Do you get better service from SPs if you are fit/good looking/well dressed?

[Dickson]

In my opinion if you are under 40 you shouldn't be hooked on escorts and only see them if you need occasional variety or experiencing a dry spell.
But if you are older then it's great to have sex with a 20 something woman because that will rarely happen in life without paying or being filthy rich.

Agree with 7of9 as this can't make you happy in the long term and don't understand the guys who pay for a SP companionship such as sporting events.
You have be a loner/socially awkward to pay for friendship as I see it as a sign of being a loser. That's what guy friends are for.

Well nickcan, I am one of those losers. I pay women to be with me almost all the time. I pay them to go to events. I pay them to go for dinner with me. I have been a loner all my life. I travel all the time. I work all the time. I have not been able to carry on a relationship due to my lifestyle. Sorry but true.

Happyness is a state of mind. I have seen people living in a mud hut and they were the happiest people you would ever see. So I believe I am happy. Is it a perfect life. No but many a guy in PERB wishes they had what I have. I would agree it is not the best. I wish I had but other guys have but that is human nature we all want what the other guy has. I don't understand guys that are married seeing SPs it is all relative.

 

[Dickson]

I'd say after the basics of hygiene, paying and respect. Attitude, chemistry/compatibility (or however you want to call it), maybe tipping, and I'd like to add familiarity are going to get you better "service" (prefer to refer to it as a better time myself as that's how I'll be qualifying it when I think back).

As for the comments about ppl under 40 paying for it are losers or shouldn't feel good about it...... Blow me. I'm very glad that you can't look past your own pov and reasons for paying for it. Maybe some people are paying for "talent". Perhaps some are tired of constantly having to impress their partner and wish to be on the other end for awhile. Or even some may be tired of jumping through hoops to even get a woman to bed and once they're there be made to feel like a huge favor is being done for them. Let's not forget about men who've been screwed over one too many times and frankly don't trust a woman to have any impact on their lives for more than a few hours/days at a time. Also how about men who work on the road for a vast majority of the year away from home living in camps with all men and working with all men. How about the men who prefer to spend a vast majority of their time alone or just with friends and not in a relationship or chasing women. What about the old saying "you don't pay for sex you pay for them to leave" (and I would add be descrete about it).

As for social functions. Again not everyone is the same. Maybe some guys need more of a connection for the sex to really work for them. As seven said he cared wether the sp like certain things or not, whereas some guys clearly don't give a crap and are doing em anyways.

Everyones different. Not every guy just wants to fuck, and everyone isn't paying for sex/companionship just because they're old, fat, ugly, want young hot women, or because their wives/gf's won't put out anymore.

Well said Dgodus!!!!

 

[LADY-VIA]

some men area really just meat and potatos.. and never really got into fashion.. and they know that women know what looks good.. as we are the ones generally in the malls most often.. and we are the ones who pick up the magazines and read them while waiting in a long line up and the grocery store.

I have a younger teenage brother, and growing up with three sisters and mom.. dads always working he was alway surrounded by women... and he values all our opionions when it came to clothes. He always takes a girl with him too when he goes shopping.. or one of us. He wants to look his best, and if hes going out and one of us catch what he wearing and dont like it.. we tell him to change and he does !!!! This rarely happens anymore he picks out some pretty sharp outfits when hes alone shopping now.. but it took time

By all the effort we all put into him.. when he grows up he will not need our opionions as much and will always be able to pick out nice outfits on his own... well one is hoping.. took a while to get him out of the wigger hats.. but we broke that phase as quick as we could.

ONE MIGHT THINK that we are training him to jump to what a women thinks.. but I believe we are teaching him to always respect a womens opinion.. and he has had several girlfriends and is a pure gentlemen.. walks them home from school everyday opens doors for them.. hold their bags and heavy books .. would never raise his voice,, hurt them in any way.... Hes a wholsome well manner respectful young man. and we want to keep him that way.. you dont find many tennagers who behave like him in this day and age anymore !!!!!

Reasurance from a women on how a man looks just gives them more confidence. !!!!

And to be honest this goes both ways.. we ask men all the time... "babe how do I look" " i bought a new dress,, what do you think "
" do you think I would look ok If i put read streaks in my hair ?? I have always wanted them.. but do you think I can pull it off " " these jeans feel a little tight, but do they look too tight ?? "

and personally I think tieing a mans tie is more about affection than a need to.

lady via

 

[Dgodus]

some men area really just meat and potatos.. and never really got into fashion..

^This. If it's comfortable and fits, I'm down. By comfortable I mean physically, and "do I feel like a goof or not wearing this". Some of us are also more into cloths as functionable (for example hiking boots) depending on our lifestyle. When faced with watching the women's soccer olympic qualifyer and the victoria's secret show. I was watching soccer, those women are definitly more appealing (and yes I mean the way they were dressed as well)

Not sure if I completly agree with the blanket statement that women know what looks good. Everyone has different tastes. GF's and mother have bought me more cloths that were donated to SA than I wore. Seriously one kept trying to dress me in very light colors with really tight fits. I'm 6 foot and on the skinny side with light complexion and blood hair, what the hell are you doing woman?!

 

[LADY-VIA]

very true.. not all women know what looks good.. every one has their own tastes and opinions

 

[Dickson]

very true.. not all women know what looks good.. every one has their own tastes and opinions

I would love to have a women dress me. It is only recently I bought jeans. I had a SP who told me to get jeans. I spend all my time working so I am always in a suit or dress pants, sport jackets. I have had stylists who have picked out clothes but I find that a waste of time. I think I can pick out my own clothes. I have never had a lady help me tie a tie. Ususally I pay them to take it off me. I like to take SPs shopping but it is for them. Maybe I should try taking them to buy something for me. I think that would be kinda sad for them. I get more of a kick out of watch them light up when they pick out a dress that works for them.

I have had SPs buy me ties, and sweaters but I just enjoy the fact they thought of me. Or maybe it was more my money they were thinking of.

 

[violetblake]

As pretty much every SP has stated here, looks really don't matter. You could look like Brad Pitt, but if you're an asshole, you're ugly in my books. This goes both for being an SP and also in my personal life.

 

[Dickson]

As pretty much every SP has stated here, looks really don't matter. You could look like Brad Pitt, but if you're an asshole, you're ugly in my books. This goes both for being an SP and also in my personal life.

Yea you say that Ms Blake but ladies always go for the Brad Pit kinda guys. Big disconnect between what ladies say and do. The other side of that Ladies go for the bad boy vs the good guys. I have seen that all my life. It never changes. It was like that in my 20's, 30's, 40's and I see in my 50's but I do see that older ladies are willing to compromise as they get older. But you are so young to make that comment.

I would like to know how you define Asshole? Today I am an nice guy tomorrow once you get to know me I am an asshole. I am the same guy but in the ladies eye I change?

We met once not sure if you define me as the asshole kinda guy. But then again you do not know me.

It appears to be a universal Truth with Women. Not all but most or at least the pretty ones.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

Big disconnect between what ladies say and do. The other side of that Ladies go for the bad boy vs the good guys. I have seen that all my life. It never changes. It was like that in my 20's, 30's, 40's and I see in my 50's but I do see that older ladies are willing to compromise as they get older.

I think it's generally true that ladies are somewhat less visually-oriented than men. So, if the fella isn't an adonis, she will look for other areas where he makes up for his lack of looks. But let's face it, not every good-looking guy is an asshole; not every not-good-looking guy is a dreamboat! Not every beautiful woman is a bitch; not every homely woman is an angel. And, as previously stated, beauty is in the eye of the beholder! If you like skinny butts, I have a fat ass! If you like big butts, I'm a goddess! Sheesh, we humans are so bad at generalizing!

And let's not expect people to be too predictable, no matter how many categories and expectations and explanations we can come up with. Unless of course, you believe in the Ladder Theory, in which case all women are the same anyway...hmmmmm

www.laddertheory.com

 

[Elmore]

How can someone answer this question unless they dramatically changed their appearance for better or worse? If they did, then they could compare how the service changed. One escort I saw who certainly comes across as very nonjudgemental admitted that it is a bonus to have a client who is well groomed, a gentleman and good looking. But if she had to pick the least important of the 3 it would be appearance. But she also said that, for her, compatability and chemistry improves with someone she finds physically attractive.

 

[melni]

Well, as a dude, I have to say that I feel a bit more confident when I am sharply dressed. So when I have an appointment with some lovely lady, it helps me to prepare for the fun times by spending some extra time and attention on grooming and apparel. I don't expect better service for it, but I anticipate that the effort is noticed and appreciated.

However, having said that, I want to be the grey-man when I am pooning. I want to blend in with the people and environment around me.

 

[violetblake]

Yea you say that Ms Blake but ladies always go for the Brad Pit kinda guys. Big disconnect between what ladies say and do. The other side of that Ladies go for the bad boy vs the good guys. I have seen that all my life. It never changes. It was like that in my 20's, 30's, 40's and I see in my 50's but I do see that older ladies are willing to compromise as they get older. But you are so young to make that comment.

I would like to know how you define Asshole? Today I am an nice guy tomorrow once you get to know me I am an asshole. I am the same guy but in the ladies eye I change?

We met once not sure if you define me as the asshole kinda guy. But then again you do not know me.

It appears to be a universal Truth with Women. Not all but most or at least the pretty ones.

I think you're a very nice person Dickson, but you're right I don't know you. To me, an asshole (broadly put) is someone who is self absorbed and disrespects others. Someone who is like that on a consistent basis. We all do asshole things now and again, but like beauty, asshole qualities are in the eye of the beholder, lol.

I may be young but my age doesn't define my character. I don't assume to know other things about other people so please don't assume that because I'm only 22 I have no idea what I'm talking about. I wouldn't have said that if I don't believe it. I really get annoyed when people tell me I have no idea what I'm saying because of my age. Makes me tempted to lie about being older! lol. And I know that no one would know the difference.

I do take offense to this being a "universal truth about women". There is no universal truth about any gender, or any group of people. People are individuals, and the sooner you start to understand that the easier life will get. It's very easy to say "all women are bitches!" if that's been your experience, but if you get to the heart of the matter: it's the women you associate with, the PEOPLE you associate with. All women in my life are not like you describe, myself included. Believe me or don't believe me, that's your own choice, but it's true. And I haven't found the only group of women on earth that are the exception to your rule, lol, there's plenty out there. I used to only be attracted to one type of guy, then it hit me a few years ago: All men I date are assholes...But I knew at the time that it wasn't that all men on earth are assholes, it's that all men I DATE are assholes. So I stopped dating assholes, lol. If you stop believing the stereotypes about genders you'll find life a lot easier, because instead of getting angry with an entire gender (half the population), you're getting angry with one individual.

 

[Dgodus]

There is no universal truth about any gender, or any group of people. People are individuals, and the sooner you start to understand that the easier life will get. .

Quoted for truth! :thumb: