Just curious has anyone here actually dated a SP? I asked this gal out who i knew was working as a SP. Had dinner and when she found out that i knew I never seen her again.
dating a sp?
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I've dated 5 SP's before.
To be honest, it takes a special man to be able to overlook the past and sometimes the present.
Not that there is anything wrong with dating an SP, but you have to really love them to overlook the fact that they are sleeping with other guys.
Plus, while an SP seems to be your perfect match when you are a client, don't kid yourself. During a SP's civilian time, they can be totally different and they are not being paid to make you fantasize that they are your perfect match. The sex may not even be better 'cause some girls don't like doing some things and only do it because you are paying them to.
So to answer your question, it is not impossible to date an SP.
Is it a good idea? Well depends on what the SP is really like as a person and how strong you are to overlook what they do or did. It is not an easy path to follow.
Personally I would say date non-SP's and if you want fantasy sex, be a good client to a good SP.
To be honest, it takes a special man to be able to overlook the past and sometimes the present.
Not that there is anything wrong with dating an SP, but you have to really love them to overlook the fact that they are sleeping with other guys.
Plus, while an SP seems to be your perfect match when you are a client, don't kid yourself. During a SP's civilian time, they can be totally different and they are not being paid to make you fantasize that they are your perfect match. The sex may not even be better 'cause some girls don't like doing some things and only do it because you are paying them to.
So to answer your question, it is not impossible to date an SP.
Is it a good idea? Well depends on what the SP is really like as a person and how strong you are to overlook what they do or did. It is not an easy path to follow.
Personally I would say date non-SP's and if you want fantasy sex, be a good client to a good SP.
I have only dated a stripper, not a SP, but with that there was too much drama for me. Always talking about the other girls, the backstabbing, the ones on drugs, etc. Stripper sex can be hot, but the strings that come along with it suck.
As a former exotic dancer and now an SP, I think that it all depends on the characters and maturity level of those involved. As an exotic dancer...I distanced myself from any BS circles, and placed the focus on MY job.
Now as an SP...I said to myself, I would NEVER date a client...never say never! I am, and much to my surprise it is the best relationship I have had in my life...go figure.
IMO...don't look for it.
"Hits you in the eye, like a big pizza pie...that's amore'."
Now as an SP...I said to myself, I would NEVER date a client...never say never! I am, and much to my surprise it is the best relationship I have had in my life...go figure.
IMO...don't look for it.
"Hits you in the eye, like a big pizza pie...that's amore'."
Well said Lisa. Those are the complicated issues that I alluded to that a man has to be stronger than others about.
I am not saying that you shouldn't date an SP because SP's are people too and some of the ones I dated turned out to be incredible women in personality.
But the issues for me that would occasionally pop up and the fact that emotionally, sometimes the SP is beat up inside over all the people that she works with, can be difficult to deal with.
Of couse the inevitable day also comes forward when friends and family ask that same question "where did you two meet? What do you do for a living?"
Hard to say, "yeah I paid her to screw me, liked her and then decided to date her. By the way she still sees clients right now."
Lying about it doesn't help either because somebody will throw you a question you are not prepared for and eventually the story will likely crack.
Even if the girl isn't an SP now, but used to be, she might be afraid that you will use that as ammunition against her in a future fight (believe me, many women would against you if you were a giggolo) or that you might treat her substandard or as damaged goods or even expect her to act a certain way in the bedroom because you think that making love to an ex-SP should be the same as when you are screwing a paid SP.
Lastly, don't forget that some SP's want to forget the past and bury it forever. If you know, then how can they bury the past?
It is a complicated affair to date a current or past SP. It could be an amazing thing or it could be the most draining experience in your life.
Not saying you should avoid or seek the situation but one thing I would ask you to consider is that an SP is a person inside too and that is not something you just play with.
Only take on the daunting prospect of dating her if you can handle (not just think you can handle) what she did or does. Otherwise when it falls apart because you can't deal with it, you have only hurt her more emotionally and psychologically than she might already be from her job and past experiences. (People don't start emotionally broken, they break due to all the bad experiences in their lives)
I am not saying that you shouldn't date an SP because SP's are people too and some of the ones I dated turned out to be incredible women in personality.
But the issues for me that would occasionally pop up and the fact that emotionally, sometimes the SP is beat up inside over all the people that she works with, can be difficult to deal with.
Of couse the inevitable day also comes forward when friends and family ask that same question "where did you two meet? What do you do for a living?"
Hard to say, "yeah I paid her to screw me, liked her and then decided to date her. By the way she still sees clients right now."
Lying about it doesn't help either because somebody will throw you a question you are not prepared for and eventually the story will likely crack.
Even if the girl isn't an SP now, but used to be, she might be afraid that you will use that as ammunition against her in a future fight (believe me, many women would against you if you were a giggolo) or that you might treat her substandard or as damaged goods or even expect her to act a certain way in the bedroom because you think that making love to an ex-SP should be the same as when you are screwing a paid SP.
Lastly, don't forget that some SP's want to forget the past and bury it forever. If you know, then how can they bury the past?
It is a complicated affair to date a current or past SP. It could be an amazing thing or it could be the most draining experience in your life.
Not saying you should avoid or seek the situation but one thing I would ask you to consider is that an SP is a person inside too and that is not something you just play with.
Only take on the daunting prospect of dating her if you can handle (not just think you can handle) what she did or does. Otherwise when it falls apart because you can't deal with it, you have only hurt her more emotionally and psychologically than she might already be from her job and past experiences. (People don't start emotionally broken, they break due to all the bad experiences in their lives)
When i asked this person out i knew being a SP was just a job to her. I guess it bothered her more than it bothered me.
Nicely thought out D Duk.
Of all my years of pooning, there have been two girls that I got really close to and could have easily dated them, however, we always agreed that we were "business associates" and that any time spent outside of this was strictly on a friendship basis and we did just that - hang out alot.
I personally wouldn't have a problem dating a SP ... you just have to be prepared to make adjustments to your relationship should it blossom and grow ... and I am pretty sure that there will be some hard adjustments that follow.
Of all my years of pooning, there have been two girls that I got really close to and could have easily dated them, however, we always agreed that we were "business associates" and that any time spent outside of this was strictly on a friendship basis and we did just that - hang out alot.
I personally wouldn't have a problem dating a SP ... you just have to be prepared to make adjustments to your relationship should it blossom and grow ... and I am pretty sure that there will be some hard adjustments that follow.
I don't know if I could although there have been a couple through the years (especially lately) that I KNOW FOR SURE I would love to give it a try with. To completely dismiss the notion is wrong because the human wants what the human wants and despite the fact that we are blessed with the ability to reason, physical and emotional attraction is a powerful thing. One thing is for sure; both parties would have to be very secure with themselves to be able to deal with the obvious dangers of this type of relationship. Worth a try? Why not?
this says it all for me and women, sp or not ...
"Solitary Man"
Belinda was mine till the time that I found her,
Holding Jim, loving him.
Sue came along loved me strong that's what I thought,
Me and Sue, that died too.
Don't know if I will but until I can find me,
Girl who will stay and won't play games behind me.
I'll be what I am.
Solitary man.
Solitary man.
I had it to here being where love's a small word,
Paper ring, part-time thing.
I know it's been done having one girl who loves you,
Right or wrong, weak or strong.
Don't know if I will but until I can find me,
Girl who will stay and won't play games behind me.
I'll be what I am.
Solitary man.
Solitary man.
Don't know if I will but until I can find me,
Girl who will stay and won't play games behind me,
I'll be what I am.
Solitary man.
Solitary man.
Solitary man..........
"Solitary Man"
Belinda was mine till the time that I found her,
Holding Jim, loving him.
Sue came along loved me strong that's what I thought,
Me and Sue, that died too.
Don't know if I will but until I can find me,
Girl who will stay and won't play games behind me.
I'll be what I am.
Solitary man.
Solitary man.
I had it to here being where love's a small word,
Paper ring, part-time thing.
I know it's been done having one girl who loves you,
Right or wrong, weak or strong.
Don't know if I will but until I can find me,
Girl who will stay and won't play games behind me.
I'll be what I am.
Solitary man.
Solitary man.
Don't know if I will but until I can find me,
Girl who will stay and won't play games behind me,
I'll be what I am.
Solitary man.
Solitary man.
Solitary man..........
lol the other thing about dating a sp was that we had to eat at the back of a dark restaurant. She never wants to be reconized.
Most of my friends are SP's. I have dated SP's, lived with SP's on two separate occasions, was the boyfriend of a famous SP/madam for 3 years.
It is possible and its no different than dating your average female swinger....except the SP's take you out to dinner more...
It is possible and its no different than dating your average female swinger....except the SP's take you out to dinner more...
i agree that labels suck ... it is the person who matters ...
but i have decided that being solitary is preferable to the crap that i have had in relationships ...
would i date an sp? no ... because i could not do it unconditionally ... end of story.
but i have decided that being solitary is preferable to the crap that i have had in relationships ...
would i date an sp? no ... because i could not do it unconditionally ... end of story.
I have no first hand info on this topic, but I've spoken with one sp about this before. She says she's unable to see anyone seriously due to the fact that she won't lie about her moonlighting in this business, but at the same time holds no respect for a man that knows that she's sleeping with others for money while she's with him.
I can see how it would be difficult for both parties. It makes sense that any woman would feel as though her partner doesn't care if he knows she's regularly out with other men and he doesn't mind - and of course few men would actually welcome that in a relationship.
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I can see how it would be difficult for both parties. It makes sense that any woman would feel as though her partner doesn't care if he knows she's regularly out with other men and he doesn't mind - and of course few men would actually welcome that in a relationship.
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Hmm...dating an SP.
Well, as several others have already mentioned, it's not inconceivable. It would be different, for sure and there would be all kinds of complex issues involved.
Would I do it? Possibly. WOuld depends on who the person in question is when she is off the clock, so to speak.
Well, as several others have already mentioned, it's not inconceivable. It would be different, for sure and there would be all kinds of complex issues involved.
Would I do it? Possibly. WOuld depends on who the person in question is when she is off the clock, so to speak.
