Having just got out of a relationship with a single mother, I can honestly say that there was no positive aspect to the relationship for me as far as her being a mother was concerned. I know that there are probably a number of SP on here who are single mothers----this thread is not for you, I don't want to offend you, so you should probably leave now.
I am a single, white, childless man with a decent annual income ($110-150K) in his mid 30's. My last girlfriend was new to Canada (black girl from Dominican republic) who had a child from a previous relationship. I think it went on so long because she started putting out from the get go (single mothers are known to weaponize sex as a manipulative tool, it makes perfect sense to me) and as we all know, it can be difficult to end a relationship even if you know it's doomed. I felt like I was treated like an ATM, and this woman clearly showed some golddigger leanings. I mean I get that women want resources, but I felt that I was seen as a walking ATM (this could be cultural thing, because of the white western man/black 3rd world woman dynamic). I also felt like she was constantly trying to get pregnant (this blows me away since she already had a child), and I could never trust her in this regard.
Single mothers are always short on time, have little to no money, have reduced education/career success because of what they had to sacrifice to raise their child, and a busted up body to boot (even a very attractive woman, once she has kids, is in an inferior physical state compared to before she gave birth). I have always question the judgement of a woman who had sex with a bad boy and got dumped, then had the kid. Or alternately, had sex with a great guy and didn't want to stay with him, then had the child. Either way, she has proved poor judgement in serious matters. Speaking of judgement, this woman had a history of adultery. I am not sure if this is part of the desperation of a single mom trying to find a man, or a cultural thing, or just bad judgement. But it definitely made me question things between us.
I will also add that she wasn't exactly close to her child, yet professed to love it. I don't understand why a woman who cares so much about her child would rather spend her time out on her back getting railed by a guy like me than taking care of her spawn. What is she going to do to me when times get tough?
I cared about this woman and still do, but I never felt I could trust her and that is in no small part to the single motherhood thing. These women are in a financially desperate situation, have a poor track record of decision making ability, and by default force their new mates into some sort of paternal role over their child. The thought of being cucked into supporting this woman, her child, and her impoverished family back home did not sit well with me at all. My friends told me I was insane to keep banging her, but the little head kept winning.
The Alpha fucks/Beta bucks dynamic is foundational to the whole single moms dating scene. Girl in her 20's parties and fucks alpha males, gets used up and possibly pregnant, in 30's looks for beta male with steady job to latch onto (and in the case of single moms, cuck into raising her kid(s).
I will also add that I have seen at least two of my friends get fucked over by single moms in the last two years. They both met said single moms, fell in love, got them pregnant, had children with them, and then both relationships ended within 6 months of the children being born (ended by the woman). To me, this is a evidence of dysfunctional behavioral patterns in the group that can't be denied. These were both good guys with good incomes, and I can't fathom why they both had poor relationship outcomes like this other than the fact that the mothers were manipulative scum.
There is also a mountain of data about single motherhood leading to multiplied chances of criminality, addiction, poverty, early teen sexuality, and all other manner of social problems in the kids. I will not get into this, but the data is out there if you're interested.
I hope to find love one day, but I don't think it will be with a single mom. I don't think I could put myself through that again. Maybe this is more a story about dating immigrant women and the stereotypes about their character, but the single mom aspect seemed more influential to the relationship outcome to me. Good luck to everyone with finding love in 2018!
I am a single, white, childless man with a decent annual income ($110-150K) in his mid 30's. My last girlfriend was new to Canada (black girl from Dominican republic) who had a child from a previous relationship. I think it went on so long because she started putting out from the get go (single mothers are known to weaponize sex as a manipulative tool, it makes perfect sense to me) and as we all know, it can be difficult to end a relationship even if you know it's doomed. I felt like I was treated like an ATM, and this woman clearly showed some golddigger leanings. I mean I get that women want resources, but I felt that I was seen as a walking ATM (this could be cultural thing, because of the white western man/black 3rd world woman dynamic). I also felt like she was constantly trying to get pregnant (this blows me away since she already had a child), and I could never trust her in this regard.
Single mothers are always short on time, have little to no money, have reduced education/career success because of what they had to sacrifice to raise their child, and a busted up body to boot (even a very attractive woman, once she has kids, is in an inferior physical state compared to before she gave birth). I have always question the judgement of a woman who had sex with a bad boy and got dumped, then had the kid. Or alternately, had sex with a great guy and didn't want to stay with him, then had the child. Either way, she has proved poor judgement in serious matters. Speaking of judgement, this woman had a history of adultery. I am not sure if this is part of the desperation of a single mom trying to find a man, or a cultural thing, or just bad judgement. But it definitely made me question things between us.
I will also add that she wasn't exactly close to her child, yet professed to love it. I don't understand why a woman who cares so much about her child would rather spend her time out on her back getting railed by a guy like me than taking care of her spawn. What is she going to do to me when times get tough?
I cared about this woman and still do, but I never felt I could trust her and that is in no small part to the single motherhood thing. These women are in a financially desperate situation, have a poor track record of decision making ability, and by default force their new mates into some sort of paternal role over their child. The thought of being cucked into supporting this woman, her child, and her impoverished family back home did not sit well with me at all. My friends told me I was insane to keep banging her, but the little head kept winning.
The Alpha fucks/Beta bucks dynamic is foundational to the whole single moms dating scene. Girl in her 20's parties and fucks alpha males, gets used up and possibly pregnant, in 30's looks for beta male with steady job to latch onto (and in the case of single moms, cuck into raising her kid(s).
I will also add that I have seen at least two of my friends get fucked over by single moms in the last two years. They both met said single moms, fell in love, got them pregnant, had children with them, and then both relationships ended within 6 months of the children being born (ended by the woman). To me, this is a evidence of dysfunctional behavioral patterns in the group that can't be denied. These were both good guys with good incomes, and I can't fathom why they both had poor relationship outcomes like this other than the fact that the mothers were manipulative scum.
There is also a mountain of data about single motherhood leading to multiplied chances of criminality, addiction, poverty, early teen sexuality, and all other manner of social problems in the kids. I will not get into this, but the data is out there if you're interested.
I hope to find love one day, but I don't think it will be with a single mom. I don't think I could put myself through that again. Maybe this is more a story about dating immigrant women and the stereotypes about their character, but the single mom aspect seemed more influential to the relationship outcome to me. Good luck to everyone with finding love in 2018!
