stalker who did it to touring ladies, he got their location, had a look at them, and then took off after a minute or two. I heard about it from two different ladies.

So be sure it’s a valid complaint first, not just cold feet or a hooker-looker.

 

[Banged_Up]

Time is the only true commodity. Yes, we as clients are paying for time. Which is a legalese dance around to cover asses where the law is concerned. I have never gone to see a provider for the stimulating conversation. So that is bullshit, call it what it is. They happily and proudly refer to themselves as sex workers, not therapists, occasionally social companions but not your local bullshit buddy.
Here’s the hitch that no one ever mentions. Scenario goes like this, and there’s a post just like this recently. $500/hr girl is mostly as advertised, dude even says so but hints at photoshopping. Then provider comes on and refers to review as hilarious but also admits to “light photshopping“ and that everyone does it. At that rate, for me, if she isn’t exactly what the pictures show, I walk, no apology, no tip, no consideration.
Here is the logic. Girls will tell you that it costs X amount of time to prepare, overhead for incall, makeup, nails, hair, etc.. Guess what, you’re a sex worker. That’s part of the business. Set yourself up for success and be a cut above the rest, I applaud that.
For me, to make $500 it takes 12 hours of my time. At work. Busting knuckles, occasionally I bleed for my paycheque. My time is valuable too. Photoshopped photos on any level is false advertising and quality legit providers don’t need to do it. I’m a middle income earner. My time is no more or no less valuable than any provider. I jump through the screening hoops, make sure my body is spotless clean on arrival and act like a gentleman.
So to answer the OP question, if the advertising is false, walk.
If services advertised aren’t the same as what is offered, write a review that reflects that, obviously it’s too late to walk when the ad says DFK (for example) is available and all of a sudden it’s not so save someone else that aggravation.
If you feel like your safety is jeopardized, walk, maybe even run.
If there may be substance abuse issues and you aren’t into that, walk.
Basically, it’s your money. You worked for it. If you don’t want to spend it then don’t. And don’t apologize, don’t give a tip. Don’t nothing other than politely say “no thank you” and walk. If that gets you blacklisted, so be it.
If as the provider I mentioned earlier says that most do photoshop then it’s on us to change that as unacceptable advertising and not support it.

 

[Banged_Up]

After reading this I went to my Twitter account to change my heading picture from saying "Lifestyle Companion" to "Adult Sexworker Companion" because you are right I'm not here to be a bullshit buddy or claim somthing I'm not and I'm quite proud of being a sexy independent sp.

Aswell I feel your comment on the photoshop. Way to many woman are posting pics that are over photshopped and take out all life's normal imperfections and it down right looks abnormal I'm not gonna name any sp's but it does piss me off alot.
All my pics are 100% not photoshopped as you can see for yourself. Unfortunately though because I don't photoshop I get the occasional text saying I'm ugly etc
and one man even told me I shouldn't charge the rates I want or feel I deserve because I dont look like a travelling girl, and that I definitely don't look like an Instagram model, or that I'm not hot enough.
Aswell he said that I'm very new to being an sp so I shouldn't charge the rates I want and that I should go with a much lower amount.

(Sorry for the rant I just realized it doesn't have much to do with the thread.) Oops
Xoxo
Lucifer-Lynn
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I’m happy to have had a positive impact on someone.Thanks for hearing me.
Charge the rates you feel you can get. It’s a business, supply and demand.
Fuck em if they think you’re ugly. Actually don’t fuck them. They don’t deserve it. They are ugly on the inside, which is way worse than being ugly on the outside.
If I’m ever in Winnipeg I’ll ring you.

 

[BobbyWest99]

You definely look more than hot enough for Instagram. Whoever said that is a fucking idiot.

Ignore the negative, its bullshit anyways