Being extremely honest, I don't know how comfortable I would be. I mean, I've given it some thought, and I think that if both she and I could separate what she does from having real feelings and attachments then definitely. I would definitely be looking for more than just sex all day and all night with her too...I mean sure, sex is basically how I met her, but it was talking to her that got me thinking that maybe there might be a possibility of something? I don't know...like I said, I kinda felt like there might be a connection, but maybe she's just great at her job? Either way I think that's a big compliment to her.
Dating an SP
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I think this was not only your first pooning encounter, but it was your first time period. I have been with over 40 sp's due to my disability, this has been my only means of getting my needs met, but it is pretty hard for things to take off beyond the time paid.
I think this post is great in that it also empowers SP's that there are pooners out there who will accept them as SO's even if they have a history of being in the game and be fully accepted even without having to hide it.
She is nice and flirty because she wants your business. It is quite common - I know guys who had girls (sp) go out of their way to be extra nice to them (clients) for repeat business. At that moment they felt that it was love.
It is probably quite hard to hear this as you are in an emotional trance. Find a way to get out of it as it will hurt more later.
It is probably quite hard to hear this as you are in an emotional trance. Find a way to get out of it as it will hurt more later.
You: Boy. Her: Girl.
What does a person's JOB, have to do with anything?
Follow your heart, wherever it leads you.......
What does a person's JOB, have to do with anything?
Follow your heart, wherever it leads you.......
ThanksAdriana✿;976937 said:
I think what I'll probably end up doing is going to see her again, and if it feels right and if there feels like a potential connection then I'll ask her at the end of the session if she wants to go out for dinner sometime on her day off.
This is about as real as I've read thus far.
The real world is different than a paid session.
Try getting that same gal that you just paid $300 for an hour with to put up with your broke ass when you ain't payin her.
Better yet - try to get her to inconvenience herself for you.
If a gal really cares about you she'll put up with yer shit cuz she see's something worth investing in.
If you are just a means to an end - she will cut the tie & carry one without you when she is finished getting the goods.
Have a happy day!
Thanks for all your contributions too...I really appreciate everyone's contributions.Ok, I've already contributed a lot to this thread, but let me add one more thing
If you ask her out, and she says yet, please be upfront from the very beginning that you would expect her to stop escorting if she wants to date you.
I would never in a million years give up escorting for someone else, and I would be pretty annoyed if I went on several dates with someone and then he just sprung that news on me.
So - here's wishing you the best of luck, but make sure to be honest from the start!
Yes, I would definitely be upfront with her and talk everything through with her. It's only fair to her...I wouldn't want to inconvenience her or anything like that, and even if she felt the slightest bit iffy about going on a date on her day off then I would pull back and not go for it. I'd only want to date her if she felt comfortable with it 100%
Whatswithme, good luck with this issue. If you ask her out and she says yes, and this relationship develops, it will likely be more difficult than any relationship that you've been in before. Just a warning buddy.
I consider myself retired from this hobby...at least for now because of a relationship that I have with an SP. For this, I am really grateful for her.
When I read this thread, I felt the need to give you my 2 cents. There have been many, many threads on this issue on this review board in the past and on other review boards. However, every situation would be different and have its unique circumstances.
I've seen many SPs, including over 40 Foxes from CF. The hobby was for fun and no strings attached encounters. But there have been a couple of times when an SP has asked me out for coffee or drink or dinner off the clock and I've met up with them, but I didn't have the desire to pursue more because I always thought of the hobby as no strings only time.
Five months ago, I met an SP that was fairly new to the business in Vancouver, and for the first ever in this hobby, my attraction to her was beyond the regular hobby/SP encounter - I wanted to get to know her. She quickly became my ATF, and then eventually it was actually her that initiated the first few proper dates, this was months ago.
Then we started to spend our free time together, sometimes, all of hers and all of my free time during a course of the week.
It has been rocky at times, and believe me, it is tough to accept that she continues to be an SP, but I had to accept it in order to make our relationship work.
Fast forward to now, we've become great friends, lovers, and maybe evenutally something even more. Or maybe something will happen and we decide not to continue the relationship. This past week alone, she didn't work that much, I spent nearly half the week with her. In general, we just enjoy each other's company.
She's a wonderfully magnificent person, and her own regular persona is much better than her work SP personality/character IMO. Just saying this because you never know, she maybe quite different when not working, you may like her more, or maybe less. For example, her good and bad reviews on her do not describe what she is really like when she is not working.
But without giving away the details, it isn't easy to maintain the relationship because the line of work she is in. But then again, any relationship isn't easy, and it is what it is. However, I wanted to get to know her, and so far, it was been an interesting ride.
She doesn't like it when I'm on this review board, so I'd better jet!
Good luck with this. I do agree with other posters on this thread that you really should see her again a few times, and see other SPs before you actually ask her out on a proper date.
I consider myself retired from this hobby...at least for now because of a relationship that I have with an SP. For this, I am really grateful for her.
When I read this thread, I felt the need to give you my 2 cents. There have been many, many threads on this issue on this review board in the past and on other review boards. However, every situation would be different and have its unique circumstances.
I've seen many SPs, including over 40 Foxes from CF. The hobby was for fun and no strings attached encounters. But there have been a couple of times when an SP has asked me out for coffee or drink or dinner off the clock and I've met up with them, but I didn't have the desire to pursue more because I always thought of the hobby as no strings only time.
Five months ago, I met an SP that was fairly new to the business in Vancouver, and for the first ever in this hobby, my attraction to her was beyond the regular hobby/SP encounter - I wanted to get to know her. She quickly became my ATF, and then eventually it was actually her that initiated the first few proper dates, this was months ago.
Then we started to spend our free time together, sometimes, all of hers and all of my free time during a course of the week.
It has been rocky at times, and believe me, it is tough to accept that she continues to be an SP, but I had to accept it in order to make our relationship work.
Fast forward to now, we've become great friends, lovers, and maybe evenutally something even more. Or maybe something will happen and we decide not to continue the relationship. This past week alone, she didn't work that much, I spent nearly half the week with her. In general, we just enjoy each other's company.
She's a wonderfully magnificent person, and her own regular persona is much better than her work SP personality/character IMO. Just saying this because you never know, she maybe quite different when not working, you may like her more, or maybe less. For example, her good and bad reviews on her do not describe what she is really like when she is not working.
But without giving away the details, it isn't easy to maintain the relationship because the line of work she is in. But then again, any relationship isn't easy, and it is what it is. However, I wanted to get to know her, and so far, it was been an interesting ride.
She doesn't like it when I'm on this review board, so I'd better jet!
Good luck with this. I do agree with other posters on this thread that you really should see her again a few times, and see other SPs before you actually ask her out on a proper date.
Thanks man. Glad to hear some advice from someone who's dating an SP.
I think I agree that I should probably see her a couple more times...moreso than just the one more time I was thinking about. Aside from the sex being great, it would be a great opportunity to continue getting to know eachother (provided she's not putting on a complete act). She'd at least be able to get to know me, and if she likes me there would be signs.
Seeing other SP's is a good idea too, that way I can see if my feelings are just because I just had sex with her, or if it's because I really think there's something special. Would it be best to avoid the other SP's at her agency, and go with someone else? Or does that even matter?
I had the same impression as Richter: why would she prohibit you to log in to PERB if she is getting FUCKED by us PERBITEs every business day at the office? Just a thought.
Unrealistic
Whatswithme - You have created a bubble and you are spinning around in it. What do I mean?
By seeing an SP, and exchanging money for her services, you have created a situation in which you are getting exactly what you want right away (services) and she is getting exactly what she wants right away (compensation).
In the "real world" this is not how interactions between men and women happen. Normally in order for you to get what you want, it involves dating, spending quality time with, getting to know someone, etc... Only after spending that time over a reasonably long period would an intelligent person even think to consider a relationship with that person as by then you know them well enough to know if you want to spend MORE time them.
You have seen this SP once, shared an intimate experience with her and it's over. The only thing you have spent on her is an hour or so and some cash. Sorry to say, but at best it's infatuation and at worst its obsession.
Now even with that being said, my wife is an SP. I however, never saw her as a client which I think was the winning factor. She told me that if I never "booked her" we never would have gotten together. When you book with someone, I think you cross a line.
Just my two cents.
Whatswithme - You have created a bubble and you are spinning around in it. What do I mean?
By seeing an SP, and exchanging money for her services, you have created a situation in which you are getting exactly what you want right away (services) and she is getting exactly what she wants right away (compensation).
In the "real world" this is not how interactions between men and women happen. Normally in order for you to get what you want, it involves dating, spending quality time with, getting to know someone, etc... Only after spending that time over a reasonably long period would an intelligent person even think to consider a relationship with that person as by then you know them well enough to know if you want to spend MORE time them.
You have seen this SP once, shared an intimate experience with her and it's over. The only thing you have spent on her is an hour or so and some cash. Sorry to say, but at best it's infatuation and at worst its obsession.
Now even with that being said, my wife is an SP. I however, never saw her as a client which I think was the winning factor. She told me that if I never "booked her" we never would have gotten together. When you book with someone, I think you cross a line.
Just my two cents.
This topic has been discussed to death and boredom in several threads. I don't know why it keeps resurfacing. Heres my take on it. Dating often involves the potential that the relationship could evolve into more than just "dating". Things could quickly become serious and end up getting married. Marriage could very possibly lead to the decision to have offsrping which poses the next difficult question. What do you say to your kids when they ask you how you and mommy met? OR What did mommy do when you first met her. These are tough questions to answer for BOTH parties. How do you explain to your children that mommy was a whore and daddy a whore monger.
In my line of work I often entertain clients, sometimes with a SO who Id much rather that my clients and colleagues did not know her website, incall location or hourly rates Just like I do not want them to know which SPs if any I see!
This is not to say I haven't gone out with a good number of strippers and SPs but its always been a more discrete place where I'm highly unlikely to know anyone and vice versa.
This is why IMO us boys and you girls need to compartmentalise hobby vs. civilian banging!
In my line of work I often entertain clients, sometimes with a SO who Id much rather that my clients and colleagues did not know her website, incall location or hourly rates
Just like I do not want them to know which SPs if any I see!This is not to say I haven't gone out with a good number of strippers and SPs but its always been a more discrete place where I'm highly unlikely to know anyone and vice versa.
This is why IMO us boys and you girls need to compartmentalise hobby vs. civilian banging!
Everybody lies. The only variable is about what.
I see your point, but I also don't think too far ahead in terms of marriage. I mean, I've had two serious relationships that each lasted three and two years respectfully. In neither one of them did we really think about marriage. If it eventually progresses to that point then thats when things get discussed. But at this very stage it's someone I've met once and someone who I'd like to get to know on an actual date. Who knows where it goes? It could be just the one date and that's all...or it could be more than one date.In my line of work I often entertain clients, sometimes with a SO who Id much rather that my clients and colleagues did not know her website, incall location or hourly rates
This is not to say I haven't gone out with a good number of strippers and SPs but its always been a more discrete place where I'm highly unlikely to know anyone and vice versa.
This is why IMO us boys and you girls need to compartmentalise hobby vs. civilian banging!
And for the record, incase anyone was wondering...on this one date that I speak of, I'm not expecting any kind of sex at all. What I want to do is ask her out for dinner or something like that where we can really just sit down and chat and get to know eachother.
She is an SP and it sounds like she did a great job. For the hour you spent with her you connected and made you feel like she was totally into you... but it is what it is... She gets paid to do this... She probablly has had this same connection you speak of with several other clients...
Just curious.. how old are you? You need to keep things seperate and face reality. Perhaps this hobby is not for you as you feel this way after seeing one girl. Do you have much experience with girls in regular life outside of pooning? Maybe a regular, non sp, girl would be better suited for you.
This is a trainwreck waiting to happen.... But yes, by all means ask her out, then report back to us, becasue like a major accident, we all cant look away and want to see the aftermath. But good luck!
OH, and another thing... The agnecy who you had your expereince with posts on this board, so there may be a chance they have already read this thread.
Just curious.. how old are you? You need to keep things seperate and face reality. Perhaps this hobby is not for you as you feel this way after seeing one girl. Do you have much experience with girls in regular life outside of pooning? Maybe a regular, non sp, girl would be better suited for you.
This is a trainwreck waiting to happen.... But yes, by all means ask her out, then report back to us, becasue like a major accident, we all cant look away and want to see the aftermath. But good luck!
OH, and another thing... The agnecy who you had your expereince with posts on this board, so there may be a chance they have already read this thread.
I'm aware. I'm also aware that this could end up with me getting hurt or rejected. I mean, the chances are slim that she will say yes, even if all I'm asking for is a simple date. Something casual with no expectations of anything at all. But nonetheless, logic does state that if someone likes someone they should make it known. I think...
It's human nature for people to do what is most beneficial for them. I believe that includes relationships too. When deciding to ask someone out or get involved in s relationship it's because the person believes that this gives them s better life situation.
/philosophical rant lol
