I'll fap some times up to 4 times a day. If I plan on seeing someone, I like to abstain for as long as I can manage before hand or else I might need a 2-3 hour appointment with a very skilled SP. Part of it is getting jaded with easily available porn that caters to every fetish imaginable. Part of it is age. Part of it is just plain nerves of being with someone new. It started with my SO's declining libido with age. You'd have to fill in the gap somehow. Eventually, she thought I wasn't interested because it was starting to take me so long to cum (wasn't true, just took more work). As our intimate times got less frequent, I'd take care of business myself more often and eventually turned to SP's as I wasn't really interested in an affair. Somehow I figured this would be a better way to go, but I still manage to fall in love every single time.