I would like to see contributions to these questions, they are thought provoking, and let's face it, having repeated sexual interactions in a 'pay for play' setting would have to have some affect on both parties.
Positively? Do you feel more comfortable talking to women after frequently visiting your favorite SP(s)?
Having worked as an escort did produce a change in the way I interacted with men. Before escorting I was an insatiable flirt, but after I found myself pulling back and not using my feminine wiles (which were more instinctual than contrived) when conversing. I think I became more alert to the fact that it is unfair to tease if I had no intention of following through.
Psychologically and/or physically? Do you feel that you are more manlier? Your sexual techniques got better?
I liked the positive reinforcement, that probably goes both ways, two people intent on impressing each other pay a lot of compliments, and it made me feel sexier. I learned a whole lot of ways to give hand jobs, every guy has a special way of doing it...that was enlightening. In the beginning, (way back when), it was pretty standard procedures (no daty, kissing, digits etc) when the menu increased I found there were a lot of things I didn't like, but put up with as it became expected, but eventually I had to bow out, as the wear and tear on an older body was more than I could take. Not a lot of men are really good at daty, or digits, and it was getting harder to smile and pretend.
Negatively? Aside from burning a whole in your wallet, do you feel or think that an average women can no longer satisfy you? Do you feel that you will be expecting escort level service from average women?
On occasion I have eventually told a lover that I was previously an escort and it seemed to change the tempo, it was like 'game on' and suddenly I was expected to perform instead of being a mutual participant.
Negatively, I think it might have interfered with my ability to have normal sex with a lover. I can get too analytical, especially when they pull the 'moves' I recognize, and I just hate when a guy expects you to cum in the first few minutes, you know it is distracting to have someone stare in your face trying to make you cum, it kills the mood.
Guys talk about escorts going through mechanically, 'do this, and then this and then, this', but maybe guys who see escorts get into the same rut. Sometimes, it is so much about doing everything it gets too frantic and neither party can focus on the actual pleasure, but it ends up a game of scoring points "how many times did you cum?" I don't even care if I cum, I can do that any day of the week by myself, many, many times. Having sex with another person is more about stuff I can't do for myself.
I used to look at escorting as a means for a guy to get some relief and a woman to earn some extra cash, and I used to believe it was just an occasional thing men would do, but the scene seems to have changed to where it is gradually becoming the primary means of a man to have a sexual interaction with a woman (Japan for example). I do wonder if pooning, regularly, affects a man's interactions with his SO
