DATY=Yes?? BBBJ=No?? ~ Please share your logic

[JFF009]

Your post reminds me why I am still not a pooner. And why I won't be....so thanks.

What about her post speaks to "why you won't be"?

Keep in mind that mimi's post reflects her own thoughts on the business. If it's more intimacy you're looking for there are many, many providers that offer a very intimate encounter...fully of kissing, touching, exploring.

You may not be interested in the type of session that mimi refers to but you shouldn't sour on the entire industry...there are as many different experiences out there as there are clients that have different requests. There is always someone that will provide exactly what you want.

 

[MODELMAN]

The term "Cunnilingus" is concatenation of the latin terms Cunnus (vulgar, meaning vulva) and lingua meaning tongue. It is contained in the poetry of Gaius Valerius Catullus (ca. 84 BC – ca. 54 BC) and also more frequently in the poetry of Marcus Valerius Martialis (known in English as Martial) (March 1, between 38 and 41 AD - between 102 and 104 AD). There are frescos from the Roman town of Pompei that show the act of Cunnilingus. The concept has been around for at least 2,000 years and probably much, much earlier.

 

[lenny]

What about her post speaks to "why you won't be"?

Keep in mind that mimi's post reflects her own thoughts on the business. If it's more intimacy you're looking for there are many, many providers that offer a very intimate encounter...fully of kissing, touching, exploring.

You may not be interested in the type of session that mimi refers to but you shouldn't sour on the entire industry...there are as many different experiences out there as there are clients that have different requests. There is always someone that will provide exactly what you want.

"There is always someone that will provide exactly what you want."

Dood wants a 4 hour nonstop ass licking.

 

[Alyssa Luscious]

Finally!

I just had a big soapbox rant to my friend about why its ok to daty but bbbj is more frowned upon.

My non companionship providing friends in the past (before i told them the real truth about this industry) were always worried about my safety... yet they go to bars or chat sites and meet strangers and might use a condom for sex if they are sober enough after getting drunk... ya sorry i'm drunk bashing a little

But seriously... thank you for bringing this topic up.

Dental dams can be fun because it makes it seem naughty... like getting caught rubbing one out when your a kid (did i just really post this????)


www.alyssaluscious.weebly.com

 

[mimi]

I have used a dental dam and found that I don't find any diminution in sensation...(with a regular of over a year who knows exactly what I like), but, men don't like them at all...

Yes, Jessica, it makes a difference when you know the person, and especially, that they know that each woman is different and they adapt their technique to your particular needs...sorta like we do when giving BJs and HJs...I was pretty amazed, when I first began this industry, at the very many different methods of HJs....they don't show all these in porns...

The biggest obstacle to DATY and Kissing, is the stubble of a not freshly shaved face...I swear those little hairs are as sharp as steel..and then there is the rash, and then one has to stay off work until the skin heals.

Certainly men have their share of troubles too...

 

[mimi]

...and Jessica, I know what you mean! ! I met someone a couple of months ago and decided to take a chance and experiment and experience (he is younger than I am)

Wow! I know I love my own fingers, but, I never thought a man would be able to replace my own abilities at pleasuring myself.

Each time we get together it is better than the last; as the frequency of our visits increases, so does the mutual satisfaction. I am warming to DATY in a way I have never experienced...but, the hands...Wow....and the best part is that it enhances my sexuality when I am escorting...I seem to always be 'warmed up' and ready to go.

I do save certain activities just for him...if you have someone special in your life then I think it helps the eroticism to do that. Most men who have dated or escorts would probably agree no?

 

[JessicaPrabbit]

...if you have someone special in your life ...?

Yes ...I do know what you are talking about, and I believe I have!

Jessica
BunnyHugs Mimi

 

[Pillowtalk]

Here is the logic for why daty = yes and bbbj = no, for the record, and with recent and relevant information directly from the Health Nurse on this forum and their std information site:

http://healthnurse.wordpress.com/faq-about-sexual-health/sti-risks-chart/


in other words, put this to rest, do it if you have to, but don't try to tell anyone that the risk is either low or non-existent for bbbjs, or exactly the same as for daty, therefore anyone who does one without the other is hypocritical. (this assumes that anyone will actually click on the link and read the results before commenting lol)

 

[kctaneum]

Hmmm, I always thought it was cunninglinguist,

All these years, when my girlfriend has been asking for a cunning linguist, I thought she wanted someone who was good with languages.

Imagine my surprise when I read this thread? I'm so ashamed...

 

[hang5507]

All these years, when my girlfriend has been asking for a cunning linguist, I thought she wanted someone who was good with languages.

Imagine my surprise when I read this thread? I'm so ashamed...

That too funny!!

I luv bbbj and I luv daty..

depends on the provider, kind of like russian roulette, you take your chances. lol

Regards

H

 

[smackyo]

While there are some Ladies in the business that do not offer bbbj because of health reasons, my view has always been that the majority of women that do not offer it yet will let a man tongue fuck their pussy are just being little princesses and using the guise of "health related" as an excuse.

 

[lenny]

Here is the logic for why daty = yes and bbbj = no,

Women want all the fun + cash, houses, assets, etc w/o putting out anything ; jk

 

[TheSpecialist]

While there are some Ladies in the business that do not offer bbbj because of health reasons, my view has always been that the majority of women that do not offer it yet will let a man tongue fuck their pussy are just being little princesses and using the guise of "health related" as an excuse.

That's always been my view. I think it's all just a giant scam.

Sex is an intimate act between two people. When rubber and plastic start getting involved, I'm offended and turned off. I need to feel some sort of a connection, otherwise I might as well stay at home and jerk off. I don't want to hear about risk-this and risk-that. Everyone says one thing, and does another on this site anyway, so even if you're a guy or girl that says you're "always safe" I don't believe it. There's always some agenda.

Can someone give me the definition of "safe"? What exactly is that? Sucking on chemicals and plastics and polytherane (CBJ etc) outweighs the risk of getting what? chlamydia or ghonnorrea which can be treated with antibiotics? meanwhile most chicks are puffing away on cigarettes like they're going out of style, txting on their phones while driving to their next appointment. I want to know where this whole stigmatism started about taking risk for "granted". That a condom is the "savior". It's like for the dudes on here... cuz you don't want to be giving the girlfriend a disease? Oh - how thoughtful - meanwhile cheating on your SO is fine and dandy. Holy shit.

I 100% absolutely hate this notion guys who ask for uncovered services are "unclean" and want to give the girl something "on purpose". Says who? I resent that. It feels better. It's what most guys want. It's not rocket science to put two and two together as to why one would request it.

 

[maroonedsailor]

Dood - there are moments when I really like you. I do enjoy a BJ to an extreme and for me the eeewwwe factor is eliminated with a good wash so we're not a hundred percent in synch but everyting else you said is ditto for ditto - Thanks for putting it so well

I can't help but comment on this one for a personal reason. I'm not a pooner. This is going to change in the near future but I've not been a pooner since 2006. One of the issues I have with paying for sex with an SP is the lack of kissing & the lack of DATY. Truthfully, I'm not a huge BJ fan. Of course I like it but there are other things in sex I'd prefer to get. I'd MUCH sooner kiss than get a BBBJ.

As a guy having sex, DATY adds a level of intimacy. Kissing adds more. Of course DATY does bring some risks. The health risks from giving DATY exist but are reasonably minimal. One might be a bit less aggressive in getting in the "squishy" zone with an SP than say a GF. I would think a bigger factor would be the "eewwww" factor. I hire you, I'm not stupid, you do multiple clients. Do I really want my tongue dancing across your clit after you've had four other dudes working down there? The "ick" factor is less about you and more about the guys that have been there.

Both are bareback services. Yet, in my own personal opinion the ability to give DATY to a woman & to engage in kissing & some "connection " is important to me. This will sound incredilbly naive from a man that has the ability to date a prostitute but I just can't get into sex with some type of connection. Nor can I just use you as a body to fuck. I can't. So DATY and other transfers of body fluids (low risk) just add to the sensation. Obviously, no fluid transfer makes the most sense.

Perhaps i'm the only guy that feels this way? Honestly I don't know if I am. And honestly, if I was to hire an SP tonight I really do want her to derive some pleasure from the session. I just can't see you as some thing I fuck. I don't expect an orgasm, I don't expect an emotional connection, but I do want you to at least not be repulsed.

 

[cockkhound]

Glad I made you smile JPR , but I was also serious alot of girls would rather recieve than give , for one reason or another.

I am interested in knowing the reasons behind a girl preferring to receive oral then give it. Two columns would work. Thank you in advance to those who help out in this answer.

 

[laurel love]

Sometimes kissing can be really dangerous with certain individuals. Maybe dangerous is too dramatic, but, some clients are borderline "in love" and kissing can invite people in to an intimacy that does not exist.

Looking back I was noticing that during a period I decided to add kissing to the menu I got into too much trouble with obsessive and 'in love' clients. Previous to that I had clients who I knew were very smitten, but, managed to keep it in check.

Oh, about antibiotics, you have to find out you have a disease first and by the time the symptoms show up the damage to tissue has already begun. Also, some people are allergic to the very antibiotics that can save them.

I guess you have to see Syphilis first hand to understand why people cover sex acts. We have forgotten what a bad thing it can be. And now Syphilis is resistant to antibiotics and has morphed into something very much worse than it originally was.

If I ever found out my boyfriend/husband/lover had sex with someone else and didn't have the courtesy to cover I would be really upset. We know men screw around. It is how they are, humans would not exist without that burst of testosterone. But why bring it home?

Guys who ask for uncovered services? Are unclean.