Vancouver is a weird place for lots of things and there are a lot of different cliques here. That changes the whole dating game. If things don't work well for you where you live, maybe you just need to find a different corner of the Lower Mainland. People are people and they're pretty similar all over the place. You just have to find the right crowd and I think it's easy to be in the wrong one in this City.
Do you get laid outside of SPs?
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I changed my mind. There isn't somebody for everybody. Some people have fundamental incompatibilities, but they're a minority in number, say 5 to 10%. Most people have the basic ingredients to have a long term relationship. If you're somewhat normal and can't find a partner after giving it a chance (8 months is still short), then the problem probably has something to do with you.I give up. I've done that etc etc etc but this isn't about me.... It hasn't been eight years though8 months maybe? Is it bad that I can't actually remember? I prefer my work life (right now).
definitely not implying that, at all. I said "my last boyfriend"..... have we dated? nope, therefore, it has nothing to do with my lack of opinion of you. I am saying there's someone out there for you, just like there's someone out there for me, eventually.
JSmith, I would say the fault isn't yours, entirely. Vancouver is loosely affected by the "Seattle Freeze" phenomena (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seattle_Freeze is a good summary). I have lived in several cities in my life time - In New York I had a girl over almost every night (provided it wasn't friday or saturday), in Capetown women approached men, and a lot of French women prefer fucking you on the first date to make sure YOU don't suck in bed.
Puritan and feminist culture, low-density population, lack of travel and world experience among the population have made dating in Vancouver difficult and unrefined. Almost all of my long term relationships end up being European.
Of course, this is anecdotatal. But give it some thought and take away from it what you wish.
Not gonna 'man-speak' here or try to mouth off about what women want or need (don't need the grief- had enough debates lately).
But confidence goes a long way- if you're not laying it down then they're not picking it up.
I refer to it as "the power". Learned it ages ago working in clubs when I was quite young and inexperienced. Said 'No' to advances from numerous women- rather than jumping at whoever or whatever stepped up. It created a confidence within and ultimately attracted more women- I'm sure just from the vibe I put out. A respectful manner allowed for prolonged interaction to develop insight into behaviour and needs and ultimately a more charming demeanour that served well in future encounters.
But confidence goes a long way- if you're not laying it down then they're not picking it up.
I refer to it as "the power". Learned it ages ago working in clubs when I was quite young and inexperienced. Said 'No' to advances from numerous women- rather than jumping at whoever or whatever stepped up. It created a confidence within and ultimately attracted more women- I'm sure just from the vibe I put out. A respectful manner allowed for prolonged interaction to develop insight into behaviour and needs and ultimately a more charming demeanour that served well in future encounters.
That's more or less what I said above. It seems to be a West Coast thing. I think we're generally very cliquey here while other places in North America are more homogeneous.
I notice that in other cities, like San Diego and LA, it's definitely easier to meet and pick up girls. There are also a lot less douchey guys there. Everybody in Vancouver likes to act like they're a big deal, almost like Vegas.
This phenomenon as cited above goes back to early 90s. It was a major part of Vancouver’s post Wxpo growing pains. Now it’s on steroids based on all the housing challenges and more.
For Canadians I think there is one major difference in Vancouver that does not affect it like the rest of Canada- a real winter. Rain is a nuisance but 30 below is life or death and people are bonded by that reality.
For Canadians I think there is one major difference in Vancouver that does not affect it like the rest of Canada- a real winter. Rain is a nuisance but 30 below is life or death and people are bonded by that reality.
Think about it you paid 2-300 dollars to have sex with someone, and you cant call her on the weekends to chop it up, you cant go chill somewhere, text to see how her day was ...there is no emotional connection , and when all of your friends are with their girlfriends on the weekend, you are working overtime trying to scape money together for an escort....
I think this hobbie has become bad for your psychological health, overtime it's going to hurt your confidence even more it's not tangible and everlasting
Now with that being said if you are a man who just wants what he wants without any games , then it's perfect, just not in your circumstance
I’m a busy single dad with a casual girlfriend. Don’t have time or the mental capacity to date a bunch of women.
I sorta missed out on the fun days during my early 20’s fucking beautiful young girls as I was dating my wife at the time and got married young(divorced now), getting on with life, buying a house etc. Watched my buddies pick up different girls at the bars, date multiple women and felt a little jealous at times but was able to get ahead faster than them while they lived in their parents basements.
Now in my mid 30’s I still crave tight hotties in their 20’s. Dating them is out of the question as they’d only be interested in my wallet I’m sure and mistreat my kids.
My girlfriend is great, beautiful, loves sex and great with my kids, but she’s also close to my age!
Pooning is the only way for me to experience spontaneity, variety and the ability to fool around with young girls without the drama and/or headache!!
I sorta missed out on the fun days during my early 20’s fucking beautiful young girls as I was dating my wife at the time and got married young(divorced now), getting on with life, buying a house etc. Watched my buddies pick up different girls at the bars, date multiple women and felt a little jealous at times but was able to get ahead faster than them while they lived in their parents basements.
Now in my mid 30’s I still crave tight hotties in their 20’s. Dating them is out of the question as they’d only be interested in my wallet I’m sure and mistreat my kids.
My girlfriend is great, beautiful, loves sex and great with my kids, but she’s also close to my age!
Pooning is the only way for me to experience spontaneity, variety and the ability to fool around with young girls without the drama and/or headache!!
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This is a great observation and this thread is one of the best I seen on the topic. Very informative. Thanks for sharing you all.
