I've read some of the very detailed reviews that are provided by the pooners here in this forum and for sure, these have aroused my male curiosity. I am just wondering if the ladies here mind seeing those very explicit and graphic blow by blow account of what transpired in their sessions. I'm guessing if it's a positive review, no matter how graphic it was, it will drum up business so maybe some SPs would welcome it. Still I'm wondering if most of the SPs mind at all?
Do SPs mind?
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I can't understand why some reputable SP's have a no review policy. If the service is bad they will most likely be reviewed regardless since there probably will be no repeat from the pooner anyway. If the service is good why not review since it will most likely bring more business?
reviews help us pooners spend our hobby dollars wisely. i honestly don't care if the sp doesn't want/like to be reviewed... it's gonna happen.
and as a previous poster said, a good review can drum up thousands in business. if a provider is sub-par, they should not be rewarded for it. yes their business will take a hit, but that's just encourages them to up their game. many times i've seen on this board where an sp started with some lackluster reviews, but changed they way they serviced their clients (or attitude) and now are some of the best around.
if u're scared the sp will get mad at u about posting a review and not see u again, just wait a few weeks after the deed before posting. done and done.
-chuck
and as a previous poster said, a good review can drum up thousands in business. if a provider is sub-par, they should not be rewarded for it. yes their business will take a hit, but that's just encourages them to up their game. many times i've seen on this board where an sp started with some lackluster reviews, but changed they way they serviced their clients (or attitude) and now are some of the best around.
if u're scared the sp will get mad at u about posting a review and not see u again, just wait a few weeks after the deed before posting. done and done.
-chuck
I can only speak for myself but I think graphic reviews may drum up business but not necessarily the kind of business I'm looking for. One of my early reviews which was the most graphic I've had (though still nowhere near as graphic as others I've read), really made that clear for me. I definitely noticed a difference and to be honest, it can already feel odd to read a review of yourself to begin with, when it's graphic or crass, it can be really uncomfortable.
There has only been one instance when I have asked that some details be removed because I was really not comfortable with the review. Quite frankly there were some embellishments that made me wonder if he and I had been in the same room during the appointment! Why is that necessary? If someone has the desire to write erotic short stories, why not just do that instead of infusing fiction into reviews that are meant to describe reality and that determine other people's expectations? In the end, while I'd only politely asked to have a thing or two removed, he decided to remove the review completely and I cannot tell you how relieved I was. It was meant as a positive review but it felt awful to me anyway.
The same as with the way we choose to word our ads, the reviews that are written about us determine the kind of clients who respond. I think some reviews are far too graphic and it's not necessary at all to let others know you had a good time. Some of the very graphic reviews are just for the benefit of the writer's ego, nothing else. Helping out other guys is secondary and drumming up business for the sp is at the bottom of the list - if it's even on it at all. I think some details are fine but some guys just go overboard.
On the other hand, an honest review that's written respectfully and without going into every single details or graphic, personal details will always be appreciated. It might not result in an immediate increase in business but in the long run is useful in establishing service level and attracting the kind of client I'm looking for.
Anyway, my 2cents.
When I first started out on here I was too graphic. I realized soon, and with the help of one special lady, that there is discretion needed with reviews.
For one, it is possible (the old YMMV thing) that you have been provided with some extra treats duirng your time with someone. Whether you have or not, I believe it is totally up to the lady to decide what she is or isn't comfortable providing her clients with.
Secondly, laying it all out in a review may cause some ladies a problem and potentially your next visit with the same person may not be what you experienced before, just because of the concern about what might get put in the review. Like M. Bijou says, it could set up unrealistic expectations from the next client too.
Unless the SP is a reguar poster on here and her ads explicitly state the level of service she provides, I think discretion is a good medium to practice.
G.A.
For one, it is possible (the old YMMV thing) that you have been provided with some extra treats duirng your time with someone. Whether you have or not, I believe it is totally up to the lady to decide what she is or isn't comfortable providing her clients with.
Secondly, laying it all out in a review may cause some ladies a problem and potentially your next visit with the same person may not be what you experienced before, just because of the concern about what might get put in the review. Like M. Bijou says, it could set up unrealistic expectations from the next client too.
Unless the SP is a reguar poster on here and her ads explicitly state the level of service she provides, I think discretion is a good medium to practice.
G.A.
Most of the reputable ones are advertisers on Perb and therefore can have a review deleted if its not to their satisfaction!
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Does that mean some SPs can actually sanitize their reviews to make themselves look good as long as they advertise here?
I hope no one gets offended by my question. I'm just trying to understand how this review/forum works.
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While I'm sure some girls request no reviews because they have "something to hide", there are lots of valid reasons for doing so that have nothing to do with something to hide, or even with negative reviews. Safety is one. Some girls end up with stalkers who read all their reviews and become more dangerous. Some girls have partners who either know only partly what they do, or think they're retired. Some girls have kids and don't want to risk losing them if the ex or anyone finds out what they do, etc..
This isn't the same as *any* other business. There are major differences in potential consequences and damage a review (good or bad!) can have on a girl's entire life. Not just her business life, but her personal life as well. I don't think most people in business-land have as much to fear from reviews or from being found out or stalked, wouldn't you agree?
Come on now. There are lots of valid reasons why some girls choose to stay on the DNR list. Men should simply respect the request, whether or not the reasons are shared with them. If the decision is based on personal reasons or fears, then it's none of anyone's business and the sp doesn't have to share it without anyone if she doesn't want to. Do not see girls on the dnr list if you're too worried to see someone who doesn't allow reviews and just drop it. No one's "entitled" to write anything about someone who requests not to have anything written about them.
Besides, the fact that some reviewers seem to thoroughly enjoy reliving and recounting all the details of their appointments without any respect for the sp doesn't really help in making some girls comfortable about reviews. I don't know why.. I mean, who would not burst with excitement at the thought of finding a half page description of one's vagina on perb? Surely anyone would be so proud they'd just have to frame it and hang it on a wall so that friends, boyfriends, family and neighbours all get to read it too.
Ya know?
Miss Bijou, I don't understand your comments at all. You are in the business of selling "SEX" but you don't want a reviewer to mention any graphic details of sex when writing a review of you. What else is the reviewer going to write about when reviewing sexual services honey? That he liked the color of your hair and the way you fluffed your pillows??
If you don't want to be reviewed state a clear concise "No Review Policy" on the board. I agree that a reviewer should not be abusive or derisory towards an SP when writing a review. But really, this is a sexual services review board. How do we avoid writing about sex when reviewing these services? Sheesh!
If you don't want to be reviewed state a clear concise "No Review Policy" on the board. I agree that a reviewer should not be abusive or derisory towards an SP when writing a review. But really, this is a sexual services review board. How do we avoid writing about sex when reviewing these services? Sheesh!
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While I'm sure some girls request no reviews because they have "something to hide", there are lots of valid reasons for doing so that have nothing to do with something to hide, or even with negative reviews. Safety is one. Some girls end up with stalkers who read all their reviews and become more dangerous. Some girls have partners who either know only partly what they do, or think they're retired. Some girls have kids and don't want to risk losing them if the ex or anyone finds out what they do, etc..
This isn't the same as *any* other business. There are major differences in potential consequences and damage a review (good or bad!) can have on a girl's entire life. Not just her business life, but her personal life as well. I don't think most people in business-land have as much to fear from reviews or from being found out or stalked, wouldn't you agree?
Come on now. There are lots of valid reasons why some girls choose to stay on the DNR list. Men should simply respect the request, whether or not the reasons are shared with them. If the decision is based on personal reasons or fears, then it's none of anyone's business and the sp doesn't have to share it without anyone if she doesn't want to. Do not see girls on the dnr list if you're too worried to see someone who doesn't allow reviews and just drop it. No one's "entitled" to write anything about someone who requests not to have anything written about them.
Besides, the fact that some reviewers seem to thoroughly enjoy reliving and recounting all the details of their appointments without any respect for the sp doesn't really help in making some girls comfortable about reviews. I don't know why.. I mean, who would not burst with excitement at the thought of finding a half page description of one's vagina on perb? Surely anyone would be so proud they'd just have to frame it and hang it on a wall so that friends, boyfriends, family and neighbours all get to read it too.
Ya know?
Have you ever considered a second career in writing/journalism?
I think you're misunderstanding my comments or you ignored part of what I said because I really don't see where I said reviews couldn't be about sex. I think there is such a thing as tasteful respectful reviews. I have no problem with most reviews but I do think there are some that include far too many personal details. Given that the majority of men seem to have no problem writing reviews that aren't excessively explicit but still manage to get the point across just fine, it's hard to convince me that being crass and graphic is absolutely necessary for a review. It's not.
My last post was not even about me. I'm not on any dnr list but I do think it's frustrating that some men make a huge deal out of girls who choose to be on such a list. Dood's comment about having something to hide is one that is often brought up and repeated over and over, and I was just bringing up the fact that there are lots of other reasons why a girl (not me
) may not wish to have reviews written about her.I personally think that when some of you* get all uptight about girls on the dnr, it has little to do with reviews and everything to do with control, or lack of it. You guys don't like being told you can't review. Who cares? Don't see her and move on. That's all.. why make comments on why she doesn't want reviews, making assumptions about a situation you know nothing about? I was just trying to bring up the fact that some girls do have good reasons and they don't have to tell you/us what they are, so making a statement to the effect that she might have something to hide or that her service must be poor is not necessary.
*When I say "you", I don't mean YOU personally.
So are you saying a girl who's SO is threatening to take her kids away if he finds out she's working as an sp, should just take her chances just so you can get to write a review?
A girl who's being stalked should just put up with the psycho who gets even more creepy and scary when he comes across reviews of her, because she should understand it's your right to review her?
If you review someone or a service other than an sp, do you also write a play-by-play account along with details about every possible aspect of what went on? Probably not. That's what I mean when I say really graphic reviews are about the reviewer's ego or that graphic reviews with excessive, unnecessary personal details about the sp or the encounter are not just something an sp has to "accept". When most reviewers use their judgment and manage to write good reviews, then no, it doesn't mean that those who write crass reviews are still entitled to.
I have to say I don't really understand your comments. Are you saying a guy can write whatever he wants to and we just have to accept it, graphic details and all?
Unless you like writing half page descriptions of your sp's vagina in your reviews, I'm not sure what you would disagree with..?I agree, who needs half a page to describe a vagina, one paragraph should suffice....I mean c'mon, you seen one you seen em all.
I agree, who needs half a page to describe a vagina, one paragraph should suffice....I mean c'mon, you seen one you seen em all.
LOL Exactly!
Totally! The dehumanizing part is what I find disturbing and the reviews that make you want to vomit are those I'm referring to. Nothing sexy or fun about reading something that makes you physically nauseous IMO.
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Luckily that's only a minority of reviews and luckily they haven't been about me.... but I always feel for the sp they're written about.
Although those reviewers often know it's doubtful that the sp in question will ever read it.. Perhaps that's why these studs write without any regard to the fact that they're completely dehumanizing... a human being?
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Thanks Nina! I agree completely with your view on this.
And Miss Bijou, I'm sorry if I misunderstood what you were saying but I assure you I have absolutely no problem if an SP wants to be on a "Do Not Review" list. That's her personal business and I think any pooner should respect it!
I did say I don't believe in a reviewer being abusive or derisory toward an SP in his review. But details about sexual acts are "graphic" in most people's eyes. How is a reviewer supposed to know which graphic details would be offensive to the reviewed SP and which ones would be OK?I have to say I don't really understand your comments. Are you saying a guy can write whatever he wants to and we just have to accept it, graphic details and all?
Should we let the reviewed SP "edit" our reviews before we post them? Wouldn't be very many bad reviews if that happened I guess. Is that what it is Miss Bijou? Do you want "editing rights" before a review of you is posted??
I mean what's too "graphic" and what isn't is all in the eye of the beholder, isn't it?
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