I like to pride myself on my honesty and am very conscious of not being judgemental. I believe progressive people go throw changes in life and someones past should not be held against them. Being a student, I one day will not be an SP anymore and hope to have a family and get married.
I appreciate this profession on many levels and the amount that I have learnt about men, their needs, how they tick, why they stray ect. is amazing. I feel this will make me an understanding wife one day.
Say some years down the road I meet someone I want to marry. Do I tell them of previously being an SP? A couple men I have asked this to have said " never never never tell the guy you want to marry cause men aren't that understanding"?
If someone really loves me they wont hold it against me, and my biggest fear would be having them feel insecure or untrusting.
I ask myself how I would feel if the man I wanted to spend my life with came out to tell me he used to be in the Mod or was a cross dressing crackhead at one point?
And if I do tell, at what point do I have this conversation? Thanks giving? The anniversary of his Mothers death? (he's already upset anyways) ......JK
Love to hear anyones thoughts, Kay
Wow this is SUCH a personal question/contemplation.
Unfortunately you're asking a "loaded" audience here. Your audience is "loaded" with guys who have ALL
respected this line of work at some point... AND loaded with women, nearly all of whom can relate to you.
That is to say that this subset is nowhere near to a cross section of society.
I once had a long-time regular girl I saw, who always used to
insist that she would
never tell a soul in her future just what she used to do to make ends meet,
and it always made me sad to imagine her needing to keep something so significant (in some ways) such a secret from someone she would want to be so close to.
Well over a decade has gone by, and we still on occasion
connect via email from far-away... and she told me a year or two ago that she was mated with a great guy
and that she had told him just about everything (and particularly about her time as a working girl, when merely putting food on the table for her child).
So you really have to
play it by ear... while perhaps wisely erring on the side of
NOT telling a soul... just because
that's how society is.
Now of course you might alter your game plan if your incall is right across the street from your old school, and where you are
sure to be found, and outed, by somebody .
If it is reasonable that the partner won't find out
through outside sources then you are
safest when keeping such a secret for all eternity.
The instinct to tell (such a secret) can in ways be like (a woman's) instinct to simply stop monthly payments on (her man's) storage locker in another town (against his wishes)... only to find out after a decade or more that he'd been
storing a dead body in there.... (which in turn breaks up the woman's happy relationship... most recently as the direct result of her following her whims).
If you simply can't keep a secret then your original question doesn't matter too much.
Surreality brought to you by Roxanne. 