Do you ever feel guilty or ashamed for paying for sex?

[lenny]

I have had wonderful relationship sex , and wonderful hooker sex.
I always paid , one way or another.
just ask Tiger Woods.

It's hooker sex from here on out for the black tiger. One million a shot the other way
is way too expensive, even for him.

 

[jnewton]

Rather then participate in the typical "Woman are always trying to trick men into relationships so paying for sex is a better deal" misogyny that always rears it's ugly head in threads like this, I'll answer the thread header question honestly.

I don't feel guilty or ashamed at buying sex. I also don't tell my friends or advertise about doing this either since there is a social stigma still attached to it. I simply refer to this activity as play dates, and keep it vague if it comes up in conversation. That's really what it is for me, some may chose to spend money going on a ski trip or something, I choose to do this. I have some very stressful health issues and other things with family members that leave me little time to pursue a "proper" relationship. Having been in long term relationships, I know that it would be a bad idea to currently attempt one now, for both myself and the lady. I've done the one nighter thing and don't care for them (emotionally awkward, not necessarily as safe), so I choose to pay for sex with SPs since I can selfishly indulge myself (and hopefully the ladies...) while still meeting my normal needs as a human being. That would be intimate contact. I like that there is a contract involved, that it's a no strings attached thing and very little pressure. I do not see the woman as substitute masturbation toys to be catalogued and used, notched on a belt. Nor do I see them as future potential wives in some weird fantasy. I see them as woman, who for whatever reason, chose this profession to earn money, and respect them for the choice. It was probably a difficult choice, and hopefully a healthy one for them as an individual. (The couple SPs I see appear to have very level heads and plans.)

I consider myself very fortunate to have found a few SPs (I basically see two with any regularity, the few times I've strayed have been based on their recommends) that I genuinely like to see. I feel that if we met outside of this business, we could of been friends (a long shot admittedly since I'm a burly handsome man and there's an age difference ) and respect the contract of our sessions. I feel that they see me the same way, and I do so while also understanding and knowing that the money I spend is a large part of that feeling. I've learned about myself and the world through this hobby, and I value it and the escape it provides.

If I meet someone outside of this and a relationship forms (you never know, I've had such things happen before when not looking) then I'll stop paying for sex. I hope when that happens I'll still be able to keep in touch since I do consider the the SPs friends, even if I do pay them by the hour to see them. I will fully understand if they tell me that this would not be possible. If from some bizarre fate lottery one of the SPs I see asked to see me outside of the business, I would give her the same fair chance I would give any woman in my life with no expectations.

That's how I feel about the act of paying for sex. My 2 cents.

+1

That response was worth a whole lot more than 2 cents.

 

[TheEmpress]

Rather then participate in the typical "Woman are always trying to trick men into relationships so paying for sex is a better deal" misogyny that always rears it's ugly head in threads like this, I'll answer the thread header question honestly.

I don't feel guilty or ashamed at buying sex. I also don't tell my friends or advertise about doing this either since there is a social stigma still attached to it. I simply refer to this activity as play dates, and keep it vague if it comes up in conversation. That's really what it is for me, some may chose to spend money going on a ski trip or something, I choose to do this. I have some very stressful health issues and other things with family members that leave me little time to pursue a "proper" relationship. Having been in long term relationships, I know that it would be a bad idea to currently attempt one now, for both myself and the lady. I've done the one nighter thing and don't care for them (emotionally awkward, not necessarily as safe), so I choose to pay for sex with SPs since I can selfishly indulge myself (and hopefully the ladies...) while still meeting my normal needs as a human being. That would be intimate contact. I like that there is a contract involved, that it's a no strings attached thing and very little pressure. I do not see the woman as substitute masturbation toys to be catalogued and used, notched on a belt. Nor do I see them as future potential wives in some weird fantasy. I see them as woman, who for whatever reason, chose this profession to earn money, and respect them for the choice. It was probably a difficult choice, and hopefully a healthy one for them as an individual. (The couple SPs I see appear to have very level heads and plans.)

I consider myself very fortunate to have found a few SPs (I basically see two with any regularity, the few times I've strayed have been based on their recommends) that I genuinely like to see. I feel that if we met outside of this business, we could of been friends (a long shot admittedly since I'm a burly handsome man and there's an age difference ) and respect the contract of our sessions. I feel that they see me the same way, and I do so while also understanding and knowing that the money I spend is a large part of that feeling. I've learned about myself and the world through this hobby, and I value it and the escape it provides.

If I meet someone outside of this and a relationship forms (you never know, I've had such things happen before when not looking) then I'll stop paying for sex. I hope when that happens I'll still be able to keep in touch since I do consider the the SPs friends, even if I do pay them by the hour to see them. I will fully understand if they tell me that this would not be possible. If from some bizarre fate lottery one of the SPs I see asked to see me outside of the business, I would give her the same fair chance I would give any woman in my life with no expectations.

That's how I feel about the act of paying for sex. My 2 cents.

I'm sorry that your going through that, it's difficult to put a part of yourself aside for a time. I whole heartedly agree with Jnewton that your post is worth a lot more than 2 cents. I now feel ashamed at posting such a frivolous, superficial piece of crap out of previous relationship frustrations. I was attempting at levity, but feel I fell short of the mark. I hope things change in your favour, sometimes its hard to catch a break.

 

[rossedm34]

I now feel ashamed at posting such a frivolous, superficial piece of crap out of previous relationship frustrations. I was attempting at levity, but feel I fell short of the mark. I hope things change in your favour, sometimes its hard to catch a break.

Thanks, I may of come of more heavy handed then I wanted too. I'm doing fine, things will be what they'll be. Thanks for the well wishes.

 

[badbadboy]

I am a pleasure seeker pure and simple. Hot sex with beautiful women skilled in the art of sex is worth paying for and guilt is never part of the equation.

Smack her with a Dick

You won't get that at home LMAO.

 

[icemanmp1]

now that is funny!!!!!!!!!!! im with bad badboy...hot sex and beautiful woman.....nuff said!!!!!!!!

 

[old pooner]

I only feel guilty when I pay a LOT of money for inferior service.

 

[badbadboy]

I only feel guilty when I pay a LOT of money for inferior service.

Well said O P.

 

[icemanmp1]

annnnndddddd how!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[sevenofnine]

yes all the time.

my father was a convicted rapist, not sure what that has to do with it except but its something i carry with me.

i used to or still sometimes do, ask my sp to forgive me,
i don't think she ever did,
but i think we get on good, we talk lots, she knows what is going through me i have no secrets from her.
she says i look so sad at times, and its ok
im taking her at her word.

i have no reason to doubt her.

i used to see another sp,
long story but i kind of thought she is in this for the wrong reason.
we were good friends it just seemed we were in sync from the first time i saw her.
it just felt so well don't know the word for it,
but we didnt need to talk we just got each other. perfectly
we had a long session and she just broke down and cried, told me alot of shit.

i saw her after that, but i looked for some other sp, found one still say hi to her consider her a friend but not some one i can ever pay for sex.
she is just in it for the wrong reasons, my opinion, just my stupid fucking opininon but i can't pay her any more.


saw another sp, not in a session just over drinks it was along night she told me alot of shit to. alot of shit.
i get it sps are people to, and everyones life is not story book perfect, some well we just have story book sad,
but we focus on she is an sp or he is a john, that is all we see,

if me or her didn't do this we would be cruising the bars telling men or women lies and well lies and hopes and dreams would be the medium of exchange, instead of money
in some ways i think this is honest.
money for a service instead of a lie or a hope,
but she is another sp i can never pay she calls me her angel i can't pay her.

im here in this hobby, its not something im proud of, or like to write alot of reveiws about my conquests i guess i have at times bragged,
but i mostly like to write aabout morals around this hobby. thoughts and feelings.

um im just annooyed at my wife to,
i married her, agreed to death to us part,

but its kind of unfair for her to decide for both of us that well neither of us need sex any more.

i have alot of mixed feelings about this, i write to think about it,
but again at the end of the day it is what it is i pay an sp

have many times so i guess, i don't know
i think at times that me and my sp or the sps i see have the most honest relationship
i have ever known,

money for a service, instead of a lie or a hope or a dream

 

[Iroc]

I only feel guilty when I pay a LOT of money for inferior service.

My guilt left me a long time ago. Any monies exchanged between two consenting adults is merely for companionship.....anything else that happens is strictly personal. My stupidity (paying for service that is NOT and comapnionship that is NOT there) has haunted me from time to time.

 

[sonoman]

Financially, sometimes. Morally and ethically, no; in fact, it's given me some great memories that I'm guessing will long outlast any financial loss.

 

[Sexiaccent]

Guilty about pay for sex? NEVER!!!!. Some friends told me that is pathetic to pay for sex. I don't think, for me is just a way to have sex; some ones have sex with their girlfriends, wifes, etc. but at the end is sex. Personally I had fun and I woke up with a great smile always!!! so why should I have guilt???

My only complaint is my income!!! it does not enough to pay for more sex!!! Damn!!!

Cheers and have sex!!!

 

[hotjac]

Not if it's good

When it's bad (not as advertised, no enthusiasim, upselling, poor hygiene, rushed) then I say I'll never do that again.

 

[xyzn]

No. But I have had a lot of wtf moments. Then again I see a well reviewed sp that doesn't play games, treats me well and doesn't make me wonder wtf just happened.

 

[smackyo]

Yes, all the time.