Never done this, but I met a nice girl. Attractive, seems like a decent girl. Not a party girl, is educated, and has some qualities I really like. BUT, she says she wants to wait until marriage to have sex. I doubt I will get married ever, but especially in the next few years (for a bunch of reasons I won't get into). I probably have no reason to date her with that in mind, but what do you guys make of these women? There aren't many left like this. Would you date a woman who wanted to wait until marriage for sex?
dating a woman who wants to wait until marriage?
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We haven't got that far. I'm guessing she is a virgin (she is 23). But that's a good point. Women who fall in the latter category I would automatically skip over. Usually a chick who was a drunk slut, and now has overwealming shame and guilt associated with sex, and now has her legs clamped until you give her a ring. Ugh.
Not a chance. I don't have an issue waiting for a while to have sex so that you can get to know the other person, but sex is too important to leave until after you're married. Would you put off all discussion about childrren until after you're married, or would you want to know what your partner wants beforehand? Imagine if your new wife tells you that she doesn't give head, or she's no good at it and has no desire to get better. That would make for a pretty long marriage.
I'm sure that there are many people out there that wait and some of them are probably happy with their decision, but I think those people are bat-shit crazy.
I'm sure that there are many people out there that wait and some of them are probably happy with their decision, but I think those people are bat-shit crazy.
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Before I met my man, I had a guy chasing me down day and night trying to take me out. I figured he was only interested in sex, so as a way to "test him" to see if he was a stand-up guy, I told him that I typically don't sleep with guys untill a couple months into a relationship. He told me he wouldn't be willing to wait that long and we went out seperate ways. I'm glad I said that to him, because it turns out he was a pig anyways.
Moral of the story: It's not always right, but women do play mind games. She could be testing you, or she could want you to lose interest, as I wanted this guy to lose interest.
Moral of the story: It's not always right, but women do play mind games. She could be testing you, or she could want you to lose interest, as I wanted this guy to lose interest.
I am 27. I don't want kids (ever). I work on the road (most guys I work with are divorced or single, or on their way to a divorce). So, basically I am still very horny and am in a position where it is tough to have a serious relationship, and I am skeptical of marriage. I think this girl is coming from a religious standpoint (christian). Most women want kids which I am ok with provided I don't sire them, or our relationship isn't contingent on me wanting to get married (to have sex). I am probably wasting my time with this one.
Yes!!! I agree with all of the above! I think this is a big red flag, and not only just because of the sex issue. I think it's a clue on a lot of other things to come.
It's one thing to want to wait for a while, especially IF she is a virgin, but to wait until she's married is definitely antiquated and not really realistic in this day and age IMO. I mean, it depends what kind of gf you are looking for, but if you say you don't want kids... I think that she is most likely to want children too.
And if her wanting to wait until after marriage to have sex is for religious reasons, I'd assume she's very religious which might mean she has expectations....do you see yourself going to church every Sunday? Are you religious yourself? If not, that might be a bit much for you.. Are you even the same religion?
Plus, don't married men say the sex goes downhill once you're married? Sounds like you'd be skipping the good-sex part altogether and going straight to the Not-tonight-honey-I-have-a-headache part....
Doesn't sound like such a good deal to me. lol
Ask her if she's will to compromise and give you lots of bbbjtcimnsnq
If not, wave bye bye and walk away.
If not, wave bye bye and walk away.
I think you've got it ass-backwards: the OP doesn't want a virgin for a wife. Read post #1 again.
+1. One of the reasons I hobby; it's pretty common for non-professionals to have hang-ups about sex that make it a lot less fun.
LOL moment...thanks steverino. If I could I would have.
Actually I think on this forum you'd find a lot of married men that say that the sex gets better after marriage...just not with their wife.
Comment on the topic would be that I agree with the testdrive theory. Sex is so individual...we're all different...I think sex before marriage is a must if you want to have a good marriage. There will always be some people that just don't go well together sexually.
