Dealing with terminal illness ???

[chiefwiggum]

GF,

First of all, wow , and I'll leave it at that.

Once you get over the initial shock and anger (and yes, those "stages" do happen, I've seen it), you will have a clarity of thought and freedom of spirit that will hopefully allow you to maximize the time you have left.

We always say "live every day like it's your last", but rarely do we actually do that. You will. Take care of the details, of course, but then try to do as much as you can with the quality time you have left.

And also, do not give up hope.

Peace.

 

[Mchatte]

I wasn't going to mention this, but I changed my mind. Dunno why.

I saw in this movie where this guy had a terminal illness. He knew when his time was going to come. So he had a 'living funeral'. He invited everyone who would have gone to his funeral after he passed. All of the people in his life got to say their goodbyes, and tell him how much he meant to their lives. All of the love he got made him at peace with his situation. All his friends and family didn't have the regrets of never getting to say what they wanted to before he died. Everybody won.

You almost gotta envy the guy, I think. What an incredible opportunity. We all gotta go sometime.

Just recently, Boston Legal carried an episode where Michael J. Fox's character had a living funeral. Very interesting indeed.

GF, it my sound weird but very few people know how to handle themselves around someone that is very very sick or even terminal. I learned from personal experience and it was not easy.

Some people will pretend nothing is unusual, others will become a little too personal and some will make sure that you are comfortable in any way they can help. Then there are others that will just stay away because they are "afraid" of death and all that crap. What about the person that is terminally ill? What about his/her feelings? Perhaps he has friends/relatives that he/she would really want to see but because of their selfishness, will not!

Good luck!

M

 

[metoo113]

I don't want any funerals. Those are for the living, not for the dead anyway.

Funerals are for the living but it you love the people you left behind you should have a service of some kind. A memorial, service, funeral or celebration of life are a way to help people deal with your death. They gather people who knew you to talk about your life and look to the positive.