Has anyone been on this site? I have heard mixed things. I've been on pof for a few years, but I'm growing weary of it. I'd like to meet some attractive women who would appreciate an intelligent, good-looking guy... Pof has yielded me varying degrees of success, but the fact that any attractive woman on their receives 40 e-mails a day makes it very hard to get anywhere when I initiate contact. Also has anyone been on match.com, fling.com, or any of the other new sites?
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I don't trust any of those sites. Some of them, EHarmony included I believe, have been caught with people on site put there to lure guys/gals and keep them subscribing.
Go on three different sites, you'll generally see the same 100 women from your area. It's pathetic.
Go on three different sites, you'll generally see the same 100 women from your area. It's pathetic.
Totally agree, with a caveat.
1) I used to be on pof; met guys who would take me out for coffee one evening, and the next evening they were asking me on the phone if I liked to fuck or suck better...I'm like, WTF, I don't even know you! Guy says, "But we met last night!"
2) It doesn't matter which site you use, you still have to have good boundaries and stick with what you really want
3) http://www.eventsandadventures.com/vancouver-home.html Activity companies are way more interesting than one-on-one dates with strangers imho
any pay site doesn't actually want you to meet somebody because if you do you will stop giving them money. The perfect situation for them is to set you up with someone who is almost right but has a tragic flaw so you end up thinking it is your fault that it isn't working and just keep paying the dues every month.
Volleyball leagues are probably great places to meet women I bet? I like going to the gym, but it seems even worse than the bar for a place to meet a woman (this is what people tell me at least). Maybe a running club would be good? I like fit women who take care of themselves, but I'd like an environment where they aren't on guard and likely to shoot a guy down.
I'm having very little success (luck?) with It's Just Lunch.....been on about 10 dates since October.....since I don't want to date anyone that weighs more than me, that has eliminated at 1/3......two very nice, pretty women, never returned my calls...(it's giving me a complex, ha)......I am a youthful looking 50, most women in their late 40's look older......at 5'11", I was too short for one girl......Considering that it's a very expensive service, I'm surprised at the results. Of course, these are the same women that never give you the time of day, if you were to approach them at Starbucks or similiar.
Oh, and women: yoga is not a sport.....
Besides, my regular SP has spoiled me for any relationship that I may have a with a civilian....But I'll keep trying.
Oh, and women: yoga is not a sport.....
Besides, my regular SP has spoiled me for any relationship that I may have a with a civilian....But I'll keep trying.
I tried eharmony a few years back, maybe its different now.
I think its the only site women have to pay to use.
So I filled in everything 100% honest. The matches I got sent were all at least 5 years older than me, and many 10+ years older.
At the time I was like 30. Their site also doesn't seem to know Vancouver Island might be within 100 miles of Vancouver. However, I found it kind of useless that many of my matches were in Victoria.
None of the ladies it matched me with had any interest in me. But how many 45 year old women seriously looking for a relationship want a 30 year old.
I think its the only site women have to pay to use.
So I filled in everything 100% honest. The matches I got sent were all at least 5 years older than me, and many 10+ years older.
At the time I was like 30. Their site also doesn't seem to know Vancouver Island might be within 100 miles of Vancouver. However, I found it kind of useless that many of my matches were in Victoria.
None of the ladies it matched me with had any interest in me. But how many 45 year old women seriously looking for a relationship want a 30 year old.
This thread is very interesting.
I know two happy couples who started from online.
One was through lavalife, and another one, I'm not sure.
They were both Japanese woman and white man.
I have seen my friends on pof, but they were not that lucky.... As far as I observed.
I have accidentally encountered meet'n greet for pof (at Tuder House Pub), but it was pretty ..... How can I say, I did not feel much sexy atmosphere from there.
I was also wondering about It's Just Lunch as they have ads on airplane magazines, and I always see it when I'm flying.
A lot of my single clients would love to meet women, and willing to stop pooning once they make some connections to girls. They just don't know where to meet girls. Before I started this job, my only and the best place to meet boys was university, and I don't know anywhere else. I do recommend online dating, but with no experience for it, I cannot really offer a practical advises or tips.
I would love to know where would be a good place for men to meet girls.
Any tips and suggestions are helpful.
By the way, I have heard eharmoney has more success rate due to the Christian background in organization.
Is that true?
I know two happy couples who started from online.
One was through lavalife, and another one, I'm not sure.
They were both Japanese woman and white man.
I have seen my friends on pof, but they were not that lucky.... As far as I observed.
I have accidentally encountered meet'n greet for pof (at Tuder House Pub), but it was pretty ..... How can I say, I did not feel much sexy atmosphere from there.
I was also wondering about It's Just Lunch as they have ads on airplane magazines, and I always see it when I'm flying.
A lot of my single clients would love to meet women, and willing to stop pooning once they make some connections to girls. They just don't know where to meet girls. Before I started this job, my only and the best place to meet boys was university, and I don't know anywhere else. I do recommend online dating, but with no experience for it, I cannot really offer a practical advises or tips.
I would love to know where would be a good place for men to meet girls.
Any tips and suggestions are helpful.
By the way, I have heard eharmoney has more success rate due to the Christian background in organization.
Is that true?
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I have tried all the sites.. eHarmony was OK but the process takes too long. I did meet a few decent people and I did actually date a very nice woman for a few months. It's legit. It's for people looking for relationships not random hookups.
POF is a waste of time... I did actually date a few people but I think it's a total circus and the volume of messages is so high that it's impossible to connect with people. My favourite site is OK Cupid. Lots of cool, alternative women and the questions and metrics do actually predict your compatibility. Online dating is a numbers game
POF is a waste of time... I did actually date a few people but I think it's a total circus and the volume of messages is so high that it's impossible to connect with people. My favourite site is OK Cupid. Lots of cool, alternative women and the questions and metrics do actually predict your compatibility. Online dating is a numbers game
IMO gym is a terrible place to meet someone. Maybe it's just me, but I'm really leery about someone who's at the gym other than for the purpose of working out, just sends all those red flags about them having ulterior motives behind everything. As was said, co-ed teams (most people aren't superstars and are there just as much for the social aspect as the sports aspect) and activities clubs. If the women are on guard against you there it's cause there is something messed up with your approach (I'm assuming you're primary goal is to meet someone not simply sleep with them). If you're solely doing things just to meet women there is a good chance that'll show. Focus on having a good time in a co-ed atmosphere and good things come naturally.
I always wondered the same question 30 years ago when I was young & single. Never found a good aanswer. I did meet women taking evening courses at university and also travelling. I also met women at work. Nevertheless it was very hard meeting women (especially if you are just ordinary physical appearance). Fortunately there were many lovely escorts to spend time with in between and that is why my pooning career was so long lived. I also dated several ladies in the profession. I do find Canadian women very reserved - hard to approach. I recommend travel.
Eharmony? WOT...WOM. Go take ballroom or salsa dance lessons, then go out to the dance night mixers/social clubs.
I signed up for Salsa dance lessons in the hope of meeting women. Boy I was disappointed when out of 8 people, 7 of them were young Asian guys.
But that one woman in class is ultra hot. She is kinda a minor celeb in town among the guys for winning the body painting contest almost every year. You should have seen her face when the teacher said next week we start dancing with partners.As for POF, I think it is okay for an add-on to your dating life. It can't be the only source. The key to dating is to put yourself in a position to meet as many women as possible. You are never going to know who are going to meet. Join clubs, sports teams, anything where you can meet someone. Instead of reading a book at home, take it to a coffee place Monday night. Also the key is to try. Too many guys chicken out.
The problem with POF is guys out number the ladies by 5 to 1. So the women get hit with so many messages they can't keep up and their standards go way up compared to a normal situation. So they are passing up good guys for the "6'3 super-model with the master degrees". You have to make your opening message stand out and sometimes it is too much work to think of something funny to say.
I have gotten a few dates and a few numbers off it. But I think it more of "if I get something off it I am lucky"
Having spent a significant amount of money on a personal recruiter with unsatisfactory results, I took the plunge into POF a few years back. On POF, I had written a very long, open and specific profile which surprisingly caught the attention of several single Italian mothers in the first three months. It was an interesting filtering process to say the least. In the end, I became good friends with two of them. One of which I corresponded with through email and telephone which eventually led to me flying her out from NYC for an intense two week romance.
To each their own but one has to be open to the possibilities. Good luck to all.
Peace.
To each their own but one has to be open to the possibilities. Good luck to all.
Peace.
I found a Lesbian site that looked interesting. I just wanted to chat and be part of the 'sisterhood' again, but then I realized it was a subscription site and I had about 48 hours of free access.
Just before my 48 hours was up I received a 'smile' from a super hot chick with the most amazing profile.....mmmmm
I found a more local site for free
I think we have to give up notions that our dream partner is just waiting somewhere to be plucked up, like, a finished product that will fall into our lives in perfect rhythm.
The reality is that we need to date many people on a friendship level without hurrying into commitments. Once we get into a relationship there are still many years of work ahead. (I hate relationship work)
It might be easier for the young'uns who have not become set in their ways, but, geeze, once we hit middle age it's like fitting square pegs into round holes!
I am a nice person until I get into my house and shut the door then I am a grumpy old lady!
Just before my 48 hours was up I received a 'smile' from a super hot chick with the most amazing profile.....mmmmm
I found a more local site for free
I think we have to give up notions that our dream partner is just waiting somewhere to be plucked up, like, a finished product that will fall into our lives in perfect rhythm.
The reality is that we need to date many people on a friendship level without hurrying into commitments. Once we get into a relationship there are still many years of work ahead. (I hate relationship work
)It might be easier for the young'uns who have not become set in their ways, but, geeze, once we hit middle age it's like fitting square pegs into round holes!
I am a nice person until I get into my house and shut the door
then I am a grumpy old lady!
